e.buchanan45

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    Hi has your son been diagnosed with anything? So sorry your going through this is the right place to get support and answers you need if you haven’t taken him to a therapist to rule out any symptoms that would be your best place to start also try some incentives to give him when he does something positive and give him praises also use a timer when he’s doing something and needs to finish up. When he hits and throws things he must have a consequence but only for a short duration and then explain to him why he has a consequence. Lastly when watching television what is he watching? That may be a key reason also and he may think it’s normal behavior but using it as a teaching moment to talk about thinking and feeling and right and wrong. Hope this helps

    in reply to: Frustrated, sad, depressed #80152
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    I feel your pain have you considered Looking for a school in your town that specializes in kids with his behaviors? The board of education in your town may have to foot the bill

    in reply to: ADHD and anxiety 7 years old #80147
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    Hi Vince82

    I’m sorry your going through this I know you want the best for son my advice to you would be to first take him to a psychiatrist that specializes in ADHD not the pediatrician I’m sure they mean well but this area is not his expertise and remember doctors from different disciplines have a different take on giving children medications. The tics are definitely a side affect from the medication he is taking and you will have to try different ones until you find the one that best fits like a puzzle piece which a trial an error. My daughter was diagnosed with ADHD the combined type when she was 11 and I understand what your going through

    As far as the school is concerned they will never tell you what your son needs you have to fight for it starting with keeping a notebook of all of his report cards and watch how his academics are being affected once you have evidence that it’s affecting him either behavioraly then ask for a PPT in writing and bring your evidence with you to support why you want him to be tested and make sure you email your concerns that’s your paper trail. Also check with your department education online about parents rights

    Also check understood.org they have tons of resources
    Hope this helps good luck

    in reply to: I'm overwhelmed #73954
    e.buchanan45
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    Thanks so much for your feedback i will definitely look to doing these things

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    Parentcoachjoyce

    Thank you for your response she has been in therapy since 2014 when she was first diagnosed we have tried many medication such as Quillivant XR (horrible experience) Guanfacine (her first) and Daytrona Patch and Concerta we are now taking Metadate CD. She is kind of over therapy and honestly it’s not really benefiting her at all she shuts down and doesn’t talk she’s never shared her feelings with anyone she only feels comfortable talking to me and that’s another reason I’m so burnt out but in order for her to continue to receive medication management she has to continue to see the social worker by-weekly and psychiatrist monthly I even thought about applying for social security to help me be able to get some financial help for her. She had her triennial evaluation in May and she does not look well on paper her IQ score was 72 which makes me sad but I asked for a second opinion but there’s that piece me that understand where her baseline is and why she acts the way she does. I want her to do some research on this website about understanding how her ADHD and ODD affects her

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    boonies1
    I’m so sorry your going through this does he play any sports to get all the energy out? I wish life coaches were paid for with insurance I feel like that would be a big help. I know they say we have keep trying different meds until we find one that fits and also feel like the older they get the meds don’t seem to work what about supplements that’s my next trial thank you for sharing your story

    in reply to: I'm overwhelmed #73504
    e.buchanan45
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    This was very helpful to be able to talk to people who are experiencing the same problem as me. It’s hard for me to talk to my friends about my problems with my daughter because their solutions even though they mean well doesn’t work well for my daughter.

    Thank you all so much!

    in reply to: I'm overwhelmed #73502
    e.buchanan45
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    Wow thank you so much for your feedback. We have done contracts in the past and it’s still on the refrigerator so i will definitely revise it since i have now taken the phone away and made her shut down her Instagram account and say we’re starting from a clean slate going forward

    Again thanks so much

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    Pump2Duncan

    Thank you for your response i have the family base app from Verizon that controls her social media yet she still manages to find a way to remove it from her phone i called Verizon back to let them know but they weren’t very helpful. What app are you using? I monitor everything she has which has now caused me burnout and i don’t feel like therapy has been successful and they know how i feel but i’ve been bringing her for two reasons 1 in order for her to get her meds filled she has to meet with clinician by weekly and psychiatrist once a month now i’m thinking about adding fish oil to her medications

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    Katherin4

    Thank you for responding and i appreciate the feedback but when i want to spend quality time with her like watching a movie or doing something with me she says no all she wants to do is stay in her room and face time her friends and be on social media. I’ve gone as far as getting a family base plan through my phone carrier to monitor and shut off internet access during the school day and she still finds a way to get back on and even open a snap-chat account so many times I’ve lost count. I feel like her friends are laughing at her not with her because she wants to be the class clown but what friend would allow their friend to look bad and my daughters reply to a video she posted to a kid saying “she’s not a snitch call me a thot again and i swear to god your dad is gonna be in my bed” which my last straw

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