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  • in reply to: Struggles working 5 consecutive days #100428
    dlpimental
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    8 to 5, Mon – Fri clinic nurse here. Ditto to everything, ADHDinPGH.

    Overstimulated, sensory overload, stressed, constant complaints and conflict and problem solving…I sometimes crawl to Friday.

    What I’m doing now: Playing “brown noise” on my computer in the background. Òr get the app. I can’t play stress reducing jams at work but no one notices or questions the brown noise.
    Isolate myself on my lunch break–I make it sacred. Total unwind. Phone games or fun or funny youtube vids. Nothing stress inducing.
    Get some contact with nature/sunshine/fresh air. A drive, a walk, a bench sit–whatever.
    Drinking herbal tea–hot or cold. I’m into chamomile, or even kava on the bad days. Any stress blend will do.
    Taking B12. I do 5,000mcg sublingual tabs.
    Exercise. Releases stress. I get up @ 4:30 just to make it fit in my sched. I walk my dogs for 30-45min.
    I need to get a massage once a month. Maybe a full pedi, too! Gotta dangle some kind of carrot, right.

    in reply to: Dealing with other Parents who don't understand #67283
    dlpimental
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    @ mellap711

    Your daughter sounds exactly like me. Extremely shy, sensitive, misunderstood and bullied. I wasn’t diagnosed until I was 47. My life had been filled with fear, stress and hardships. Wish I could have had the support and understanding she is getting now from my parents.
    You are blessed with an early diagnosis and awareness. Please count that ginormous blessing. I think it is awesome.

    All people/children have different gifts and challenges. I think we’re wired to be a certain way for a purpose. We’re not supposed to be cookie cutter people. That’d be not only boring but economically disasterous.

    With my passionate and quick to anger-daughter, instead of strangling her, I try to imagine she may be wired to be some kind of warrior or defender of the needy in some way. Whatever her passion, I’ll do my best to assist her in the way she’ll go.

    As for me, my compassion for people led me to become an RN. A difficult, tortuous miracle for ADHD, but my friend with ADHD is now a nurse practitioner. Sometimes we find a way when we want something bad enough. I hope you can find some hope in that.

    With regards to money…I’m terribke with math and hate it with a passio. My dad had me open my own checking/savings account and with my allowance I
    was allowed to crash & burn and learn life lessons early when the stakes weren’t too high. If that helps anyone.

    in reply to: Dealing with other Parents who don't understand #67101
    dlpimental
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    In my early 20’s, I witnessed my teenage niece lash out at her mom who let it slide…and I remember thinking, I’d never let my kid talk to me like that, lol. I was THAT jerk. Fast forward
    20 years and I have an adopted daughter with ADHD/ODD combo, along with all the anxieties, low self esteem, learning difficulties. In the process I also was diagnosed w/ ADHD. Discovered my aforementioned niece has all the same symptoms, too. Her mom is my biggest support!

    For the record, I do believe in God…and I may not have an easy life (really, who does have a perfect life?)…but I do know I’ve been entrusted with so much and can only celebrate the child I’ve been given, not the perfect one I dreamed of.

    That being said…her future is what she makes of it. She suffers consequences of poor decisions, I don’t protect her from that. I am making tutoring mandatory so I don’t have to nag and do battle with home work. My sanity has been restored. Worth..every…penny! That is one battlefield I will

    But I pick my battles, like my sister-in-law did. I amend alot of
    the discipline gurus teachings–like Love and Logic, I get through emails. The Explosive Child, by Ross W. Green is also an excellent help. I need to download him to my audiobooks for frequent reminders when at the end of my rope and I can’t think straight, note to self.

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