My Forum Comments
July 9, 2018 at 4:22 pm in reply to: New here. 39, psychiatrist assessment next week and nervous #87837
I understand how you feel. I was diagnosed last year as a 45 year old adult Mum of two and was really scared that I would be diagnosed and even more scared that I wouldn’t be! I literally had no idea before my daughter was diagnosed but then I started recognizing the symptoms. I have been very successful at work due to hyper focus and am now trying to address the imbalance in my life.
In the end, when I had the test results it was pretty clear – if you think you are to the point of having this referral, there is likely a pretty high chance you are. The assessment will help you with answers and a way forward. Personally I found the immediate relief to be enormous – I have had a rollercoaster of emotions since then but I finally feel like things make sense and there is a new chapter ahead…still working in that! Medication help a lot but isn’t magic – there is a lot of unlearning a lifetime of coping mechanisms and learning new ways. Good luck and do let know how you get on.
I love love love the TA-DA list idea!!!
Interesting! On paper, I am a successful business woman and mother of two. Behind the scenes is another story. I was diagnosed as dyslexic and ADHD last year aged 45 and my whole life is (and lifelong struggles are) beginning to make sense now!
I am seeing a counselor at the moment and she told me very recently that one of my ADHD strengths is that I can see things from most angles…I consider everything from every angle/viewpoint etc before I make a decision/feel comfortable. This certainly isn’t the case for everything but enough to make your post resonate. The problem is this can ‘paralyse’ me from delivering things as quickly as I’d like to or am expected to as I want to think through more, digest, ask questions. We teach children that asking questions is good – I believe this strongly. It often really shocks me to observe colleagues ploughing ahead without seemingly considering all the facts, possible outcomes. Training is also tricky for others as I have so many questions…
So this is a long way of saying yes I think it is ADHD related and whilst it can be frustrating at times for us and others, it can actually be a strength if we learn to be aware and how to manage it.