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October 15, 2018 at 2:24 pm in reply to: Frustrated I can’t do the most simple things as a mum. Any advice please? #101550
Thank you for sharing. You are not alone, and it is so relieving to know that other parents are struggling, too!
First I agree with some other replies about getting officially diagnosed. I was struggling (and still do) with all of this as a working mom (50+ hours a week) with two kids and couldn’t figure out what was going on until I got diagnosed in my 30s with ADHD. Going on Concerta has helped a lot. It’s not a cure-all but grocery stores do not overwhelm me like they used to.
I still forget the laundry for days at a time and never get enough done around the house but I am trying to remember to say “it’s okay.” For organization, I’ve actually found Pinterest seems to work like my ADHD brain. All the pins and boards are very random and scattered and it’s been a great tool for finding simple meal ideas and trying to use it to narrow down what I need at the grocery store so I don’t wander the aisles and do the pizza for dinner routine! I still end up with pizza one day a week and cheese, crackers and fruit for another meal but I’m up to cooking about 3 healthy meals a week which is much better than I used to do!March 19, 2018 at 6:11 pm in reply to: Managing High Stress/Organized Kid Activities with ADHD #79357
Thank you! I am doing the organization thing (it exhausts me as well). I have some clear totes and buy extra dance supplies at the beginning of the year.
I am already looking at Dream Duffles on ebay because my sanity is worth the cost.
The studio provides photos of the pieces we need and I print those off and make a binder for myself with all the info for the event- schedule, outfits,etc.
I have struggled on two fronts- the studio likes to use Facebook groups as primary communication which are insanely hard to follow and most of the mom’s prefer social media and didn’t want to give me cell info I have one mother’s info.
I need a checklist and info as others have suggested and the studio owner is very nice so I don’t see the suggestion as being unheard. A checklist and not photos would be incredible.
I also am struggling with issues of communication as my ADHD symptoms, if I don’t calm down, will manifest in just blurt things without thought. The stress of adjusting to this has been intense. Add to the fact that my daughter is African American and usually one of a handful of minority dancers at these competitions and the only black dancer on a team at her studio. It makes it hard to explain some of the special circumstances we have (tight color requests, costumes fitting differently because she has matured at a faster rate, hairstyle issues). We’re a multi-ethnic family- I’m white. She’s at the age where she’s embarrassed to note these differences and just wants to fit in and that causes stress with dance, and I have to bring it up.
I am struggling with figuring out if I am being too abrupt and demanding by noting my daughter’s needs and my own. Before we joined this studio I was upfront about the fact we could not pay for expensive hair extensions for every competition and there isn’t anywhere within an hour of where we live that does her hair. I have to put the extensions in which is an all-day project and just adds to the chaos.
The advice on packing, management etc. is so helpful. I just second guess my communication with the parents and teachers. I do let her make mistakes and do as much on her own as I can but the organization required for this is beyond what any 13 year old could no on their own.March 8, 2018 at 12:48 pm in reply to: Managing High Stress/Organized Kid Activities with ADHD #78415
Thanks for the suggestions. I am just getting to know the other parents. Some are very cliquey and judgemental but there appear to be a couple who might be willing to help. We had one competition only so far and it was incredibly stressful but at the next one I’ll reach out to those couple mothers who sympathized.