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Still failing, lots of frustration, lots of tears. She can learn it and understand it very quickly she just can’t seem to get it back out onto paper and gets so frustrated when it’s repeated to her like she is too dumb to understand. She has Been through multiple medication changes that have made her sick, tired, cranky, emotional, and behind in class work. Started vyvanse 2 weeks ago. Watching heart rate closely as it’s making heart rate elevated. They are also Adding buspirone for anxiety. I am Worried about side effects a lot and we’re not making much head way. I am really Grateful vacation is coming up, everyone needs a break. Start over again when we go back in January, we have a very short 504 list and next to no compliance, so frustrating when she is going through so much. Thinking about trying online school for her core classes instead. Do any of you do online schooling with your middle school aged children? Opinions are greatly appreciated.
- This reply was modified 3 years, 4 months ago by cherokeejay. Reason: Added online school query
My husband unfortunately, has spent his time being homeless when he was single. At fifty he is finally realizing he has ADHD pretty severely with the diagnosis of our daughter but still refuses medication and therapy. He thinks he can fix it himself. Unfortunately he still has all his grand schemes, wants a different job and insists he this time will be different. Cannot accept holding a regular job as a success. Trying to support hobbies and other activities but feel like I’m losing ground faster than I’m gaining it. In the meantime I’m trying not to lose perspective with our daughter and get her on a better track.
Ugh it seems like it is never ending, the first quarter is over the grades are barely passing. We’ve had to change meds due adverse reactions and my kiddo isn’t getting anything discussed in the 504 meeting. Makes me feel like I made the wrong choice and should have had her repeat the previous grade, at least that way the struggle would be far less. Things at home haven’t improved either though so we’re still trudging up hill in deep snow in the pitch black without a clue as to where the path lies.
I do not have ADD/ADHD but Everyone else in my house does so you can imagine how it looks. I am disabled and as I became disabled a lot of things changed. It took a long time to get any sort of routine going and even now I have bad days that just kill that routine so I spend a lot of time starting over. Starting over is ok so First accept that maybe not everything HAS to get done and truly prioritize when you make a to do list. Some day I’ll have enough money to pay someone else to dust until then it’s a low priority. Second, minimize some stuff. Getting rid of stuff means there is less to clean up. No little collectibles means I don’t have to dust them. Lastly and this is a flylady tip. Get dressed, like you are going out somewhere. I Wouldn’t want to get my nice shirt all dusty…in all seriousness though It really does help, I do at least twice the housework if I put my clothes and shoes on instead of staying in PJ’s all day.
Just wanted to post an update. Talked with the principal they are willing to advance her as normal(I think it was primarily because I threatened to transfer her to a K12 online program…they’d lose funding and a student who scores as proficient in every area of testing, it’s a small school and would make a difference). It does however come with the condition of not failing any classes this year or she will be held back. Fair enough in my opinion. They are also going to do a 504 with us. I think executive function is a big part of the problem so now that I’ve made it this far does anyone have suggestions of good things to ask for in a 504 that will help my kiddo stay on track and learn to self manage?
Thanks, I’m not sure how much help it will be. The request is very new; the doctor has only seen her once. The doctor has stated that an IEP will be very hard to get but that she will do a 504. In addition we are also doing autism screening. It is my hope that principal will be sympathetic and overturn it as she was hesitant to hold her back in the first place and waited until the very last minute to do so. She simply couldn’t understand my daughters sudden inability to function; in spite of the fact that we had requested help and testing many times previously. She’s too smart for that was the standard answer. I will still ask the school about an IEP. If nothing else I guess we will enroll in online school and request placement testing for a semester. Thanks for the links I need all the preparation I can get.July 18, 2017 at 5:18 pm in reply to: how do I stop beating myself up and start building myself up? #54374
Not an expert and I do not have ADD or ADHD as it’s is now labeled but maybe just start by accepting the diagnosis. My spouse and my daughter have ADHD. I have a different disability. My disability was diagnosed as something else when I was 10 and properly diagnosed in my mid 20’s. I was very much in denial of the proper diagnosis because there is no known cause and no known cure. Just symptoms of varying degrees that come and go, mild in some debilitating in others. I looked for tons of other possible causes before accepting the diagnosis and it’s progression into something that altered my life significantly. I railed against it and the unfairness of it for a long time. I still have the ‘it’s no fair’ and ‘I hate my life like this’ days. I cannot change it though. I can only fight it or accept it. I can only move forward if I accept it and then proceed to deal with it. I treat what I can. I find work arounds for I can’t. It’s a part of me, of who I am. I can’t choose it. So there is No sense in berating myself for being me. I cannot offer much in the way of ADHD advice my daughter is newly diagnosed and though I have suspected it in my husband for a long time he is just now accepting it as a reality in his life. His way of dealing with that tendency to be late or put things off was to train himself to be compulsively early for appoints, however, it does not apply to his motivation and his ability to self motivate is awful. Working from home was the worst choice he ever made because there was no motivation to get to work or go to lunch or get home…in short there was no physically based schedule. For him the changes in location helped him keep his awareness of time. I know it’s not great advice but hope it helps anyway.