My Forum Comments
Hi! I’m 31 and 2 years ago, I stumbled across some articles that sounded like me too! My story reads pretty much like yours except for j was labeled the psycho tantrum kid in school. I had a very similar discussion with my GP too!!! It makes me a bit angry remembering how vulnerable I was, crying and telling him about what was to me, a revelation and a relief. Laundry,clutter,losing things, always behind with the basics,forgetful!!! Hyperfocus, emotional misdiagnoses, overeating. I almost lost my job when I went through a rough patch in my marriage and the stress sent my symptoms through the roof.The “nornal” things like yes,phone calls, seem insurmountable. But I knew in my gut that combination ADD type was right. Knowing, and medication have changed my life. I have a 4yo and 2mo and made it through pregnancy on a half dose 2 days a week (I only work 2 days,I had to drop my hours as I wasn’t coping), and now I’m breastfeeding I dont take any medication. But just KNOWING I have ADD has helped me immensely. Especially with my confidence and giving myself more Grace instead of beating myself up. You’d think having a newborn would make things worse but that’s where my add and hyper focus help. I love babies and newborns so I am loving it and doing so well (like i did with my first and now i know why!!!). Stresd is a b**** though. I dread anything like that happening again as it has taken me 2 and a half years to get back to my “normal”… good luck, persevere, believe in yourself and look for the good in your ADD traits. And only tell people you know will get it spit is just exhausting explaining it otherwise. I saw a locum GP once when I had an ear infection… I mentioned ADD and he just GOT IT. About it being different in women and how amazing it is a got through high school and a degree with it.. and not knowing… I got in the car after that and bawled my eyes out. Being understood at such a level… luckily my boss is incredible and also “GOT IT” when I told her. She did everything she could to make things work for me… I’m so positive about the ffutre xox good luckchellengingParticipant
I can relate to that fear. I suspected ADHD when I was about 20 but let someone persuade me I was wrong. Similar story to yours and the lady above who wrote about her own experience and made an account just to come and tell you her story and encourage you. Knowing I have ADHD now (diagnosed 12 months ago after reading an article on this website which pretty much sounded exactly like my life) and my life is getting back on track. I understand now why I’m so intelligent yet couldn’t fallow through on anything. Forgetful,messy,blah blah blah. Affecting home and work life to the point I had to tell my boss I couldn’t keep up with my job. As soon as I said I think I have ADD,my boss goes “aaaah”. A lot made sense for her about me then too! Luckily my boss has stood by me and supported me in the 2 years it has taken to get on track. My mood has lifted significantly (I correctly diagnosed with depression a number of times, medication didnt work because I forgot it all the time but it also was not what I needed), my confidence has returned. I understand so much about myself and I’m a lot kinder to myself. People generally dont understand, including my own family. My husband had to do a lot of reading to really get it but knowing has changed out lives.
My 4yo son is recovering from the 2 years I spent stressed etc and this is my biggest regret, that my spiralling affected him. However I highly highly encourage you to get assessed. My GP (general medical doctor on New Zealand) did not want to refer me to a specialist for assessment but I insisted. Best thing I ever did.
I’m 31 and feeling so much more positive about life because I KNOW myself. I dont have to wonder why I’m so smart but cant keep up with “the basics” of life,that others do so effortlessly…