My Forum Comments
May 25, 2018 at 5:20 pm in reply to: If you're not your ADHD, who are you and how are you similar to neurotypicals? #84975
I’ve thought a lot about this exact question. The conclusion I’ve reached is that there is no distinction between “you” and “ADHD” because ADHD is part of you.
The basic structure of my brain is different from neurotypicals, so at the most basic levels it just works differently. It’s like you’re running a different operating system, but all the instructions you can find are for the other ones. But the content of your brain is completely your own, even if the way it’s reached and the way you use it are totally different. Your values, likes, dislikes, and idiosyncrasies fill in the details of your ADHD based brain.
For your other question, my answer is that that’s because things ARE much harder for you. That’s part of ADHD. But accepting that things are hard for you is different from accepting that there are things you can’t do. The former is necessary, and the latter is defeatist.
I hope that made sense, and I hope it helped
Yeah, we do that. It’s fine. We’re fine
Sometimes I scream because I’m scared and frustrated and everything is closing in and so I start screaming and I run to my room to cry. I exhaust myself crying, and then I need comfort from my parents even though I was just screaming at them. it’s not intentional disrespect, it’s an expression of uncontrollable emotion.
At least for me, that’s the case
You are not a failure. You’re a human being, which means that you will make mistakes, but the fact that you care so much proves that your neither a bad person or a neglectful parent.
That is not ADHD. We do interrupt, but we don’t shut down others opinions. We do forget to text, but we don’t go years without it out of spite. Your partner is simply an a$$hole
My advice is to cry. I’m 15, and also overly sensitive. When you need to cry, cry. Its painful to not cry when you need to
If you don’t feel safe crying, find someplace like your bed
I didn’t mean to reply to this response, I meant to reply to the whole thread
well, I’m incredibly frustrated with parents yelling at their kids over and over, convinced that we are somehow trying to spite them by not doing things that are SO EASY for your neurotypical brains. I would normally try to patiently explain this, but maybe I should just try the jmama0307 approach instead and curse and yell at you for being frustrated.
Do you have ANy idea how much you’re hurting your child? Every scream, every curse, sounds to us like you’re saying, over and over again “you’re worthless. I hate you. Fuck you” every mistake becomes a catastrophe. You have no idea
- This reply was modified 4 years, 5 months ago by carlandrea.
It will get easier. Middle school is the worst everMay 5, 2017 at 2:43 pm in reply to: Is it beneficial for the child to know they have ADHD? #47501
Yes! Knowing I have ADHD has helped me so much with my self esteem issues. I know that I’m not stupid or just a failure, I have a medical condition that makes a lot of things really hard for me