carlandrea

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  • carlandrea
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    I’ve thought a lot about this exact question. The conclusion I’ve reached is that there is no distinction between “you” and “ADHD” because ADHD is part of you.

    The basic structure of my brain is different from neurotypicals, so at the most basic levels it just works differently. It’s like you’re running a different operating system, but all the instructions you can find are for the other ones. But the content of your brain is completely your own, even if the way it’s reached and the way you use it are totally different. Your values, likes, dislikes, and idiosyncrasies fill in the details of your ADHD based brain.

    For your other question, my answer is that that’s because things ARE much harder for you. That’s part of ADHD. But accepting that things are hard for you is different from accepting that there are things you can’t do. The former is necessary, and the latter is defeatist.

    I hope that made sense, and I hope it helped

  • in reply to: My child doesn't stick with the group #68231

    carlandrea
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    Yeah, we do that. It’s fine. We’re fine

  • in reply to: Running out of patience.. #63032

    carlandrea
    Participant

    Sometimes I scream because I’m scared and frustrated and everything is closing in and so I start screaming and I run to my room to cry. I exhaust myself crying, and then I need comfort from my parents even though I was just screaming at them. it’s not intentional disrespect, it’s an expression of uncontrollable emotion.

    At least for me, that’s the case

  • in reply to: Always screwing up #63031

    carlandrea
    Participant

    You are not a failure. You’re a human being, which means that you will make mistakes, but the fact that you care so much proves that your neither a bad person or a neglectful parent.

  • in reply to: Adhd or just being mean #48267

    carlandrea
    Participant

    That is not ADHD. We do interrupt, but we don’t shut down others opinions. We do forget to text, but we don’t go years without it out of spite. Your partner is simply an a$$hole

  • in reply to: I get depressed so easily #48079

    carlandrea
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    My advice is to cry. I’m 15, and also overly sensitive. When you need to cry, cry. Its painful to not cry when you need to

    If you don’t feel safe crying, find someplace like your bed

  • in reply to: Feeling Like a Failure #47502

    carlandrea
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    It will get easier. Middle school is the worst ever


  • carlandrea
    Participant

    Yes! Knowing I have ADHD has helped me so much with my self esteem issues. I know that I’m not stupid or just a failure, I have a medical condition that makes a lot of things really hard for me

  • in reply to: I’m trying but I’m done. #47512

    carlandrea
    Participant

    I didn’t mean to reply to this response, I meant to reply to the whole thread

    well, I’m incredibly frustrated with parents yelling at their kids over and over, convinced that we are somehow trying to spite them by not doing things that are SO EASY for your neurotypical brains. I would normally try to patiently explain this, but maybe I should just try the jmama0307 approach instead and curse and yell at you for being frustrated.

    Do you have ANy idea how much you’re hurting your child? Every scream, every curse, sounds to us like you’re saying, over and over again “you’re worthless. I hate you. Fuck you” every mistake becomes a catastrophe. You have no idea

    • This reply was modified 2 years, 4 months ago by  carlandrea.
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