BlackADDer

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  • in reply to: ADHD fiance and sexting #124126
    BlackADDer
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    I think your issues here are not about ADHD; they are about trust.

    Someone with a diagnosis of ADHD is not just an ‘ADHD Person’. The can (and will) present with other conditions or disorders that may also be complicating or even worse. I would say that depression and substance abuse are the main ones, but you can also have bi-polar depression and personality disorders too. People who have low self-esteem may be also looking for situations where they can get some validation of themselves, narcissistic people are always looking for people to find them attractive and worthy of love, sociopathic people have both poor impulse control and no feelings of remorse, the list goes on.

    I would not just take out one known and consider it the only factor involved. Maybe the slip-ups here are a way for you both to accept that there is a clear issue around communication and trust and confront that. I hope this does not sound to judgemental or harsh.

    BlackADDer
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    I can only find two suppliers of these medications in my country; Novatis (for Ritalin) and Jannsen-Cilag (for Concerta).

    This apparent lack of choice is deceptive as the mechanism involved keeps the costs of all vital pharmaceuticals to a minimum for the patient.

    I have a regular supply of a 100 x 10ml Ritalin. The maximum I can be charged for it is $29.50 AUD. For higher doses the maximum cost is $40.30 AUD.

    If I was a pensioner or on a government benefit, I would only pay the same for any prescription I receive from a GP; $6.50. I do not have to shop around as that is the same for all pharmacies everywhere. But the option of obtaining a supply from a bordering country is zero, there are none.

    in reply to: Looking for help/advice…. #123275
    BlackADDer
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    I hope this will help. The important part is:

    ‘the average ADHD child is 30% behind their age’ ie they are showing the emotional age of someone much younger.

    in reply to: ADHD never been a good thing for me #123280
    BlackADDer
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    ADD is a condition that predisposes us to inattention and impulsiveness. When you honestly sit back and assess that, you can’t say for certainty that it made you more or less employable or a ‘better’ friend or partner. If you wanted to fly Navy jets or be a rodeo clown you just don’t have the brain to do that as there is no margin for errors due to distraction.

    I don’t see that being ‘creative’ should be a pejorative in the workplace. Then again I don’t know what kind of field you work as an engineer. If it happens to be in building nuclear power plants or space-craft, see above for that advice as they too have no room for error*. I have found that what I can do is combine a wider grouping of ideas, concepts and practical knowledge together to find solutions. As my mind is not always on a single path or rut I frequently find that the stuff bleeding into it offers ways to do things that may not be conventional, but a good fit. The best way I can describe that is I am always looking for solutions that have the least amount of ‘moving parts’, cutting out the processes or variables that will make a task mindlessly repetitive or require more oversight.

    This may be of interest to you. My field of expertise is Information Management (not IT, working with data) and I find that having tasks that are not project-based works best for me. Ones that require problem-solving on demand and getting clients’ expectations to be reasonable based on the resources and time available.

    *if you ever feel that you might have made a really careless error at work, read up on the story of ‘The Demon Core’ AKA what NOT to do if you have 14 lbs of sub-critical plutonium lying around in your workplace

    BlackADDer
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    Some member of my family phones to remind me. At best I tell people that they need to remind me or get back to me before it becomes a crisis.

    That is about it. There is no method for me to organise or arrange my time at home or at work. Pen and paper just mean that I lose it in the rest of the piles of paper I have around the place. Electronic devices or online apps mean I can do that even more effectively as there is no physical artefact to lose, misfile or just plain ignore. I think I could have a person following me around TELLING me what to do and it would still come unstuck.

    Simply put; if it is not up and in my face, it will not get attended to.

    I am nearly 60 years old and totally incapable of doing something like creating a list and sticking to it. Hell, I am usually incapable of remembering that I even HAVE a list. I am that rocky reef where the expectations of parents, teachers and managers has hit and then sunk without a trace.

    I know this may not be a useful answer to some people. However, to some others it may be a relief to know that they are NOT the only person in the world who has had to give up on being ‘organised’.

    in reply to: Please help – judgment and decision-making at work #122968
    BlackADDer
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    I have found that it is next to impossible to commit to performance-based indicators for work performed. That means I have gravitated to roles that tend to be open-ended. The usually are ones that aren’t project-based and rely on providing support roles across the organisation, where you have no fixed or time-based goals. Right now, I am providing a help-desk support to a mediumish-sized local government agency. There is a primary need to provide operational advice and fixes on-demand, not to arrange to work to a plan.

    Saying that however, I have always found that if I provide enough evidence-based results to bosses that there is a minimal risk of having conflict with line-managers. That means having to provide a regular report on activities and outcomes and reporting on ‘extras’, items that have come up and may or may not be resolved. I have had to invent some methods of quantifying things that take place that aren’t even obvious to others and find metrics that are suitable to make an impression. A monthly report with clear graphics and a comparison between previous months or other periods means that you have solid evidence that work is taking place and can be measured.

    I am hoping that this is of some use. If you are required to also direct and monitor the work of others, I’d suggest looking to other supervisory staff that have a rep as being honest performers – not just stars or those who are the best performers. You need to have their advice on how to deal with difficult situations or difficult staff as that can be the worst problems. Ones where you have to maintain a regular focus and constantly monitor someone. Not our strong points as we tend to BE that person.

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