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  • in reply to: Old Age and ADD #78038
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    Donsense: Thanks for your detailed description of your ADD issues, and I had to laugh because I think we can all identify with your issues. It sounds like you’ve been recently diagnosed. Have you thought about coaching? Meds can only do so much, but should be helpful in aiding you to create some new habits. It takes time, and you need to work on just changing one habit at a time, and be accountable to someone, preferably a coach.
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    I’m in my 70s, not diagnosed until my mid 50s. I’ve slowly (very slowly!) developed some habits and found tools that help me. Examples: Online banking, such a lifesaver in that I now pay all my regular bills the first of the month (when SS and pension checks come in), don’t have to go searching for envelopes and stamps, and can also see my bank balance at any time of the day or night. 10 years ago I had student loan debt, late charges galore, finances were a mess.
    I hired a house cleaner, finally admitting that I am not capable of keeping up my house after 30 plus years of trying.
    I use my Iphone for reminders for everything, even TV shows that I want to watch. I also save information that I may need (example: a list of my meds to give to any doctor’s appointment is stored in my phone). I put sticky notes on my door in the evening to remind me of what I need to take with me in the morning. Eyeglasses: I have extra drug store glasses stored in my house in a drawer, and a couple of pairs in my car.
    I’ve also found that meditation and simplifying my life are important. I have a meditation ap on my phone, and try to remember to do a short 5 or 10 minute meditation in the A.M. And just living simply, slowly getting rid of clutter a few pieces at a time, trying to become very lean in terms of belongings.
    Is my life perfect? No way, I procrastinate badly and still forget things, have trouble with unstructured time now that I’m retired. But like to think I’m a work in progress and still try to develop some new strategies to stay on track.
    Oh, and exercise…when I remember to go to Planet Fitness or take a walk when weather is good. Still working on getting myself to regularly exercise, but it’s so easy to talk myself out of it. Which is silly because I feel so much better afterwards.

    in reply to: job interview hell #51705
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    Hi, here are some tips. I’m a career counselor, have ADD, and also am not a very good interviewer 🙂

    Practice, practice, practice. Google a list of frequently asked questions and develop good answers, using only 4 or 5 sentences to answer the question. We are prone to ramble, so by preparing answers ahead of time and organizing our thoughts you’ll be less likely to do so.

    Pause before you launch into answering a question, put your thoughts together first.

    ALWAYS be prepared for the “tell me about yourself”, which often is one of the first questions asked. It’s easy to ramble on this question, so develop an “elevator speech” type of answer, a summary of your qualifications for the position, that you can express in just a few sentences.

    Develop 5 or six stories about yourself that are examples of your “soft skills”. Again, keep the stories short and organized. These stories can be used reply to those difficult questions, such as “tell me about how you solved a problem” “give me an example of how you are a team player”. Practice, practice, practice.

    This may not work for everyone, but it helps me if I write down those stories and answers. The process of writing them down helps to plant them in my brain.

    Practice by yourself, practice with another person, use a career counselor from your college or hire a career coach to do a “mock interview” and get feedback. The more you practice, the less anxiety you will feel before and during the interview.

    It’s OK to ask an interviewer to repeat a question, once, maybe twice….but no more!

    If you start off answering a question and get off track, say “sorry, I’m rambling a bit, may I start over again?”

    in reply to: Unemployed and Afraid to Find New Work #48877
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    Hi! It’s totally understandable that you are nervous about the next step. So I’d suggest taking it in small steps. Could you find an ADD coach that has career coaching experience (or a career coach that is knowledgeable in ADD)? Discussing what works for you, and what doesn’t, with a professional can help to set your priorities in terms of a job, and keep you accountable regarding your next steps.
    Also, the Vocational Rehab in your state offers free services and sometimes can help you with retraining. Also, more and more Voc Rehab agencies are connecting with ADD coaches, and can refer you for some free coaching.
    In the short term, could you do temporary work? short gigs found on Craigslist?? to bring in some cash. Have you ever thought of Merchandising, where you place products in stores like greeting cards? You can do it on your own schedule (within reason, obviously). I also wonder if checking back with your doctor regarding meds can help.
    Get some help with your resume, and if it’s difficult, go to one of the agencies in your area that assists jobseekers for free (in our area they are called “One-Stops”. Your resume should only list the jobs where you had a satisfactory experience, not the jobs where you were let go.
    Lastly, can you talk to some people that you’ve worked for, or worked with, to get their take on your strengths and skills? We ADDers arent’ always very self-observant!!

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