My Forum Comments
One day, spur-of-the-moment, I bought a pet bird to give my mom, sister, and I something to focus on instead of each other. We are all on the Highly Sensitive spectrum and possibly ADD. (I’m the most effected). Having something outside of ourselves/each others’ flaws has saved our little family.
It isn’t exactly what you are talking about, but having such a major hobby worked to keep my “crush tendencies” at bay. I would get crushes on boys, and later, men. Eventually I figured out that if a person “survived” my crush on them that we had good friend potential.
Beyond bird #2 (I’d had a parakeet as a pet before my sister was born), I bought #3 to keep #2 company. People found out and we started adopting unwanted birds. Lots of birds. No time for pretend romances for me- I was in love with the “babies”.
Kerry- I figured that was an “oops”, but I will respond anyway…Do you do your grocery shopping when everyone else in town does, or are you going when it typically isn’t as busy and still getting exhausted? **I think anyone-not just ADDtypes- could get exhausted with every other cart bumping into you/yours or too many screaming children. I think too many people are too preoccupied to realize that they are becoming tired of the chaos.**
On the flip side, when decluttering, cleaning, etc., is it too quiet? I have to have a radio on when I’m inside doing those activities or else the silence makes my head buzz. If I really need to concentrate on important papers, I still have something on, just with the volume way down. Unless I feel differently on a random day. I don’t have TV anymore and I miss having that on.
Hi. Are you boxing things up just to box them up, or are you separating by category, like donate/toss(to actually take a trip out to the trash…asap)/etc?
I recently cleaned out my deceased father’s house. There really wasn’t a better way to deal with his stuff than to sort it on-the-spot and deal with it. Some things like “important papers” went home with me to go thru in relative comfort. Some days I started out with a run to Goodwill, others a recycling center run. Not that you have that kind of mess, but every day I saw progress…and that felt good. On days I woke up lazy, I reminded myself about that positive feeling.
For what clutter I have (of my own) there are days/hours/minutes when I “get brutal”, meaning I “just do it”… Articles of places I’d like to visit and can realistically vs. “by the time I’ll be able to go there I can google it” recycling bag filler. Socks sorted. Undies culled. Usually a little at a time, otherwise I will get overwhelmed and frustrated and lose motivation.
Have you tried giving him an air purifier? Just an idea.
I was like that, except I am female and we didn’t have so many distracting gadgets back then. Fortunately, we lived close to the school (for that last-minute dash) and I was too involved in activities (guilt trip) to miss too much. I’m thinking an air purifier, or even a fan, might have helped. One year for Christmas I was given an alarm clock with really big (distracting) red numbers and no volume control. (No other gifts, not even socks.) Not only did that not work, it and my level of non-sleep reminded me constantly of how horrible I was.
Enough said, thanks.
I was a teen with braces and undiagnosed SPD. A “prickly pear”. (I also needed glasses around the same time, so I was a real cutie!)
I’d say wait as long as possible, in case of a growth spurt. This will give him time to learn tools to manage discomfort and frustrations.
My family was/is pretty dysfunctional but I’ll share what I wished for/know now:
Buy those fuzzy-tipped flossers and small toothbrushes. String floss won’t be a good option. Make oral care as easy and fun as possible.
Make eating as tolerable as possible for the most painful times after adjustments, which I think lasted about 2 or 3 days…it was a long time ago! Unfortunately, mac-n-cheese and nut butters are orthodontic disasters. Soup. [Thinly-sliced candy bar (for a treat that can melt on the tongue- like a 3 musketeer).] Jello. Smoothies if using a straw doesn’t hurt. Peeled grapes. (I did that! Sometimes I still do- I have food quirks.) Peas. Yogurt. Little stick pretzels.
Hugs. Or at least just being there. And a long-sleeved shirt for chilly offices.