My Forum Comments
July 25, 2018 at 8:24 am in reply to: New here. 39, psychiatrist assessment next week and nervous #89297
I know exactly what you mean. I went through the same thing. I’m 29, and before February it had never been suggested to me that I have ADHD. I did poorly in a class and a teacher just assumed I had it and at first I was a little offended that she would suggest I have ADHD, but then I did some research and i felt like all of a sudden my entire life made sense. When the day i went to my clinician for the results of my test came, I was a nervous wreck. I was so afraid that he was going to say that I didn’t have ADHD and I had no idea what I was going to do after I had felt that I found an explanation for why I behave the way I do.
I saw your update. What a relief! I was actually diagnosed with about the same thing: ADD/ADHD combo, panic disorder and possible depression that needed to be ruled out. How do you feel now?May 18, 2018 at 12:10 am in reply to: Is it possible to have ADHD if neither of your parents have it? #84494
I would think so. I was just diagnosed a few months ago and I’m almost 30 years old and to my knowledge no one in my family has been diagnosed, either. I don’t think it’s a very uncommon situation. My generation was the first generation to really get diagnosed with ADHD, and that was mostly boys. Women are more likely to be diagnosed as adults because they find out that their child has it. Also, women are often misdiagnosed with a mental or emotional disorder instead of ADHD, so if you have any female family members who struggle with something like bi-polarism, she might be misdiagnosed and actually have ADHD.
So, there are tons of reasons why your or no one in your family has been diagnosed formally. It doesn’t mean you don’t have it.
Also, something that I read gave me the feeling that ADHD can be genetic but doesn’t have to be.
Hey, I’m sorry this has happened to you. Maybe you should consider speaking with a lawyer? You have rights under the Americans with Disabilities act. You have the right to a non-hostile work environment. The behavior of your manager and coworkers is unacceptable and so is HR’s response that they can’t do anything about pens being thrown at you. Your employer has a responsibility to protect you from any sort of physical violence from people in positions of power over you, from sexual assault and harassment to having things thrown at you. If this were a sexual harassment claim HR wouldn’t brush it off like that. If you are at the point where you come home crying, something is wrong, and it’s not you. You have the right to stand up for yourself. You are not the issue here. Don’t let them tell you that you’re overreacting or that you can’t take a joke. You don’t have to live like that.
Sorry if that sounds pushy. I know that sometimes people blame themselves, or that they don’t want to make waves. I do that sometimes. I just want you to know that you are not the issue. They are. And if they treat you like that, they will treat other people like that, too. You are not at all causing a problem by speaking up, you’re solving it. I hope that helps and I hope it gets better.