AutumnDraidean

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  • in reply to: Shopping ADHD evaluations #135930

    AutumnDraidean
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    Another example of shell game. A listing in Psychology Today that seemed to indicate a provider in my region. I left an e-mail and was called on a shakey cell phone connection by a woman with a heavy accent. I don’t normally mind an accent but the cell connection was too much. Hopefully we can continue the conversation via e-mail but I’m a little leery that this provider does not in fact have an office in my area. They said that they don’t have any office openings and were pushing on-line sessions…I couldn’t hear the initial price because of the shakey cell connection but follow-ups are $200 an hour. I just can’t wrap my brain around that price for never meeting someone in person.

    I am also angry that this came up in a search when there’s a good possibility there isn’t an office in my town. (The actual office is 100 miles south) If that’s true I’m mad at Psychology Today.

    Maybe I’m wrong, but this feels hinky, lets see if they e-mail me.

  • in reply to: Shopping ADHD evaluations #135926

    AutumnDraidean
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    Nice idea, and $150 is cheap, the cheapest I’ve seen is ~$200 for two sessions but they can’t tell me how many sessions my daughter will need.(aggravating because this practice has counseled her in the past, I guess therapist records aren’t like other medical records.They are also insisting on a new soup to nuts intake.) She’s 19 by the way.

    Also this site doesn’t see NYS above Albany, or Burlington Vt. or even Montreal Canada. I’ve found some places but have been suffering this shell game and I’ve also been begging this site to expend their directory outside of urban areas and into Canada!

    We will get it figured out…but it’s still infuriating! I’m ADHD myself and even medicated, this is administrative torture! The steps are not hard, but the lack of definitive answers is.


  • AutumnDraidean
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    The FDA has become a paper tiger. Read Katherine Eban’s book “Bottle of Lies”
    I’m sorry everyone is suffering so.

    Greed is killing us all!

  • in reply to: Meds not working anymore #135790

    AutumnDraidean
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    Is it a generic Concerta? If so, can you try a different manufacturer. Often somewhere on the bottle there’s a notation of what manufacturer it is, see if another pharmacy has a different version?

  • in reply to: I get frustrated with fake adhd #135789

    AutumnDraidean
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    When you get into this mentality that some people are faking ADHD you get into some dangerous waters. Some people compensate until they don’t. Some of us have white knuckled through our lives and careers never coming close to our full potential. Others, who are severely affected are dropped from clinics on the slightest miss step.

    I recently went on a med, but I think I need a higher dose, I’m scared spitless to ask though, afraid I’ll be painted as a drug seeker, even though I wasn’t put through the routine where the med is increased until side effects are seen, then backed off. Why am I scared? because I’m about to meet a new NP and I have no idea if she knows or is interested in ADHD. I don’t have any other place to go, the local psychiatrist won’t prescribe ANY controlled substances.

    Other people are expected to pay thousands of dollars out of pocket to get tested. Is it really THAT hard? I don’t think it should be. I’m trying to get my 19 year old diagnosed and wow, there are so very few resources and dog help you if you don’t live in a densely populated area!

    So please don’t go around saying that, just because other people can white knuckle it, that people are faking ADHD diagnoses… It’s disrespectful and cruel. Providers are being jerks because they have poor training and are trying to put out 3 alarm fires with garden hoses.

  • in reply to: It's time for me to send my odd teen away.. Help! #135785

    AutumnDraidean
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    I regret that without geographical information it may be hard to answer your plea, however I’ve had more than one thread here feel like hollering down a rabbit hole, so I will add my thoughts.

    In the US there should be IEPs and 504s backing up your journey with your son. Scarily it may be hard to get him placed into residential care without school district help. It’s your school district I would start with, in the US anyway.

  • in reply to: Thoughts on this generic brand? #131850

    AutumnDraidean
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    You can start by asking where the med was made, US/Canada/Europe, or India, China…

    Also read Bottle Of Lies… Everyone should read this book!

    But which med is it supposed to be?

  • in reply to: Uneducated Doctors #131849

    AutumnDraidean
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    You don’t say where you are located.

    It took me a couple of tries before I found a mental health clinic that could help me. I’m in far northern NYS, like Montreal PQ is two hours drive from where I live. The closest ADHD specialists listed here are in Albany NY, 2 hours and 30 minutes drive from me. There’s NOTHING listed in Burlington VT! (Where I would normally go for specialist care)

    I didn’t find help thru ADDitude, I just started calling local mental health clinics until I started having an e-mail interaction with an intake person who understood what I was trying to do. First I was told about a local psychiatrist but during my intake with them they explained that they do not prescribe ANY controlled substances. Ummmmm how can I trust a psychiatrist who knows so little about ADHD that they are trying to treat it with only second and third line options? I know it’s a pain in the touchas to be able to write scripts for controlled substances…but just say you don’t do ADHD!

    Find the mental health practitioners in your area and start calling around. It’s going to take some time and you will need patience and perseverance. I started with asking about “Medications and support groups for adults with ADHD.” I still haven’t found a support group. Therapy is meh…I understand what I should be doing apart from meds…actually doing it is another matter…but now I have an attention span and that helps a lot.

    You may well need to find a different primary care doctor but sometimes that’s easier said than done. I didn’t have “a doctor” for years!

  • in reply to: 've had it! #131611

    AutumnDraidean
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    Fedup I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. I would recommend counseling for you, so you can talk frankly and at length with someone about your situation and perhaps learn what options you really have going forward. Does your son have services outside of school with an ARC type agency? Even if he doesn’t currently they might be able to help you explore options.

    Don’t concern yourself with “helping” your husband. It should be all about you, how you can cope and plan for your future, regardless of whether you stay with your husband or you leave.

    RPGW sweetheart, you are in an abusive relationship. Don’t kid yourself, my husband runs the money because its his jam. I don’t have to ask for money ever. Sure we have the odd stupid fight, but then one of us sees reason and it does vary who lets go.

    Look for your local “Stop Domestic Violence” project and they will hook you up with counseling support and information. If you do couples counseling and he makes it all about you, STOP, full stop with couples counseling. Just get your own counseling and support. Two places to start
    https://www.crisistextline.org/textline?gclid=Cj0KCQjwoqDtBRD-ARIsAL4pviDGh4UO9MfoUrFZ6I2IdRPqOp2ljbQYHoMAxJk6S2f-Tg60vqCile0aAtfjEALw_wcB
    and
    https://www.domesticshelters.org/help#?page=1

    You don’t need to be ready to leave and you don’t have to be beaten to be abused and contact these folks. Financial abuse is domestic abuse!

    I’m sorry this is happening to you.


  • AutumnDraidean
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    Maybe the latest script is garbage. Where was it manufactured, can you bring them the bottle and they’ll take a pill and send it off to be analysed?

  • in reply to: Flaky friend – or am I too demanding? #131610

    AutumnDraidean
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    Testingtesting, yeah, that one friend who’s radically late has multiple issues of her own that preclude holding down a job. She lives ~300 miles away so day to day she’s not an issue…more like an example.

    The one who blows me off on purpose lives locally and I am polite to her and we laugh, joke and complain when we run across each other. I refer to her in my head as “My Favorite Narcissist.” I will NOT make plans with her and I’m careful what I say around her.

    She figures into why I quit a job(by no means the only reason) and won’t apply to the place she now works.

  • in reply to: Can ADHD get worse with age, menopause or stress? #129478

    AutumnDraidean
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    Hummingbird I’m sorry about your casserole! in my house we sometimes do “Dinner is cancelled, forage for yourselves!” but my youngest is 13 so…

    Are you seeing an endocrinologist for your thyroid issues? Often times regular primary care providers are playing cookbook medicine, they know just enough…but not quite.

    I learned early to stick with endocrinology for that very reason. I also had a little bout with thyroid cancer and learned a bit how being radically hypothyroid felt for me. After I had my thyroid removed I had an iodine ablation which works best if your TSH is very high. I went off my thyroid med on 3 separate occasions for testing and the actual ablation. It made me feel slow, sleepy and sore, if I made any sudden movement my muscles would hurt from it. I wanted to do things but I couldn’t quite muster up the will to do them. It of course made my natural procrastination behaviors that much worse. I also had recombinant (artificial) TSH for a test, I felt fine initially, then after 45 minutes I felt like I’d been hit by a crosstown bus! If you ever have that, bring a driver!!

    For frame of reference, I take 200 micrograms of synthroid a day. during my childbearing years I was on 250, that started when I was pregnant with my first, and continued until I was about 45. Some of the OBs around here give 25-50 micrograms to their pregnant pts if the TSH is high. The argument against it is that the thyroid won’t ramp up on it’s own then. The argument for it is fewer early miscarriages in these pts.

  • in reply to: Flaky friend – or am I too demanding? #129452

    AutumnDraidean
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    I feel you.

    I too value my friendships highly, I respond promptly and if plans are made I will be there with bells on! I struggle when others don’t value friendship as much as I do. It has gotten to the point where I don’t suggest plans and any plans I make, I make sure they’re for things I’d be happy to do even if the other person flaked.

    Rejection sensitive dysphoria is real and it makes us doubt our own worth when the other person simply cannot get all their ducks in a row for whatever reason.

    It’s probably not about you. If you have any acquaintances in common you can ask them and they will probably tell you your friend is “just like that”

    However I also know that the above doesn’t help much when your friend flaked on plans again!

    There is someone who I have a blast with when we do get together but, she has flaked or been radically (hours) late one too many times. I don’t make plans with her without there being a feasible situation if she does fail to show. I won’t subject myself to the hurt. I know she doesn’t do it to be malicious…it’s just her.

    I’ve been blown off by someone who does so to hurt me. I won’t make plans with her either!

    I don’t think you’re too demanding as a friend. I just think the other person might just be flakey and if you can figure out what’s driving it you can make plans that won’t get you hurt…

    When you honor and value friendships with people who don’t exhibit the same values it can be so painful…I’m sorry

  • in reply to: Upstate NY-Albany area #129446

    AutumnDraidean
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    I’m way up the northway from you on Lake Champlain but I am hungry for connections with other ADHD peeps. Real or online.

  • in reply to: You have ADHD? Me too! Let's be friends :) #129445

    AutumnDraidean
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    I’m Autumn and I would love to build a little crew so we can support each other!

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