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Thank you, Anne. I do appreciate your input and it actually does help a lot. I feel that college really wasn’t the best place for me as well. It’s just all I knew to do and my mom said no matter what just get a degree. I disagree with that now that I’m older because it’s not for everyone. I was kinda pushed to just pick something. School was so so hard for me. I remember friends in class would go out all the time and study for a couple hours and I would spend 7 hours for most every test and stay up all night doing projects. I don’t know why I didn’t quit. I had to take the test several times with accommodations and did eventually pass. It was so hard. It was all I knew I could do to eventually take care of myself. Now I know there are many trades ect I think I would have been happier doing. I would likely be doing hair or something similar where I can be with people and be creative. But even to this day I wonder since I do change so much. I know now it’s a disservice to me and to the people you are helping if you don’t like what you do. So that advice I’ve learned from and will give different advice to my kids. However, having a degree can open doors and I totally get that.
I have so many ideas of things I want to do.. hobbies and to make money. I just have to make sure I dont waste a ton of money before I loose interest or get frustrated. 🙂
We need to start a support group on Facebook. Not sure how I can send out to everyone. Just a thought. Nice to have support 🙂April 4, 2018 at 10:55 pm in reply to: I think my child has ADHD, but his Dr and teachers think otherwise. #80970
My son went to OT for handwriting at 5 and it helped tremendously. He had hypermobility. They taught him how to tie a shoe too. In kindergarten he showed ADD symptoms, trouble with routines and not knowing where he is j. Space (that was a new one for me). The OT refers him out to Vision Therapy. He was afraid to ride a bike but since therapy is doing awesome on a bike. He has a difficulty with peripheral vision along with other vision terms. If he wears classes or not it’s worth checking in to. Kids with 20/20 vision can have difficulties with both eyes working together with the brain. I have a diagnosis of ADD so I figured he was. We are going to continue to try this and see where it takes him then look further into ADD as needed. Just another avenue to think about.
That is a good attitude! I love all the ideas of how not to spend money on it before diving in. I love decorating, painting, refurbishing/painting furniture, makeup artistry and so on…..the makeup artistry is where I spend too much. I love being creative and helping people feel good. I have moms I do makeup and people asking me to all the time, but the business side is too frustrating and I stopped with the classes because I was scared I would spend too much on them and not finish. I feel like I can’t trust myself with anything that costs money. I spent so many years being a Registed Dietitian and hated it. My kids will be in school full time in two years and I don’t want to stay home. I did sale a bunch on line for the money on a class but the supplies add up quick. So it is frustrating to love it so much then lose interest. But I think what you are saying Anne about when it gets to the boring parts you lose interest. I think that’s what’s happening to me and it feels like pulling teeth figuring it out.
It’s funny because when I was younger I would rock climb, scuba dive and then one day I decided I wanted to be a pilot (out of no where, lol) so I went to a small airport and talked about classes but you need a plane, lol. They took me up in a small plane that day for fun after talking to them. It is pretty hilarious how our minds can jump in one day to be all excited about something! Just like one of you said about quilting and then got home and wasn’t interested anymore. Made me laugh, because I obviously relate! My interests can be so extremely different too, haha! I love that about all of us but it is difficult when it comes to money sometimes and impulsivity. I will definitely be thinking about all my options and ideas I’ve been given from you all before jumping in to anything.
Also, the lawyer who’s wife says: what is it this time? How much? Time? Ect is exactly my husband as well. Also made me laugh because I understand this. If anything it is nice to see how many people relate.
Thank you all for your caring responses. It’s nice to see so many people like me. I have loved reading each one. You have all helped a lot about how to process what I’m feeling and to not feel alone. I love how interesting we all are!! I find that I’m surrounded by a lot of people that are more of the “norm” to the world. I love being different and creative like we all are! Just needed to take time before making decisions. Again, thank you all so much for your input and support. 🙂
Thank you so much for sharing. This sounds so much like me. I was diagnosed in college with ADD but always would say i feel like I have narcolepsy because my eyes would get so heavy during the day I couldn’t keep from shutting them. I’ve never been checked, I’ve always been told it’s ADD and depression which can also make you tired.February 23, 2018 at 10:52 pm in reply to: Living with ADHD & Depression-will I ever feel happy? #77170
Don’t beat yourself up. If you could feel good I know you would choose too so it’s not your fault. I know it’s hard not to feel guilty because everyone including ourselves sometimes feel like we should be able to just snap out of it, but it’s not true or that easy and we can’t without support and help. You deserve to be happy too! Hang in there!February 18, 2018 at 2:11 pm in reply to: Living with ADHD & Depression-will I ever feel happy? #76706
Wow! I had no idea you are in Australia! Looks like Sydney is close?? Maybe look in one of the bigger cities?? Amwell.com has online psychiatrists that work with ADHD, depression, ect. I don’t know anything about it and I’ve never used it but maybe you could look into it.
@ Samiam0895: the brain fog and fatigue are so frustrating. I totally feel your pain and know it can be a long and frustrating road. Keep fighting for help like you are, that’s a big part of getting better.February 13, 2018 at 9:55 am in reply to: Living with ADHD & Depression-will I ever feel happy? #76363
Oh also I have taken Adderall since my early 20s as well and it didn’t work well alone but with combination it works. Dr took it out and I just tried depression meds bc he wanted to make sure just not depression bc can cause some symptoms same as ADD but obviously didn’t work but when added back with combination I got better but not until he added it back with the two other meds i take now so you may still need Adderall (or not) with something else. Just another thought. Anyway feel free to contact me if want.February 13, 2018 at 9:43 am in reply to: Living with ADHD & Depression-will I ever feel happy? #76362
So i am antidepressant resistant so that means any of the antidepressant medicines actually cause me to feel bad like give me anxiety, more depression, extreme fatigue that I felt nervous to drive, ect so you may be the same. It took us a bit to discover that but maybe you can tell the psychiatrist all you have tried. I forget how many it takes for them to determine they don’t work for you but I’m pretty certain you are there. So definitely tell them all you have taken and let them know they don’t work. They may want to try you on different doses first so if you have tried different doses and or your symptoms are different in a bad way or current ones or worse let them know so you don’t go down another trail. I take lamictal, Adderall and starters. This combination works great for me and I feel better than I’ve ever felt my whole life. Some drs I think may not prescribe Adderall and starterra together but my does and insurance has accepted it. He says Adderall is for depression, I think maybe makes a difference with insurance, not sure. So it can take time to find the right medication for you but it may not as well. Just write down everything you can think of about how you feel when you feel this way, when it started (even as a kid, even for no reason at all) bc they means it’s a chemical imbalance as well. Even if it started in your teens it could be as well or triggered by your menstrual style which could cause depression every couple of weeks and maybe one good week between. So very important to think about when it started, when it happens now, if constant all through out month, never stops, ect. Do you get where I’m going with all of this? Think about all of this before you go so it can help them get right medicine. Also really important to get a psychiatrist that understands medicine ADHD depression and other issues to help with combinations of meds bc if you have ADHD and depression a lot of times you need two meds at same time bc different parts of brain that need different chemicals to work properly. Are you close to a bigger city like Portland. I would just travel to see some one that has experience with all this. Hope this isn’t all to confusing and this is just my experience. If you want to email me further questions I’ll be glad to help you anywy I can. My email is email@example.com
Totally ok! Just having a hard time articulating how I’m feeling exactly. Yes, i definitely need to ask my husband for more hugs and talks. I’m so needy too and it’s hard to ask for sometimes.
Thank you for your input.February 9, 2018 at 9:21 pm in reply to: Living with ADHD & Depression-will I ever feel happy? #76199
Definitely as previous posts said getting outside in nature, walking and talking with someone can definitely help but I understand that for me I needed help to get energy to even do anything so I get that as well. But again not your fault! Keep fighting and hang in there. If you are completely honest with the psychiatrist and tell him all the details of how you feel that’s when you get the best help. They can see the full picture and more likely to get meds right. Hope all this helps! I’ve been through this so I have a lot to say, lol. I’m living proof you can get better. I’m 38 and thought I wouldn’t feel better but I do and feel better than I’ve ever felt!February 9, 2018 at 9:12 pm in reply to: Living with ADHD & Depression-will I ever feel happy? #76198
I was diagnosed in my twenties with ADHD but went through life with anxiety and depression as well. Went Dr to dr and all sorts of tests trying to figure out why I felt so bad. I wasn’t DIagnosed with depression and anxiety until mid 30s couple years ago. Depression can make you feel so physically bad. I’ve been exactly where you are from what I am reading. I want you to know you will feel better you just need to find the right medicine. I am a firm believer in medicine because it has changed my life. I’ve tried different medicines and exercise, I was a dietitian so I was always a healthy eater. I did everything I was told and still felt depressed for no reason and I felt so guilty for feeling so bad because it doesn’t make since. But it really is a imbalance in your brain. It’s like having diabetes and needing medicine to make your pancreas work the way it should. You need medicine to clear your Brain so you can function and feel better. It’s nothing you are doing or not doing. It’s not your fault it’s just something that you need help with like someone who needs glasses. Once I found the right meds for me it’s like I finally woke up and could live and see. Find a psychiatrist that understands ADD, depression and anxiety. Good psychiatrist are hard to find but if you can find a good one that understands it can change your life.
Lol! Very true! Just frustrated with the constant need for change and not being organized or focused enough. Glad I made you smile 😊
I know what you mean it’s always been hard for me to wake up to. Especially since I get my best sleep from about 3:30 on. I’m much better now Though for the first time. I’m surprised he goes on your suggestions since he’s the doc. It is hard to find a good psychiatrist. Hopefully he goes for this combination and it helps as much as it has me!
Hi I’m 38 and i take 100mg of stattera with 10mg of Adderall. I honestly think you where on too much Adderall. Some people don’t need that much. Over the years I had same reactions but was on about the same dose as you. 10mg has been great for me and I just feel normal. I think the combination has been working great. I take it at noon to get me through rest of my day. I think I may do well with one in morning and one after lunch but haven’t tried it bc this is working and I’m not doing a desk job. Another option to think about. I don’t take time release, it lasts just four hours. Dr said it can also help with depression. When combining the two…I have felt better now than i ever have.Maybe try a psychiatrist that specializes in ADD??? I don’t think all drs will do this combination but it has been the best thing for me! Hope this helps!