My Forum Comments
I’ve been hurt by cycles that seem to happen. I question is this because of ADHD? Why is this happening? I am hurt because of words said and buttons being pushed to their furthest. I am hurt because of not the whole truth being told. There are other reasons but do not want to go anymore in depth. So I try to figure things out and know he says he has this so maybe it has something to do with that. This is why I question. Maybe I shouldn’t .
Thanks for your comments, it’s nice to get different views. It’s hard I grew up with being taught patience and respect and think before you speak and so certain things that someone with ADHD/add I feel don’t get or have to work really hard to get. I apologize if this is wrong or sounds bad I’m trying to understand. I’m an outsider and this is why I’m trying to figure things out.
When my husband and I talk about things concerning ADHD he is usually pretty quick with it – he needs medication and has to work at it. I would love to try to help with what foods to eat, is there a routine that would help, whatever there could be – did his mom elimate certain foods growing up, did he have certain traits of someone with ADHD growing up – what were they? It seems like there should be more but I don’t know much. Other than his mom always said how naughty he was as a child – which that makes me feel bad for him cause if I was told that as a child I wouldn’t know any better than to be naughty.
I have shared my medical past with him and feel I did before marriage. I knew he had ADHD but it was just brushed off like he takes medication and nothing more. I would ask questions but not much info other than his mom told him to take medication when young in school and then his grades got better. I have been trying to under ADHD more and it’s hard for me to wrap my head around. I read what it can be like when young and growing up but wish I understood how my husband was. Wishing my in-laws would talk to me about it and let me know if anyone else in their family has it. I try to be very patient with my husband and understanding when he zones into his work.
That’s very nice of you to talk to your son’s wife and pass along what you can. I’ve tried talking about work/marriage issues that have happened in the past with my mother-in-law and I don’t think she ever talked to her son about it and she has never checked back in asked to see how I was doing. I have no family close to me which can make things very difficult. So I applaud you for trying to help out!
I’ve now been married to my husband almost 7 years. Just wanting thoughts on my husband have been taking medication for ADHD since childhood and nothing really got mentioned to me about before married or now. We are over the “honeymoon” stage as you can imagine and I know it was up to me but if my son has it I’m going to talk to him about talking to his future wife and help out that way. Just feeling hurt.