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The person who finds a simple answer to that question will make a lot of money.
I am one of those lucky few who are largely unresponsive to medication. I’ve looked for years; I’m looking for specific things.
Ask the question a different way. Is the dosage wrong? Are you having intolerable side effects? If you are, the dosage is too high. If you aren’t, the dosage may be too low.
Look for particular items.
October 27, 2020 at 9:10 am in reply to: 26yo reading psych eval from 15 – feeling hopeless #186812
- Less susceptible to distractions: finishing small or “boring” tasks; finishing small assigned tasks at work; finishing homework assignments; avoiding distractions like social media or television while working; cleaning up after yourself; staying focused on boring stuff you have to read; remembering to stop at the store after work
- Less sluggish in the morning: waking up and leaving the house on time more regularly
- Improved short term memory: easily recalling details from conversations; losing items less frequently; remembering details from meetings or work emails; recalling things learned in class that day; remembering that boring stuff you read
- Fewer challenges going to bed on time
- Better Driving: Russell Barkley would probably include better driving with less road rage
- Reduced Impulsive Behavior: e.g. controlled impulsive shopping
- Improved emotional regulation
- Going to bed with the house tidy and you ready for the next day
- An increased ability the ability to stick with and finish things
“The symptoms that we control with medicine are typically related to the ability to stick with and finish things. That’s different than the ability to live an organized life. It’s related, but it’s not the only thing you need to do. [A child] could be focusing super well on medicine and not even turn in school assignments.”
“Normal” person? Get a new doctor.
I work in sales and I actually really like it. It’s a great line of work for someone with ADHD. That said, I really don’t want to do it forever and have been trying to teach myself some data science skills online and have been frustrated with it.
- That’s what matters. I’m a guy who got diagnosed a lot later than you. My advice is to focus on financial security. Get that nailed down. Find a job you enjoy. Then see what makes you happy. The rest? Forget it.
The emotional thing is a strain of ADHD. I’m pretty much that guy. Except, you know , far more dashing and with a hypnotic charm, lol. (Cough) where was I? If his emotions express themselves in a positive way — that bit is key — and you enjoy a guy who’s emotional, you may have a guy who could make you happy. But make sure the emotions are positive. There will be a lot of them. Do they cause him trouble at work? Does he get into fights? Has he hurt anyone? Is the tone upbeat and pleasant on average? Is he a happy emotional guy? That’s key. Most guys can’t re-start the hyperfocus on purpose but that emotional thing? That’s probably on 24/7 and might be something you find rewarding.
- Try it. It’s short acting. It’ll get out of your system and if you don’t like it, don’t try it again. But from what I’ve read, the emotional thing? Mmm that’s a reason to try this all by itself: that’s not a mandatory symptom.
- Not everyone has rebound issues; I read that’s an exception. I don’t, and I take the max dosage level of mine. But then I don’t have benefits either, so let the dom beware.
- Mmmmm speaking as that guy …. mmmm … for most guys, no. For me, if I concentrate on it, I can force B+ grade hyper focus. But it’s exhausting. The pandemic has weirdly helped me in this area: I see her twice a month and many of those times I have been able to lock-in and hyper focus. (I don’t think that’s common) But I totally forgot to get stuff for her birthday. Here’s my trick: I usually try to, well, find new intimate things to experiment with. That becomes new enough that I lock on that. Now, I’m lucky in having a girlfriend who
toleratesenjoys me deciding I want to spend the next five, seven, hours in bed. But that’s my trick: time apart to recharge and to maintain a sense of novelty; buying my girlfriend a million sex toys.
- Oh and: Ditch that guy. I’ve got ADHD. I’m a guy. Ditch him.