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  • #98509

    michellerain2016
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    I think I got diagnosed today. ADHD predominantly inattentive type but with hyperactive aspects too so maybe still more hyperactive than the general population. It’s still sinking in. I’m in a bit of a tired daze at the moment as the appointment got arranged at the last minute due to a cancellation and I was really nervous about it beforehand and haven’t slept at all in 2 nights.

    What actually counts as a diagnosis? Is it when they say ‘I think you have ADHD’ and they’re a psychiatrist and then they offer you meds? I’m guessing that’s a diagnosis? I’ve never been given a diagnosis of anything before. I’m going to get a letter apparently.

    I nearly cried in the car on the way back when I realised it may explain why I ended up in and stayed in an abusive relationship and maybe why I was bullied and struggled so much with feeling isolated in the past. I talked to a friend who said my problems were just normal and people get overdiagnosed and I shouldn’t go on meds. Now I’m scared to talk to anyone else about it in case I get the same reaction. Do I tell work? Do I tell family? Do I go on meds even though I’m just about functioning in life? At the expense of certain things.

    I know meds have lots of side effects and I don’t want to lose who I am as even though I have low self esteem, there are certain aspects of myself that I don’t mind too much like being adventurous and random and fun.

    Anyone else having these same dilemmas?

  • #98518

    ondinewave
    Participant

    I have never been in this personal situation but try to remember in regards of meds that not treating a medical condition also has side effects. Also a getting a diagnosis is just an explanation for issues you are already dealing with. You’re personality will not change only you’re focus. I would recommend the how to adhd YouTube channel and HannahlyzeThis podcast. I hope this can help.

  • #98630

    laurenrtibbs
    Participant

    I had a similar thing happen to me. Now I went to the doctor specifically to see if I might have ADHD but essentially she agreed with me that I did and said let’s try medicine. And 15 minutes later I walked out with a prescription. It was overwhelming and confusing. I asked similar questions though like “does this mean I have ADHD for real?” My parents had been part of the process of me deciding to go to the doc so they already knew what was going on. But it was hard for me to decide who else to tell and how and when. I also didn’t know if I even wanted to fill the prescription and start on that journey. I had heard bad stories about those kinds of meds too. I’ve also had people say weird things to me like “you probably have like symptoms of ADHD but you don’t actually have it” (which doesn’t really make sense lol).
    In the end I decided that while maybe I was “coping” with life enough, just enough wasn’t good enough. I wanted to thrive, not just survive and everything up until that point hasn’t worked. So I took the meds on my own trial period. I figured a week to 10 days of meds wouldn’t really hurt me and then I would know. Most things I’ve read say that meds only work if you actually have ADHD. The first medicine was ok but not super effective so I gave one more medicine a chance….and let me tell you it was incredible. It’s hard to explain the feeling. But my mind was finally quiet instead of spinning with constant thoughts. I could sit still, I noticed more things around me, I could keep my emotions in check better than ever. I was still me…but somehow I was more me than I ever thought would be possible.
    I began taking the medicine before I told anyone else (besides my immediate family) what was going on. And then I did it slowly as it made sense. I figured I didn’t know which of my friends were on birth control, anxiety meds, or even things like vitamin regimens so it was ok if they didn’t know I was taking Adderall. When it felt necessary to share I did it cautiously and tried to have done some research so I could actually explain it to them and help them understand. Most people were surprisingly on board! And the cool thing was since I had already been taking the meds they had already seen the change in me for the better. So it was easier for them to understand and accept cause they had the result in front of them.

    All this to say, it’s still up to you if you want to take medicine or not. I’ve heard it change more people’s lives than not, but I also know it is 100% a person’s choice to decide what to put in their body. It might be worth a shot just to see! I agree with the person above, do some research on this site and for sure watch How to ADHD on YouTube! I found that the more research I do the more it proves to me that this is true of me now and honestly always has been. I only got diagnosed a year ago but thinking about the kind of kid I was and looking back on my life I know this is how my brain has always been wired. Which is hard and healing at the same time. Whatever you decide to do, try to have patience and know it’s a process. It has taken me a while to accept and even embrace myself in this way but it’s given me amazing freedom and confidence and I’m so glad I took the first steps a year ago to go down this road.

  • #98727

    jllucci
    Participant

    Breathe. It will be ok. No need to tell anyone until you have fully processed the info and know what you want out of telling. Until then only tell people you want emotional support from while you are processing.

    Medication does have side effects and it may or may not be worth taking for you. The good news is that the psychiatrist that diagnosed you will help you figure that part out. The other good news is that in the case of ADHD, if medication does turn out to be helpful you can take it when you need it and not when you don’t. Unlike some other medications that require a consistent blood level. There are also various kinds, so if one would be contraindicated there are other options.

    In my case I use adderall, the short acting version, when I need to stay at my desk and focus on something I’m not enthralled with. The side effects I experience are thirst, sweating, increased heart rate, lack of interest in coffee, and an ability to stay seated. Sadly it does not magically make me focus on the important, only what I choose to put in front of me. The medications will not change your personality. At most they help you be a more controlled version of you. You will remain random, adventurous, fun and only 50% successful at figuring out your calendar.

    If my anxiety level is high I don’t take it, if my day is going to be very active, I don’t take it since the variety keeps me engaged anyway.

    More good news now you have something to help make sense of your experiences and a name to find resources and life hacks (coping mechanisms) that may help improve weaknesses.

    Keep in mind while you process this new info that ADHD comes with significant strengths as well. Most people living with it have learned flexibility and problem solving; tend to have a good sense of humor and are creative. Interestingly, I was at a week long workshop for entrepreneurs and the vast majority of them also had ADHD. It was the most fun I’ve had in a long long time.

    A person with ADHD combined with an executive secretary can accomplish much. 😉

  • #98757

    momeowee
    Participant

    Hi! I came across ur post for other reasons. I’ve been diagnosed with obsessive compulsive disorder . I have trouble concentrating because of it. I realized something was different around 8 years old. Never told my parents or anyone. This was back in 1997. Today I found out my mom has ocd, never talked about it, and my sisters both have anxiety, depression… Always felt like the outcast. Talking in counseling helps a lot! Learned so much, I think most people have some kind of mental illness but because of stigmas still today, only the certain folks get help. I’m sure you will be scared to.try meds and u don’t have to. Just see how ur life is going now and is it worth just a try. U can ask pharmacist a million questions if u need, I still do. Maybe if its against ur families religions or something like that, it might go easier that u think. But u do not have to tell them. Start slow, ur family is there to support u though. Hope u find courage to keep going. Its for the best, let us all know how you do and are.

  • #98643

    the dancer
    Participant

    Michellerain2016 are you sleeping better?

    I cried after I was diagnosed. It was a relief; a new problem set to build on with a sure foundation – as sure as it can be with the right work put into it. Mindfulness helps me to manage from day to day, I take it slow and make notes of everything; my diet, exercise, sexual activity, creative stimulation, how I perceive others, how I want to respond,… it felt like I was born into life again. This time around I take great care to let myself be (honor where I am – how I think and behave – give myself space to get comfy with something new), no need to bring others into it till I am ready. Ready means I know what kind of relationship I want and the boundaries I need to set for each connection whether its platonic or intimate. The boundaries give me structure for relating. For me, respect, is the key – a person can only be where they are and that is good enough in a love mindset.

    I hear relief in your words. Leaving an abusive situation takes courage. Crying is good. I feel strength in my vulnerability and I use it to rebuild from my heart what I imagine. onedinewave wrote that one’s personality does not change with medication, only their focus. My mother told me in high school that the core of my personality was forming and that who I was then would be the kind of woman I would become. This frightened me at first (I was coming from a dark place of emotion) but then it started to get lighter when I made a commitment to knowing myself and honoring the presence of others – I am still in that journey, sure there are issues surrounding addiction, abuse, neglect but I work(ed) through them, with support; I always return to the core of who I am – follow my intuition, ask questions, feel, and when its right – it feels SO right! The steps in this direction fuels my spirit and the esteem builds to a healthy place (it doesnt always stay there but I know what it feels like so I can return; heart memory) I wrote about all of this to relate to your concern about taking meds – its your experiment, have fun with it!

    So now, what about this adventurous random fun! Its up to you. You have done the work, everything is at your feet 🙂 Enjoy

    d

  • #98843

    ADHDmomma
    Keymaster

    Here are some useful insights for next steps after diagnosis.

    Advice for ADHD Newbies

    Free Webinar Replay: Building a Healthy Relationship with Your Adult ADHD

    Take some time to accept the diagnosis and breathe. Let it settle in, then make decisions about going forward.

    Penny
    ADDitude Community Moderator, Parenting ADHD Trainer & Author, Mom to teen w/ ADHD, LDs, and autism

  • #98957

    michellerain2016
    Participant

    Wow. I am overwhelmed by the level of response. Thank you so much everyone! Nice to feel less alone. I’m not sleeping better. Actually far worse as it’s been a rollercoaster of a few days and whenever I try to rest I have so many thoughts buzzing round my head about the diagnosis and the things it explains and all the things I didn’t even mention in the assessment that it has a big impact on.

    I’m on night shifts too at the moment which isn’t helping with the sleep thing. And everything has changed but nothing has changed at the same time as I’m still struggling through work and life just the same. It’s just now I know what’s causing the struggle although I don’t want to blame it on everything.

    I’m going to be late for work again. I want to reply better to each of you but don’t have time right now.

  • #98971

    B-man
    Participant

    Hi. I just got diagnosed last week and just found this forum today. I can relate, particularly about who I should tell and what treatment to seek.

    I am finding it fairly emotional right now because I am revisiting a lot of bad ADD memories from the past(I am 37) that I had previously only suppressed. The bad memories and feelings are mixed with all the positive emotions of getting answers and finding information and hope, and so I know that I’m not exactly thinking straight right now. I am however actively reading and learning and it’s been great. I have not yet had a post diagnosis appointment to discuss treatments with my doctor.

    I have decided to look at any and all options for treatment, including meds, but I haven’t decided much more than that. I am trying to focus on where I want to go and what I want to improve/change, and then plan to see what I need to get there. If I don’t need much, great, if I need all the options/support I can get, why not take advantage of the help. Help I took waaaaaaaay to long to ask for.

    Regarding who to tell. I’ve mentioned it in passing to a few friends and talked with my wife a fair bit about it. I received much support from my wife, and from a couple key friends. I was a bit upset that my wife told my mom about my Psych appointments without me being ready to tell her yet, but I do intend on telling my family when I’m ready, mainly because I believe in open communication even if I’m not always good at it. I don’t think I’ll tell work, because I feel like that’s where ADD is impacting me the most right now and I need to clean some stuff up there first. I also feel like I was laid off from my last job because of ADD related shortcomings so it’s a topic of higher anxiousness right now. I’d like to be able to tell closer work mates in the future and be more open about it, but I also don’t think the workplace, and health information always go well together.

    Thanks for your post, good luck, wish me luck.

  • #98982

    momeowee
    Participant

    Everytime I have a meeting or something I always write a list. I’ve pulled it out in front of drs and they tell me that’s a great idea. I’ve recently started with racing thoughts at night, for me i have to have tv on to distract me. I know working nights is difficult. How long have u been working that schedule? Pretty sure racing thoughts are typical with add. I’m 38 and started going to drs and hospitals when i was 17. Always felt like family was ashamed of me. Over years i find out most of my relatives have a mental illness and while i was getting treatment (tx) in my early years, i now watch my know it all sister struggle with anxiety, depression and friends i grew up with but i conquered my shortcomings early so i can help them too. Gee this is really long, let me know how ur night goes. Lack of sleep will drive me nuts. Have u heard of melatonin?

  • #99131

    Spaceboy 99
    Participant

    I’m mostly a lurker here, but I saw so much of myself in you that I just had to respond.

    I don’t really have much for you on the diagnosis, though, having been diagnosed with a fair few things myself, I think it’s safe to say that, yes, you’ve been given a diagnosis. But just so you know, that’s not the end of the world. What that means is that they actually have a name for whatever problems led you to the doctor in the first place. Even better, they actually have treatment available for it to help you be able to manage the issue.

    I’m actually in the process of trying to get diagnosed ADHD myself- I’ve got an appointment with a specialist in December. Where I see myself in you isn’t in the fact that you’ve been diagnosed- it’s the things I attribute to my own (I’m pretty damn sure) ADHD- Abusive relationships, bullying, and being eternally isolated. It’s hell, isn’t it? The problem with your friend- and most people who don’t know a damn thing about ADHD- is that they think ‘well, that happens to everyone from time to time’ and ‘ADHD is just an excuse for bad parents and lazy children’. They don’t see the distinction between occasionally being a little scatterbrained because you’re flustered, or stressed, or in a rush, and someone who’s doing everything right, but still winds up putting the milk in the cupboard and the sugar in the fridge. Every. Damn. Day.

    I had the same worries as you about being ‘less myself’ if I was put on meds, and the way one guy described it to me is that it’s like being given more time to think things through, to let you make informed decisions about being impulsive. So, while right now you may jump up and decide to go for a hike in the forest, forgetting that you need to clean the house, on meds you could be more like ‘HIKE! Wait… I need to finish the house, too… So I’ll clean half now, then do half when I get back’, instead of forgetting completely. It also helps you notice more things around you. Generally, with meds, the advice people give is that if you start noticing you’re a different person (in any sort of negative way), then you’re on the wrong meds, or you’re on too much of it, so you need to try another prescription.

    You don’t have to tell a soul if you don’t want to. If you go on meds, and find you have a positive response, or get therapy and find that your techniques help you, then you’d probably feel more comfortable discussing it with people. At this point, everything is up in the air and you clearly don’t know whether you’re coming or going. I’m not saying that to diss you, I’m just saying that you’re obviously suffering from low self-esteem right now, and you’re worried about your family and friends not accepting you. Which is why I’d recommend seeking treatment first. With work, you don’t have to tell them a damn thing, but if you do, there’s a chance that they might try to accommodate you, either by being more accepting when you’re having a bad day, or adjusting your duties to minimise your symptoms.

    As for whether or not to go on meds, I too am ‘just about functioning’. I have a loving fiancee, a full-time job that pays well, no drug or alcohol dependencies, and no criminal record or gambling issues. On the surface, that looks FANTASTIC. But every single day is about ten times as tiring as it should be. My life is an interlinking system of strategies, coping mechanisms, and backtracks. I keep overreacting to emotional stimuli, I forget things every single day, I get distracted and overwhelmed by large tasks, and I make decisions ‘in the moment’ that I often shouldn’t. In the past, ADHD symptoms almost lost me my chance for a degree, kept me in a physically and emotionally abusive relationship that made me underweight, got me bullied throughout my childhood, and makes me feel alone in a room full of people I like. Medication could help me with all of these things. If I didn’t think it was a problem, I wouldn’t have gone to the doctor to begin with. Hell, if I’d been diagnosed earlier in my life, I might have still ended up going into Physics.

    It’s your decision whether or not to medicate. And even if you do medicate, you might be one of the, what, 3%(?) of the population who don’t react to ANY ADHD meds. But even if you do decide to medicate, there’s nothing stopping you from coming off them at a later date. There’s no shame in turning to medicine to try to help you, if it actually helps you. Fast forward half a year, on meds. Best case scenario, everything you’re struggling with is reduced massively, and you can cope with it all much easier. Worst case, meds have no effects, or adverse effects, on you, and you come off them, so you’re in the same situation you are now. I know what self-esteem and anxiety issues are like, which is why I always ‘best/worse case’ scenario things. Anxiety only has power over you for as long as you leave it undefined. If you have options for what you can do if the ABOSLUTE WORST POSSIBLE THING that you have control over happens, then you are CAPABLE of surviving anything else that could happen. It’s not like you’re gonna die.

    Sorry for the wall of text- I ramble a lot more than I mean to. But I hope that this advice from someone who’s been in a lot of the same boats you have might shed some light on the subject 🙂 Whatever your decisions, don’t let any setbacks get you down. They’re only temporary, after all 🙂

  • #99375

    vlterrell
    Participant

    I was diagnosed in May and was really thrown off by that. I have been depressed for years and was sent to a psychiatrist who decided it was ADHD, and prescribed medication. I was petrified and freaked out and so many things. I was off work during May, as I had just fallen apart prior to being diagnosed, so I had a month to worry and ruminate and research.

    You don’t have to tell anyone, but do read up on it and you will have many “Ah, hah!” moments, and many moments where you think, “Oh, I totally do that!” And you will find it explains so much. Then, you can better understand yourself and anticipate certain things, and learn how to mitigate them. I worried that when I went back to work, I would screw up again, and was really stressed by that. But the medication made a world of difference to me. The knowledge also made a huge difference. Because now you know why you do certain things, and you can work on how to avoid those behaviors or responses.

    Here is what took me a while to figure out. You are still you. Now, you have an explanation of why you are like you are, and you can learn to work with your strengths and learn tools to help with your weaknesses. There are tons of resources out there to help you figure it all out. This hasn’t changed who you are, but it is explaining some things for you, and why you do what you do , and why certain things are really difficult for you. I just always thought I was a giant screw up, and now I can see why I made such a mess of so many things. So, now I know what to look for and can try to head those things off at the pass.

    You will be fine. Don’t use it as an excuse. Learn how to adapt to it and compensate. Nothing about you has changed, except now you have some knowledge you didn’t have previously.

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  • #99485

    trandyjohnson
    Participant

    Don’t be upset by it. It was a relief to me to find out what the problem was – it answered a lot of questions. Don’t be scared of meds – just make sure you get the right kind at the right dosage. If meds aren’t for you, than another route might work. I’ve been on meds for 1.5 years and haven’t had any problems. Some things it definitely helps and others it doesn’t – everyone is different.

    You shouldn’t be scared to talk to your parents – this is a very real condition with treatmeant options. They just might be concerned if the diagnosis is correct. Anxiety and depression can look like ADHD – and one or the other usually go with it. One of the the best doctors to see to be certain is a neuropsychologist, or comparable. I was with them for 3.5 hours of extensive interviewing, a tiring series of tests and answering questions. They tell you nothing then. 6 weeks later I got a 7 page letter outlining in detail that I definitely had moderate ADHD, primarily inattentive type. There’s a spectrum of severity and types and he outline in great detail where I scored normally, and where I showed problems. They end with with a treatment suggestion tailored to your particular condition. If you doctor did less than this, I would be a little cautious.

  • #99426

    CoralK
    Participant

    Embrace your diagnosis – you are no doubt very creative and intelligent, but easily bored – check out this Canadian website: https://totallyadd.com/

  • #99530

    gretagrits
    Participant

    I am so sorry you are going through all of these emotions and you have so many questions that were not answered by the diagnosing practitioner.
    My suggestion(s) and I have several, Google ADHD Inattentive/Hyperactive, read any and all info you can find, buy the book Driven By Distraction written by Dr. Ed Hollowell, read this book from cover to cover (he is a world renowned ADHD specialist, that actually knows what he’s writing about because he also has ADHD) write a list of questions, CRY, CRY and CRY some more. I was diagnosed at the age of 30 (shortly after my then 10 year old son was DXed) when I reasearched ADHD on the Internet and read stories by people that had the same experiences, troubles, tales as myself, I cried a river. Hell, I cried for days. It was the justification I needed to believe I wasn’t dumb, lazy, crazy, stupid, mentally challenged or special needs. I had ADHD!!! I learn differently than most people. My brain works differently , it doesn’t NOT work at all, it just work differently. And not all ADHD is the same even if we are both Inattentive/Hyperactive. Not only that, but ADHD will change as you age. Were I was definitely Inattentive/Hyperactive when I was younger, as I have aged the Hyperactive component of the diagnosis has dissipated and now at a month shy of my 50th birthday, I find the Inattentive aspect has totally taken over. I’m not the thrill seeking, risk taker I once was in my youth. Part of that is that my body cannot handle the thrills I once craved. I really feel those “thrills” the next day and for days after. Not fun at all, especially when you have to pay the Orthopedic doctor bill(s) that follow. Focus is my main issue now or lack there of.
    Peri-menopause has wreaked havoc on this whole situation too. But I’m getting off subject here so….SQUIRREL!!!! (That’s an ADHD joke)
    Another great book by the above author is “You Mean I’m Not Lazy, Crazy or Stupid” You can find both of these on Amazon or probably at your local library. I highly recommend anything written by Dr. Hollowell. He is awesome. Another suggestion, find a good physician, one that will REALLY listen to you. I don’t believe you mentioned any other aspects of your life except being bullied and being in an abusive relationship (which believe it or not, I have experienced both.) A good physician will ask you about your school experience from elementary all the way through college if you attended (documentation is an excellent source of information/reference for your physician) Any family input will be helpful also to provide examples or visual proof of your hyperactivity. Are there familial examples, such as your father, mother, brother(s), sister(s) that also have ADHD? It generally runs in the family, but may not present the same.
    The best advice I can give you is do your research. Be your own advocate. The physician you see for this can only base his his diagnosis and plan of care on the information you provide and if you go in educated and prepared, you will get the best care and be on the path to controlling and learning to live with ADHD.
    Another thing to remember, you have ADHD, it doesn’t have you. Only you can determine if you make the most of this diagnosis. It is part of what makes you who you are. When you learn to use the diagnosis to your advantage, it can be one of the best things about you. There are a lot of very creative, intelligent, intellectual, business savvy individuals with this awesome, wild, interesting, roller coaster of a disorder.
    You Got This!!!
    Good Luck,
    g.

    P.S.
    Find a support group, either virtual or one you actually attend in person. Just Google one in your area. If you cannot find one, try a virtual group. It helps to be able to talk with people that are/have been where you are and where you are going. They can guide you and offer support on days when you will really need it.
    And as for the naysayers, those are the ignorant, uneducated people. They will never understand, you won’t be able to explain it because they don’t have the pleasure of living it. It’s a mute point. As far as disclosing it to your employer, unless you need special accommodations (quiet space to work,little to no distractions ect… my opinion (and this is solely just mine, please do what you feel is best for you) I would not involve your employer. From that day forward, you will be labeled. As much as it is against the law for them to treat you differently, they will. Just my opinion and suggestion(s).

  • #99542

    jazmarie25
    Participant

    I don’t have the diagnose of adhd but my son does and I think I have it.It is very overwhelming for us to know we have it.I don’t need a doctor to tell me I have it.I have had issues my whole life and thought it was all regular until now at 32 years old with 3 children later .Please don’t take meds we are amazing and meds will heal you for this but possibly make you sick in other ways!Look into organic hemp oil(on amazon.com).It may help you naturally with our issue.I am buying it next week.We don’t need to be medicated just well inform on better options which are healthier for us.Dont beat yourself up like I did and continue to do .Its ok 2 be different!

  • #99578

    michellerain2016
    Participant

    Thanks so much for all your supportive comments. I’m starting to come to terms with an embrace the diagnosis now. There has been a lot of crying but that’s mostly frustration after a bad day of work.

    B-man, I am glad you got diagnosed and are looking into support options. It sounds like we’re at a similar stage. It’s good you have some support from those around you. And yes, a massive good luck. This is all so daunting but kind of exciting now we know what we’re facing and can do something about it to move forward with life more. My housemates is being super lovely and supportive and shouting at me to tell me to get ready for work…

    momeowee, i am so sorry you feel your family were ashamed of you. But then your relatives also having their own struggles, shows we’re all only human and hopefully that’s reframed your feeling of shame. Yes, my life runs on lists too. Don’t know what i’d do without them. Ensuring the list doesn’t get lost though is another challenge! Off nights now. Sleep clock is all over the place. Melatonin – not sure i can get that. I just have to listen to stuff on my phone a few times and each time will usually fall asleep.

    I relate to so much of what you’re all saying. Spaceboy99, definitely relate to the things being 10x harder than they need to be even when you appear to be coping fine. And that is such a good point about the best case/worst case scenario. I think your comment actually helped me decide that yes, I will try medication. So thanks for that! I hope you get assessed soon and get some answers.

    vlterell, I’m glad you got the explanation you needed and got the root problem diagnosed.

    trandyjohnson, I don’t think i’m upset by it. I think I’m actually really relieved.In a way it feels like a gift as I don’t think I’ll be beating myself up so much about my difficulties now.

    gretagrits, thanks so much for all the great advice. I think there is a clear family history. My Dad is impossible to have a conversation with without him being distracted and my Grandma likely had it too although was diagnosed with depression. Pretty sure my sister has it too as she failed university the first time due to not knowing about deadlines etc and she’s worse than me for getting to places on time.

    The psychiatrist who diagnosed me was absolutely brilliant. Totally non judgemental. Sent me a really long letter within a couple of days with really good explanations on for why he thought I had it. He didn’t need to say a lot to get so much information out of me that I haven’t told anyone else. He basically got my life story in 2 hrs. And yes, there was a lot from childhood that helped him even though I didn’t get my parents to fill out the form as I chickened out of asking them (mainly because I went private and thought they’d be angry I was spending my money on it but they don’t know how much I’m struggling). My friend filled out a form really brutally honestly and that and what I said was all he needed to make the diagnosis as well as many things that have been said to me over the years by employers etc. Things that are said on a daily basis tbh. Even though I’ve been diagnosed with inattentive type, I am pretty hyperactive. I fidget a lot and am definitely always on the go, in a different city/adventure every weekend, nearly killing myself in extreme sports, driving mishaps etc. Am always running about rather than walking, climbing trees etc.

    I’ve started reading ‘delivered from distraction’ and the symptom test for adults chapter made me laugh out loud it was so accurate. It is such a good book. I love Ned Hallowell.

    Because I trust this psychiatrist I am going to try meds. Work can be ok, enjoyable, mentally stimulating, but so much of the time my issues make it almost impossible to do my job well and so much of the time I’m completely overwhelmed. And that is not depression. It is too many distractions, complete information overload and too many tasks to juggle and prioritise and my brain just shuts down.

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