May 23, 2017 at 3:21 pm #50124Frustrated DailyParticipant
I’ve been diagnosed but spouse says I don’t do x, y, and z according to the ADD books, so therefore I have something else. How do I convince my spouse when I have so many other symptoms?
May 23, 2017 at 4:32 pm #50148tikan891Participant
Your ADHD isn’t the same as mine, and your’s isn’t the same as anyone elses.
If you’re female, tell them to read about females. There’s a big difference between men and women with ADHD/ADD.
May 23, 2017 at 11:41 pm #50158livraynesmomParticipant
I’ve tried to talk to my husband about my ADHD, but I can tell he thinks I’m just trying to make an excuse for my forgetfulness, impulsiveness, disorganization,etc. It’s horrible not having any understanding or patience from him.
May 24, 2017 at 5:54 am #50162tikan891Participant
So he’s harassing you about your ADD traits.
Harassing is abuse.
My advise is to leave before you’re brought down to the horrors of being an abused woman.
If you have kids, it’s devastating for them to hear their mother being diminished like that.
Remember the heredity. Your kids inherit the ADHD from you and hearing that it’s just an excuse will scar them for life.
If you can’t turn him around, then just leave.
May 25, 2017 at 9:19 am #50269
June 22, 2017 at 8:18 pm #51739anomalocarisParticipant
I don’t have a spouse, but I think this is a common issue. People around me constantly dismiss my ADD issues in a way that they would never dismiss another disability. You would never tell someone who’s blind to just suck it up and read the menu, or tell a someone who’s paralyzed that walking a mile shouldn’t really be a big deal. I can’t afford treatment, so I have to just manage the best I can. My family sees my inability to handle a 40 hour work week (I work 30 hours) as laziness, even though I haven’t had more than a long weekend off in 17 years, and the 30 hours leaves me too exhausted to have friends. I wish people would take it seriously, but they don’t or won’t and I don’t expect to see that change anytime soon.
June 25, 2017 at 1:31 pm #51780anomalocarisParticipant
Stunned: Thanks so much for all that info! I’ll definitely look into those options!
June 25, 2017 at 9:10 am #51775stunnedParticipant
June 25, 2017
1. Please talk to your pharmacist because some drug companies will provide free medication to those in need.
2. Maybe one of these clinics could help, http://www.nafcclinics.org/ .
3. Maybe your doctor could donate samples of the medicine you need which would allow you to work more hours
and thus be able to afford the medicine with the extra income the following month? Your doctor could
ask the drug company sales rep for an amount equal to your regular monthly prescription and then pass it on to you.
4. Maybe a charity for ADHD could advise another source for free medication to help you to be able to work
that extra ten hours a week.
5. Maybe your church could pay for your prescription as part of their efforts to help those in need in
their community? With your new found focus you could then be able to work the extra 10 hours and
repay that donation ten times over?
5. Please show my post to your family because it seems to me that they really want you to be lazy by
refusing to cover the first three months of your medicine. Your family could be very jealous of your
success even at 30 hours per week, suffer from ADHD themselves and be in denial, or perhaps be too old
to adapt to changes in their life.
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