May 30, 2019 at 4:45 am #117315
Hey everyone, so I want to mediate as I firmly believe it is so so good for everyone & every aspect of your life. But legit how do you guys do it?!
I try and focus on the breath. I repeatedly acknowledge the thought and go back to the breath but it’s just a constant flood of thoughts. Thinking about people, my work, my gf, anything. I live 99.9% of my life inside my head. I’d love to live life in the present moment but my brains like “namaste focused on that dumb thing you did yesterday” 😭
I’m essentially just closing me eyes for 10mins
Do you / can you guys meditate?
May 30, 2019 at 6:46 am #117317
I have the same problem and used to SCOFF at meditation because of my overactive brain…So I joined a certain meditation group which is TM and a bit different from the others, there is a 20 min mediation morning and evening. What I like is that it is ESSENTIAL to have a TIMER on and TM let you have any sorts of thoughts coming in that are dealt with through a mantra. I do not think that ALL mediation methods are the same BUT I think that each individual responds differently.
May 31, 2019 at 9:42 am #117402
Try mindfulness practice first. The entire point of mindfulness is practicing redirecting your focus. So your mind wandering is perfect practice. It’s not about stopping your mind from wandering, it’s about learning to redirect to be more present. It’s kind of like going to the gym — the more you do it (practice), the better the results. If you stop going (practicing), the weight (overwhelming thoughts) comes back.
The Time Timer app is free and offers thousands of mindfulness practices to chose from.
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June 3, 2019 at 5:59 am #117585
Hey! I Penny didn’t beat me to it I would have said the same! I’m meditating daily and am struggling for the same reason. My mind wanders of all.the.time.
The App that I use, Ten Percent Happier, have several courses and one of them is Focus. Yesterdays meditation practice included the meditation guides words saying : The moment your mind wanders off, is what we like to call the Magic Moment. It is the moment in which the opportunity for growth arises. It is in that moment we can practice self-compassion and mindfulness.
Bringing the attention back to the breathe is the clue here, that’s the practice! It doesn’t matter if it wanders off 1000 times and where it wanders off to (worry, stress, past, future etc.) doesn’t matter either.
I’ve seen tremendous upside by simply continuing every day for 15 minutes in the morning. I feel more calm and less impulsive about getting to the next task. I handle my emotions better and better, and that, in turn, makes me feel even happier about my progress.
Good luck!! <3
June 6, 2019 at 2:10 am #118324
Good for you for trying! I’m not a long-time meditator, but I have heard from others that one never gets to the point of an “empty mind” – as someone else pointed out, the practice is not to empty the mind but to train yourself to keep going back to the breath or mantra, not to get sucked into the rabbithole of thought, to step back and observe yourself thinking…as one of my meditation teachers said she uses the phrase “ah…thinking again”.
I Agree w the other good suggestions, e.g. TM, mindfulness. You might want to experiment w forms of mindfulness meditation–for example walking meditation could be helpful. I once read Ticht Nan Ha (sorry for misspelling) describing mindful dish washing as a practice.
Once I took a meditation “class” where we tried out a variety of different strategies, which I found helpful. In addition to sitting & walking meditations we tried focusing on sound (or on quiet) either a mantra or sounds outside of the room, or on visuals (a candle, a mandala). You may also want to try a recorded guided meditation (a CD or an app like Headspace).
Maybe trying out a variety will help you find what works best for you.
June 7, 2019 at 10:52 am #118531
Ditto in support of the “active” meditation ideas.
I stopped wearing earbuds when I went on long bike rides… as the local military base that allows cyclists bans them.
It was the best thing that ever happened to me.
Once I got used to it, I got more “flow state” rides that felt like meditation.
I also find playing poker meditative and relaxing.
I don’t play a lot of hands, so I use my teime trying to calculate odds and predict hands.
It is the same idea at those meditative adult coloring books.
June 10, 2019 at 6:57 am #119250
Try prayer while doing your stretching instead. God wants to hear from you. He cares about you and wants you to talk to him. The Bible says that when you draw near to God, He will draw near to you. So instead of trying to clear your mind of all thoughts, talk to God, thank Him for all the things going well in your life, and communicate with Him.
June 10, 2019 at 8:06 am #119259
The struggle is real! I brought this up to my therapist a few weeks ago. She told me to try meditating ON something. So I’ve been choosing to visualize a desirable feeling, situation, behavior, goal I want to reach, etc. My mind stays with the “theme” I choose and I feel great afterward because I feel much more positive about myself. After doing this for awhile, I’m hoping I’ll get better and controlling my thoughts and be able to clear my mind through meditation sometimes. Find what works for you. Best wishes!
June 10, 2019 at 10:04 am #119277
I echo the active meditation stuff. For me it is walking or, even better, roller skating.
Tibetan singing bowls are cool for some less active meditation that still allows you to “fidget” too.
June 10, 2019 at 10:13 am #119284
Hi, so I myself have not been diagnosed but my mind wanders and wanders and I multitask and forget half the stuff I’m doing because of LOTS of distractions around me and in my own head….. Anyway, I found an app that I really love. Breethe, what I enjoy about it is that I can take 5 minutes to try and meditate, sometimes it works and other times it doesn’t but I can’t beat myself over that since I know how hard it is for me to focus on the present moment. I do keep the app on at work throughout the day, it has different selections for different moods. I am a school social worker so I also keep the app on when I have kids in my room, whether we are talking, playing, or just sitting together. The kids enjoy it, I enjoy it, I feel at peace even when I am not purposely meditating.
But like everyone else, we are all different and what works for one may not work for the other. However don’t give up, do what works for you. If you haven’t seen Natural Life they have your daily chirp of the day: Today is going to be the best day ever!!!! One small positive thought in the morning can change your whole day.
June 10, 2019 at 11:53 am #119304
Here’s the best thing I’ve ever been told about meditation: Just the act of trying to do it–whether you think you’re successful at it or not–is beneficial. Remind yourself of that. Be gentle with yourself about the whole thing. You try a little, be pleased that you tried, and plan to try it again tomorrow (or whenever).
June 10, 2019 at 3:06 pm #119362
I have started meditation with the app “10 Percent Happier,” based on the book. After spotty consistency and feeling like a failure I tried the free beginner meditations again and heard, loud and clear, a phrase that I somehow missed the first time around: “Simply begin again.” That phrase changed everything. They apply it to times during the meditation where your mind wanders as well as to the whole process. When your mind wanders or you miss days, you don’t start over, you make yourself aware, without judging, of the break in the pattern and simply begin again. One of the most annoying symptoms of my ADHD, is my loss of time. I missed meditation for what I thought was two days but found out eight days had gone by! So I simply began again where I left off. I’ve been getting so much better and enjoying the benefits of meditation and of seeing my abilities progress. I’m missing fewer and fewer days as I keep practicing and my mind wanders much less than it used to. It still wanders way more than a “normal” person, I’m sure, but I’m seeing the progress and it’s great.
June 10, 2019 at 7:22 pm #119402
Practicing belly breathing before meditation can reduce anxiety, which I’ve found helpful. It turns out that when we breathe mostly from the upper chest, it amps up our fight or flight nervous system, which can create a self sustaining loop of anxiety.
The Breathe2relax app has good information and a simple exercise you can practice with.
June 13, 2019 at 6:34 pm #119777
Try this one. It’s more ADD friendly. Sit comfortably and close your eyes. Actively listen to everything around you. Label every sound as you hear it. Fridge. Dog barking. Car passing. Listen closer. What’s the farthest sound you can hear? Because your brain wants to be active, it’s tough to try not to think. This gives your brain an active task, while practicing mindfulness, which is just being focused on THIS moment in THIS place. At first, only try it for 5 minutes.
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