Problems in social relationhips (mind blanking)

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    • #173443
      bolling
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      Hi Yall

      I am a 33 yo guy, and got my ADD diagnosis last summer.
      As long as i can remember ive had problmes with soical relationships, It is as if my social brain falls asleep after some time “hanging out” and ive got nothing to say in a conversation, and cant come up with discussion topics. Im on vyvanse, but that dosent seem so help with these symptoms. I thought i might have som light-aspergers, but in all the online aspergertests ive done, i get a really low score, so guess im not.
      Anyone feel the same way?
      been thinking about trying a different medication to see if that helps.

      Thabks

    • #173456
      Penny Williams
      Keymaster

      Do you have any anxiety? My social anxiety makes it hard for me to focus and put together comprehendible sentences when it’s really ramped up. THere’s ADHD fatigue too, which is very real. When I’m on the spot in a social scenario with people who are not close friends, all the blood rushes from my face and my mind goes completely blank.

      What Anxiety Disorders Look Like in Adults

      There are two types of stimulants: amphetamine (Adderall, Vyvanse, Evekeo…) and methylphenidate (Ritalin, Concerta, Quillivant…). Almost everyone does well on one type or the other, but not both. So it’s possible you might do better on a methylphenidate with this particular thing, or it could be entirely unrelated to your medication.

      Penny
      ADDitude Community Moderator, Parenting ADHD Coach & Author, Mom to teen w/ ADHD, LDs, and autism

    • #173516
      trh
      Participant

      What you describe sounds like social anxiety. You can have both. Zoloft helped me with that. And later, therapy helped.

    • #192019
      kev21234
      Participant

      I cannot offer any solutions. However I experience the exact same thing. It happens often that nothing comes to mind and I am a quiet person as a result. People don’t understand and believe that something is bothering me or that I am aloof. My brain just does not work the same. People say I am hard to get to know. My response is to tell them just ask me a question then I’ll know what we should talk about. I recall watching TV with a women I was dating and after a few hours of silence she looks over at me and says “speak”.

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