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  • #127658

    pennyshore
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    I’m a late diagnosed female type person from NSW. Love to communicate & share experiences, support etc with fellow Aussies

  • #127666

    alexia
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    Hi!
    I’m in Melbourne and I’d love to be able to chat with people in Australia. I love my friends and I’m sure they love me too but I can tell they think I might be able to explain my symptoms as something else!
    I’m 51
    Alexia

  • #127692

    Tikay
    Participant

    Hi, I’m German but live in Queensland. I was diagnosed in Germany in 2001 at the age of 34.

    Tikay

    • #128362

      pennyshore
      Participant

      Hi Alexia, and all. Wow, yes some of my friends, and family, can’t grasp the reality Of this seemingly appearing suddenly ‘at my age’.

      Happily others do and are very supportive and also happy for me, that I finally have an answer after decades of searching.

  • #127701

    kelblis
    Participant

    Im also late diagnosed, I live in NSW

    Hi im Kellie and im 50

    • #128368

      pennyshore
      Participant

      Hi Kellie.

      Was it hard to be diagnosed in NSW?

      We’re moving in Dec. from Sth Aus back to Penrith where we have family.

      I’m hoping to find an Adult ADD/ADHD support group of some kind as I’d love to meet more folk who’re diagnosed.
      I have friends (& family) with it but only one has been diagnosed.

    • #128502

      Tikay
      Participant

      Hi Penny,

      I have been looking for a support group or even just a forum ever since I’ve moved to Australia – no luck so far!
      I think there might be a group on Facebook but since I am not on Facebook (I had my account properly deleted over 10 years ago – I don’t agree with their privacy policy and I probably would be addicted) this is no option for me.

      Cheers,
      Tikay

    • #128507

      pennyshore
      Participant

      Morning, Tikay

      Yes, Melbourne ADHD Support group on FB is excellent and I’ve just asked there if they know of any Brisbane groups.
      I believe there is a f2f group in Penrith and plan to check it out once we’ve moved and settled in.

      My few close friends have always been ‘eccentric’ – now I see that it was probably due to our shared neuro-diversity.

      Also I believed that being unable to connect with the mainstream resulted only from a dysfunctional, chaotic & fairly traumatic family life 😂😂. The ADHD connection (myself, 2 siblings & at least one parent), combined with inter-generational trauma and poverty, explains so much.

      A few months ago I saw a quote:
      “ADHD Runs in Families.
      Undiagnosed, It Runs Families “

      I love the weirdness, kindness, hilarity, humour, intelligence, intensity and heaps more that comes from our kinky brains!

      For now,
      Penny

  • #127702

    Macushla68
    Participant

    Hi I haven’t got a formal diagnosis. And I’m not sure if my symptoms? traits? are caused by peri-menopause or if that has just brought existing traits to the fore.
    51 and in Adelaide.
    One thing I’d love to know. Does anyone else put off the ‘good’ things as well as the boring things? I feel like I just go around in circles. I don’t want to do the boring, repetitive things – and they take me a long time, anyway – but I feel guilty about not doing those, so I can’t do the stuff that interests me, either. I feel like I don’t deserve to do the fun stuff. Anyone else?
    Thanks for asking for Australian input; I don’t feel quite as isolated now!

    • #127803

      Tikay
      Participant

      Hi Macushla68,

      Oh yes, yesterday it took me 6 hours to finally get out of the house to do the shopping.
      When I was younger and not diagnosed I would spend hours on the sofa doing nothing, because I could not get myself to do what I was supposed to do (could not find a starting point and with what to start with, too many things on my to-do-list in my head) and therefore I denied myself doing the things I liked (crafting, hobbies etc.)

      I know exactly what you are talking about!

      I’ve just recently read about how menopause makes ADD symptoms worse…

      Somehow I feel ADD/ADHD is underdiagnosed in Australia. Not a lot of people actually know about it.

    • #128361

      pennyshore
      Participant

      Hi Macushla. So good to know there are others in similar circumstances, makes the isolation more bearable. I’m 69yo and was diagnosed and started medication this year.
      Although I can see that I had ADD for most of my life I really started going ‘downhill’ in my mid forties. I was diagnosed with the usual things – depression, anxiety, bipolar… and medications did not help much. I started researching ADHD a couple of years ago and presto, it fitted me like a glove, including the fact that as estrogen decreases ADD symptoms become stronger.

      The hereditary nature of this condition amazes me. The first description of more ‘female’ symptoms was like a textbook description of………not me, but my sister! One brother has the hyperactive aspect and my late mother’s condition had symptoms pretty much identical to mine.
      I can see it clearly in my younger son ( who I originally thought might be on the on the autism spectrum) and in two of his daughters, who are currently being tested. My high-performing 24yo grandson has independently obtained diagnosis for himself (inattentive) without knowing about the family history.

      Diagnosis and medication were difficult for me as I’ve been living in an isolated area of SA. Eventually done via Skype and phone consults with my former doctor, in Brisbane. Moving to NSW at the end of the year and I’m looking forward to easier access to health and support services.

      I’m happy to keep chatting and sharing our ADHD/ADD experiences.

    • #128363

      pennyshore
      Participant

      Hi Tikay.

      It’s great to see someone who’s been diagnosed for a while. I had a smile about you taking 6 hours to go out & do the shopping. I spent about that long yesterday procrastinating about going to the bank and literally rushed in with only minutes to spare.

      Having only been on medication for 3 months I’m very interested in talking with someone like you, who has had meds for longer. Meds have provided relief (release) from the constant mental intensity and emotional fluctuations. A peace that I’ve sought in many ways and places – analysis, meditation, a decade of alternative lifestyle & healing modalities, and so much more.

      The procrastination is still very much here and although I’m working on putting some things in place to help me – alarms etc – even that’s hard for me to do. I’ve just had success in remembering to take medications, 4x a day, using a simple little Australian reminder app called
      medisafe.
      I’m also pretty dependent on my iPad & my hubby is going to support me in spending three mornings a week without it – hopefully I’ll get a few things done.

      I agree that adult ADD/ADHD is under diagnosed and often not known about here. I have friends in Sydney, sisters, who have blindingly obvious hyperactive ADHD and the family doctor told one of them: “No such thing”.
      My own attempts to be diagnosed were so frustrating and distressing and that I decided, in desperation, to travel from KI in South. Aus. to see my old psych doctor in Brisbane. Luckily he’s able to do Skype & phone consults and I still had an ongoing referral. I’ll see him in person when we come up there for Chr.

    • #128374

      Tikay
      Participant

      Hi Pennyshore,

      May I ask which Psych doctor you are seeing in Brisbane (I live north of Brissie)?

      Back in Germany one of my sons was diagnosed at the age of 8, he is also Dyslexic. During that time I read a lot of books and went to a lecture and it dawned on me (actually a lot of light-bulbs went on!) that he got it from me…
      I went to see a Neurologist/Psychiatrist and had my diagnosis immediately.
      Went on meds right away, took them for 11 years.
      Unfortunately that brand isn’t available in Australia. It’s a generic Ritalin. Different filler, everything else is the same.
      I started with the normal tablets 4x 5mg. Increased to 6x 5 mg. After a couple of years I changed to the slow release tablets – 3x 10 mg, every 6 hours, that covered my whole day until I was asleep. It was important for me to fall asleep while the last pill was still working.
      Never had to increase my dose, never developed tolerance.

      Since this brand isn’t available here, I dropped my medication but at the moment I am looking into getting back on them.

      But bl&%$dy h&%ll is it complicated and expensive!!

      In Germany Neurologists, Psychiatrists or any other specialists are covered by public healthcare. I only had to pay a certain amount for the meds (I think it was about 10 € per pack).

      I have a letter from my doc with my diagnosis but I wonder whether it’s worth it to have it translated (more cost!). I am scared to go through the whole diagnosis process again. That’s one reason I have been putting it off for so long
      (Moved here in 2011.) This and I was doing ok so far. And procrastination… 😉

      If you have any questions – fire away!

      Quick question – there is no private message function here, is there?

      Cheers, Tikay

      • This reply was modified 1 month ago by  Tikay.
      • This reply was modified 4 weeks, 1 day ago by  Penny Williams.
    • #128380

      pennyshore
      Participant

      Hi again Tikay,

      Nice to hear from you and what your experience of diagnosis & meds has been.

      I don’t know anything about terms & conditions – guess I should read them. This is my first ever time posting on here, so I know nothing. Place for pm would be good.

      I was SO lucky with my psychiatrist. When we moved to Brisbane, around 2007, I just told GP at the local clinic that I needed a referral to a psychiatrist who bulk billed. He referred me to Dr Brian Ross at MacGregor. I was his patient until moving to SA in early 2017.

      Last time I was in Brisbane, March 2018, I made an appointment with him to talk about ADHD. I’d realised I have in but didn’t know what to do next.
      When I arrived at Dr’s rooms his admin told me that he no longer bulk bills. Thus, I couldn’t actually afford to even see him. Fortunately I was bulk billed that day, he agreed about ADHD and wrote a letter for me to give to SA psych when I found one.
      The story continues from there but I’m sad to say that Dr Ross no longer bulk bills.

      I don’t know much about Northern suburbs- we were north end of Gold Coast and my son’s at Cleveland.

      Cheers for now, Penny

    • #128383

      Tikay
      Participant

      Hi Penny,

      still can’t find my post… strange.

      I live about 70 km north of Brisbane CBD 😉
      Lovely little country town, perfect for me!

      I know Cleveland, we used to live in Manly West for a couple of years.

      Cheers, Tikay

  • #127820

    Macushla68
    Participant

    Thanks for the response, Tikay.

    Your comment about under-diagnosis is really interesting. Certainly the idea of adults having these issues is something I have never heard talked about; like many, I actually thought that it was something kids grew out of. I also think that, like autism, it presents differently in girls than in boys and that this is only just being acknowledged. People think that there are really obvious, stereotypical behaviours inherent in both ADD/ADHD and in autism, and if someone doesn’t show those particular traits, their behaviours are dismissed or ignored. It’s more widely understood now that girls with autism, for example, present very differently than do boys, and are more adept at ‘masking’ and simply mimicking behaviour that is considered to be ‘normal’.

    Since looking into this for myself, I find myself looking at my Mum and one of my brothers and wondering if they have ADD, too. My Mum is in her late 80s and my brother early 60s and the thoughts of being aged with all the difficulties that alone brings, PLUS ADD, is just God-awful.

    My brother is notorious for not taking advice, not listening, not acting even when it’s clearly in his interests to do so. As a result, he is all but alienated from our other two brothers and a source of exasperation to my parents. Mum will read a headline and first paragraph of a news article, panic, and ask me about, almost always saying, ‘I didn’t read the whole thing, but … ‘. My Dad is early 90s and has dementia. I keep telling my Mum about small things she can do to make his, and her, life easier, but she never does any of them! Drives me nuts! But now I’m looking at these things in a whole different light. Not helping me deal any better, though!

    • #128375

      Tikay
      Participant

      My answer to your post went into moderation… I realised I should not have posted a link… sigh. Must have missed that part of terms and conditions.

    • #127821

      Tikay
      Participant

      And this might be one of the reasons, I suspected this early on after I had moved to Australia:
      https://www.smh.com.au/lifestyle/health-and-wellness/the-phrase-that-pays-schools-push-parents-of-adhd-children-to-switch-diagnosis-20190823-p52k43.html

      I was surprised to find so many children diagnosed with Asperger’s in Australia. I barely knew any back in Germany. In fact I only know one.

      I got my diagnosis after my son got his. I read a lot of books, visited a lecture and suddenly it dawned on me that this was me.
      That’s why I felt like an alien all my life.

      What you are telling about your Mum makes me think my partner might have it as well… but that’s another story.

      I had been on meds for 11 years before I moved to Australia and I was doing well. Unfortunately that brand isn’t available in Australia, so I dropped them.
      Now I would like to take them up again but I wonder whether I would have to go through the whole diagnosis process again. Not really keen on doing it again.
      I could have a letter from my former doctor translated, but not sure if that would help.

      Girls are definitely different, they usually aren’t hyperactive (but can be on the inside!), daydreaming is an issue and being quiet and that’s why they fall under the radar.

  • #128386

    Rihanna
    Participant

    Hii, I am Rihanna. I’m from Sydney. Hi, I’m a late-diagnosed person.

    • #128501

      Tikay
      Participant

      Hi Rihanna,

      Would you like telling us a bit more about yourself?
      How old are you, how long have you been diagnosed and how are you doing? Are you on meds?

      Cheers, Tikay

  • #128525

    russellbullen
    Participant

    Hello everyone!

    I’m russell, 55 and I live in Brisbane. I was diagnosed with ADHD and Bi-Polar 2 around 3 years ago. More than anything that knowledge allowed me to unpack/repack a lot from my childhood, career and relationships. Still a work in progress. Some of the things I’ve done along the way are …..Meditation (vipassana and TM), nutrition, mindfullness and music therapy and a host of other ‘good stuff’ – which after learning I was still perplexed as to why I didnt call on these tools in my times of need nor was I practising then as often and consistently as I should to create more time spent in inner calm. I struggled with this for some time. It wasnt until I started researching schema based CBT that a light went on! Earlier this year I went to Bali for 8 days for intensive one-on-one CBT sessions (oh yeah…and great food, yoga, meditation) – WOW. when you understand some of your own maladaptive behavious and where they come from … enlightening to say the least it opens you up to you in a new light.

    Interested to hear what everyone else has embarked on?

    Happy Thursday people!

    • #128597

      pennyshore
      Participant

      Hi Julian,

      So interesting to read about your path and I identify with some of your experiences.

      I’m 69yo, and actively seeking answers, self-understanding, peace, release from suffering etc since the age of 23.

      I’ve practised several forms of meditation – Vipassana, TM, Raja Yoga & more – plus other good stuff, as you say, and with the same outcomes that you describe. Lots of great experiences including insights, catharsis.

      I spent most of the 80’s immersed in the Breathwork process including training as a Rebirther. Lots of active meditations, vegan food, ‘processing’, trauma release, creativity. It was a challenging, rich and exciting time – I learned so much and still couldn’t integrate and practice on an ongoing basis.

      In my mid to late forties mental health became a debilitating issue. Diagnoses included depression, anxiety, bipolar, PTSD and even BPD.

      Reading an article on Women & ADHD, less than 2 years ago, was my lightbulb moment. Everything fitted and made sense as nothing else had.

      Quite a bit of effort and frustration before I was finally diagnosed and started medication three months ago.

      I’m running out of oomph just now, but certainly happy to continue sharing my experiences from that point.

      I’ve tried CBT, and DBT, in the past and looking at the schema based CBT after reading your post I can see the potential.

      So pleased for you that you’ve come to this point. Your Bali experience sounds fantastic.

      Cheers for now, Penny

    • #128621

      russellbullen
      Participant

      Hey Penny

      Thanks so much for your sharing more of your journey. I hear you!

      I too have been on a mission to understand, peeling back layer after layer it seems. And I’m unsure whether this is a common thread for anyone else on this post stream, but it’s within the understanding that I get clarity and acceptance, and something to work with. It’s how my brain works.

      I taught myself to play the piano and read music – (i commented on a thread just recently around playing a musical instrument and ADHD) driven by a fascination when I was 5…simply…why is it that when my grandma hits the black and white keys does it make that sound but when I do it, it doesn’t. How does that work. I’ve learnt to love this about my brain – in fact it’s fuelled my career which I’m most grateful for- despite criticising myself for having a ‘bright shiny distraction’ thing constantly getting in the way of achieving all I can be, what I know I’m capable of, if I applied myself better. I tried telling myself the reality that anothers 100% is my 75% and that’s good enough. But it’s not. Not sure I’ll ever be ok with not being ok about this.

      This whole search for answers “self-understanding, peace, release from suffering” Ditto on that FYI – also brings about a greater power of self observation (or in context to one who has done the work around meditation, yoga etc as yourself and others…I refer to this as ‘being awake’) It’s a double edge sword in my experience. Knowing is one thing, awareness, observation, centering oneself and then the doing – consistently….well, that’s where the rubber hits the road….and sometimes/often this car goes too fast to pull up at the right time. When you know what you have to do, and you don’t do it FOR YOURSELF – well it just feeds the loop somewhat I suggest.

      My anxiety comes from 3 triggers – trapped, overwhelmed, lost (pick a starting point – they’ll all merge and take me to a place I dont want to go to if not checked). I can go on as to how these show up if anyone is interested in knowing….What was going on before this episode/event/release/relief that got me to this/that moment and how do I identify the pattern/theme/experience/sensation in the body, change in breathe (you would know this well I imagine), escalation in speech, smoking more cigarettes…the list goes on relative to each person. I had to learn this in order to build awareness and to give me the understanding I was looking for. For me, and I suggest others….there are so many techniques, theories, practices (in the ‘all good stuff library”) – In my experience and in the observation of others…we (hopefully) find a set of tools, techniques, practices that a) are effective, b) comfortable in doing and c) can be done easily without to much fuss/coordination/procrastination . Its like weight loss….x lost 10kg on the diet but Y gained two kilos on the same plan. And much like weight loss you can loose half your life on trying every diet known to god and man…and still not achieve sustainable and healthy weight. This is due in part to 2 key points in my view.

      1) There’s an old saying…when people want help they’ll ask for it. If they don’t ask for it they’ll hit rock bottom and that’s probably where they need to be in order to be fixed.

      And look, I applaud those who seemingly live a less challenging life in regards to their mental health…but I’m afraid this is a lived experience, one which has not been shared or come to life up until recently (shame, guilt etc etc etc) and it takes more than a simple option of A or B (above)

      The thing about asking for help….to find the right answers, you need to start with knowing what questions to ask….for you…to understand you in order to know where to start, what next – kinda to test,measure, rinse and repeat

      Anyone who’s seen more than one therapist/specialist/practitioner will know that they themselves often don’t know when it comes to ADD ADHD in particular. In my ‘bag of all good stuff’, \I went to a highly personalised 1-month integrated health retreat/program, full bloods, western/eastern approach, Equine Therapy (god I love horses – this was a magical experience) psychotherapists, yoga, Hunter Gather/Paleo yada yada, just so I could get a more ‘holistic’ view of my whole body/mind. Their answer (and yes its part of the puzzle) was Kryptopyrroluria – common in anxiety/depression patients FYI – its where the particles in our blood (the ones that get rid of waste elements) also take with them our ability to sustain Zinc/Magnesium and Copper within out blood that our brain requires to moderate things like stress/anxiety (aka cortisole/adrenials/dopamine/seratonin). And hey…after one month of bliss in a cottage nestled in the Hinterland..I was king of the world and had it all worked out. Until, like most humans, you put yourself back into the real world and start conquering it…then good old trapped, overwhelmed and lost creeps in.

      2) In part I believe the answers/guide for each of us is within listening to our bodies/minds through awareness. Try a little of this and a little of that…not everything at once. There is no one magic bullet here. Dont think for one second ..great..I’m going to do this course, read this book, do what my friend did and YAY..Thats gonna fix alot of shit.

      This is a combo meal deal here people..ya cant just order the fries

      My point – No one silver bullet. Listen, stay still, ask more, listen again and try what feels right -test, measure, rinse, repeat or move on.

      Someone made a distinction/reframe for me once that I tend to hang onto…never more true for an ADHD brain – Move out of ‘reaction’ and into ‘response’. Meaning don’t jump too soon, take it in, sit on it, breathe, then speak/act – this is where you’ll see the difference between the two. And a very good reframe to look through in order to balance ones emotions/energy and outcome.

      Anywho – I just read through the above…Please dont take my comments as ‘preaching’ and apologies for the ramblings – This is one of few times I’ve gotten to share at this level. Thank you for making this far down the article btw. My intention is that in some small way, anyone who’s reading this can find something that may turn on a light.

      Let me wrap this up into the point I wanted to make about Schema CBT and this whole anxiety from trapped, overwhelmed and lost.

      This has been VERY interesting to discover as it shows up in relationships and in my work. (happy to share on how this shows up in work/relationships if anyone is interested and looking for some questions to ask themselves).

      I sat in a therapists office pre-diagnosis and there was a chart on the wall about attachment in parenting. .How a child needs to learn how to soothe themselves, allowed to explore knowing there’s a safe place to come back to, how to organise their feelings – I love the analogy of the child coming crying to their mother, screaming like their arm has been cutoff when in fact they fell off the swing dismount, barely a scrape, the mother kisses the finger, explains what happened and that their arm is still there…in an instant the child stops crying, runs off happy and ready to do it again, Bless.

      My first comments were…I dont remenmber my childhood and I certainly can’t recall ‘feeling’ anything like this

      When asked…what were you like as a child? My response was…at high school I hid in the library at lunchtime and walked home the long way every day in fear of bullying, I was introverted and socially awkward. I dont remember much of my child hood up until about 4th year. I had dinner with my delightful (kidding) mother a few days later and asked her…what was I like as a young child? Introverted? Her response.,…Oh no Russell, I had to sit on you to calm you down, I used to put a harness on you out in public and the neighbour across the road used to tell her if they ever had a son they would never call him Russell after hearing my mother scream my name all day. I was like WHAT? WAIT…WHAT?

      It was in that moment I discovered parts of the ‘why have I always longed for a deeper relationship with my mother (despite her not having the capacity), stayed in relationships where I’ve tried to fix others to the detriment of my own needs, the ‘please disease’, overcommit, love deeply, hurt painfully… oh hang on…this is this trapped, overwhelmed and lost thing. I never learnt how to organise my feelings, soothe myself, had a safe space to come back to and so on..I’m very interested to hear others experience centred around this in their childhood?

      When we all grew up there was no such thing as ADHD in children, let-alone adults. I get it, I accept it. BUT my question then turned to….given that I have attachment issues, anxiety, depression, self medication (at times) issues…lets throw in some shame and guilt (coming out gay in late 70’s-early 80’s – disowned by you parents until around mid 80’s when it was more fashionable to have a gay son…didnt help at such a vulnerable time) … what are the stories I told myself to be seemingly ok from an early developmental stage, and how’s is this playing out now?

      I get I was an ADHD baby, I know it balanced out in my teens, I then had my heart shattered at 30 (it took 3 years to stop talking about the breakup), my ADHD reignited and boom…hello to 24 years of surviving not thriving.

      This is where SCHEMA CBT, as opposed to a more general CBT, I believe is key to unlocking this. (I must emphasise Schema from my research and own experience). It provided me with insights into my core values and beliefs across key aspects of my life, answering questions like…so why dont I do X even though its good and will help me, why I prioritise (or not) somethings/people over others/myself, why I react (and not respond), why my heart shattered so deeply (look up the schema on significant relationships/abandonment for anyone who feels alone/hurt)

      More so, an action plan on creating small incremental steps across 5 key areas of my life. If nothing changes, nothing changes, and for someone who does everything NOW (and URGENT) last minute, or forgets – moreso often left feeling stuck (which feeds the Anxiety/Depression loop anyway) it’s sooo dam hard to invest in the long haul stuff…despite how amazing that could be. Likewise for depression…yes it will pass and come back …know this..but whats one small thing I can do during this towards the 5 key areas (check your list Russell!) thats gonna help lift me from the fog just a little earlier, a little softer and a little like I’m getting better at managing this.

      We spend our lives trying to move away from what we dont want, what we dont like or even want to accept about ourselves…and at 55 its exhausting. If we all spend more time on moving towards and not away we may find ourselves in places and experiences we could never see before. Towards what you may ask?…for me this starts with the question ..what is the relationship I want to have with myself. Without this everything else is a story with no action or self-accountability. And dam….why couldn’t there be an easier question to ask…but what a great place to start. The difference that makes the difference perhaps?

      Thanks for reading, I hope this opens a view to something they may help others in ths forum.

      Russellx

    • #128598

      pennyshore
      Participant

      Also, Russell, I meant to ask if you know of any adult adhd groups in Brisbane – either online or f2f? P.

    • #128700

      russellbullen
      Participant

      Happy Saturday Penny.

      I’m afraid I don’t sorry. I’ve subscribed to this site around 2 years ago. Great articles and community engagement however US-focused so I tended to not engage until I discovered this thread just a few days ago. Open to suggestions though.

    • #128610

      Tikay
      Participant

      Hi Russell,

      the only thing I have learned and am still doing is Autogenic Training. I think it’s a German thing 😉 but works for me, most of the time.
      I find exercising helps me to calm down, I need to move. Walking with Leslie Sansone, nordic walking (walking with poles) or step aerobics. I used to go ice skating three times a week.

      Cheers, Tikay

    • #128703

      russellbullen
      Participant

      Hi Tikay and thanks for sharing what works for you. I’m literally researching Autogenic now.

      I agree with the exercise – albeit I’m a bit of a yo-yo with it.

      BUT – you had me at Ice Skating. OMG I love ice skating. I did it at High School for sports then continued on after school. I ain’t no Torvil and Dean honey (other than in my head on the rink) but I can do a few tricks (as ya do). I’ve never really considered why I loved it so much at the time…upon reflection, I believe its because of the fresh air sweeping your face, the feeling of gliding, the self expression/dance, a sense of freedom.

      Growing up in Newcastle NSW, I remember dreaming about one day skating on an open lake (rather than the aircraft hanger-esque rink adjacent to the train lines). 10 years later I found myself in Switzerland for New Years Eve at this incredible place called Bettmeralp with my then partner (german – see comments re heart shattered at 30 above) – they were all expert skills, I, soooo not. But there was a skating rink, in the open, 2000ft up the side of a mountain. Sony Walkman on, rink to myself, light snow…at one with my skates and mother nature.

      In the words of Molly Meldrum….Do yaself a favour.

      Have an awesome weekend Tikay.

    • #128706

      Tikay
      Participant

      Hi Russell,

      I miss going skating, but it’s quite a drive to the next rink and my feet are giving me a hard time at the moment, so I’m not sure whether my boots will do them any good. Season usually started in September and it usually took a month for my feet to adjust to my boots. I do have professional boots and blades. I never had lessons, I just love skating, always have.
      Preferably with my MP3-player and an empty rink.

      Once I went skating in Davos, Switzerland and when I was a teenager my parents drove me to a rink that was outdoors. It had lots of disadvantages – weather wise, either there was water on the ice or it was bl§$§dy cold, it was impossible to skate when it was snowing or raining. Therefore I prefer an indoors rink.

      When I hear music I skate in my head – all the time… 😉

      Oh and during the last world championships I stayed up half of the night streaming the event…

      Better get back to do what I was supposed to be doing, hopefully I can get myself to do some exercises – it’s a struggle at the moment!

      Have a nice Saturday Evening,
      Tikay

  • #128910

    mary.n.ben
    Participant

    Hi guys,

    I’m Mary, 45 from Melbourne. Great idea to start this thread.
    I was diagnosed in my late twenties and have been on Ritalin since I was thirty. I have a severe case according to my psych but Ritalin has been fantastic. Growing up undiagnosed creates and exaggerates so many emotional health issues -but from what I’ve read here I was lucky to be diagnosed as early as I was. I had so many problems and by my early twenties I was a junky living on the streets. Going through rehab meant I had to address my issues though and was the beginning of a positive change.

    On top of the emotional stuff there are so many things I didn’t learn because my brain just couldn’t. The medication doesn’t make everything better but there are a lot of things I can do that I couldn’t before.
    (That took ages to type on my iPad so keeping it brief)

    • #129112

      Tikay
      Participant

      Hi Mary,

      welcome!
      It’s great to read that you were able to turn your life around!

      Do you take the normal Ritalin or the long release one?

      Cheers, Tikay

  • #128916

    Macushla68
    Participant

    Hello again, all.

    Thought I’d share this embarrassment here. I just had to call my elderly parents’ home insurer. I had let the policy lapse in June. Only realised today when I opened some mail that was dated 1 July.

    Seriously??? How hard is it to open mail??

    • #128920

      Tikay
      Participant

      Hi Macushla and all,

      I was just going to write about what I just did… lol.

      I realised I had bought some meat I wanted to freeze and it was still sitting in the fridge, started to put it in bags, then went to wash my hands in the bathroom, realised my towels were still outside on the clothes line, went outside to get them, started folding the laundry, came back into the kitchen and the meat was still on the counter.

      But hey, at least I was productive – washed linen and put it back on, vacuumed and mopped.

      My to-do-list was longer, sigh. Still couldn’t fit in my exercises…

  • #128921

    russellbullen
    Participant

    LOL Macushla & Tikay

    On opening mail…I can walk past the letterbox every day and not think to check it. Then when I do grab all the crap leaflets AND actual mail it moves to the dreaded ‘top draw in the kitchen’ – aka every bit of crap known to god and man drawer (thankfully the rest of my apartment doesn’t end up like that drawer). I Try and get things emailed (he says with 300 unfiled items in my inbox). Theres a concept called “executive function disorder’ https://www.additudemag.com/what-is-executive-function-disorder/ that talks about this (not to self Russell..read the article and the ‘how to’s’ on this).

    And Tikay…I like to call what you describe as my ‘Oh look…a bright shiny thing’ disorder/gift/pain in the A (my close friends call me on this from time to time – sweet of them). And yes you may have missed the exercise for today but just reframe it…HELLO you washed linen and put it back on, vacuumed and mopped – this is exercise!!! Tada – gold star to you today!.

    Now….where was I again..Oh yeah, thinking about what to cook for dinner.

    Have a lovely evening ladies.

    Rx

    • #129111

      Tikay
      Participant

      Thanks Russell,

      just what I needed to put a smile on my face 😉

      Guess what, yesterday I exercised! For the first time in 2 months (I had established a routine and then everything went downhill due to emotional stress, extreme emotional stress which is still ongoing, sigh), boy am I out of shape again…

      And 8 years after my move to Australia I finally filled in the form for changing the address for my government pension insurance (or whatever it is called in English)… that’s ADD procrastination at its worst…
      Also found other documents I need to sort out. I am sooo bad at that. Hold on – no, I am good at ignoring things until they go away! Most of the time they don’t, that’s a bummer.

      What did you cook for dinner? I need something for tonight.
      Yesterday we had shepherd’s pie.

      Cheers, Tikay

    • #129635

      Tikay
      Participant

      Hi Russell,

      what I forgot to ask you – where did you get your diagnosis from, how many consultations did it take and how expensive was ist?
      I am trying to figure out whether it’s worth it to have my diagnosis letters from Germany translated so I won’t have to go through the whole process again. At least for a starting point… they probably won’t rely on that alone I suspect?

      Cheers, Tikay

  • #131625

    Macushla68
    Participant

    OK. Did we all get really excited about connecting with other Australians … and then forget that we had made these connections and so not contribute any more to the thread? Or did we all get distracted by other shiny objects?

    • #131667

      Tikay
      Participant

      Look, a squirrel or a bird or…
      Well, I suppose sometimes life gets in the way. Or ADHD. Or both…
      I am definitely still here 😉

    • #131668

      Macushla68
      Participant

      Thanks, Tikay! I don’t mean to offend anyone, I just thought it was funny. Hoping that all is well with you.

      My latest doufis moment was having to ask the GP for a new referral for my Dad’s specialist, the day before the appointment, because I had the original, but have no clue as to where it is.

      I have been given a name of a clinic that specialises in hormonal etc issues so I hope to follow that up to see if they can provide some answers and maybe a further referral in need.

      How is everyone?

    • #131684

      Tikay
      Participant

      Hi Macushla,

      I don’t think you offended anyone, I thought it was funny 😉
      And I was just thinking the same thing the other day.

      Is it the Lucy Rose Clinic? There is one in Brissie as well. I came across that clinic after I found a doctor who specialises in hormones.
      I have hypothyroidism and that doctor finally ordered all the relevant blood tests and not just TSH (which was always perfect according to my GP!) since I developed a whole list of symptoms. He put me on natural hormones and within a day all my symptoms were gone!

      I am reading a very good book at the moment:
      100 questions and answers about Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) in Women and Girls
      Patricia O. Quinn, MD
      This book is gold! I got it from the library first and had to have it.
      I hope my partner is going to read it as well…

    • #131676

      pennyshore
      Participant

      Hi Tikay. How are things in sunny Brisbane? Have you made any progress with finding a group or good ADHD practitioner there?

      I have details of a Meetup group which I found for you a day or so after we were last on here……duh! Sleepy and dense at the moment but “ I WILL” post it this morning. xx

      Any realistic tips for getting to sleep are welcome.

    • #131685

      Tikay
      Participant

      Hi Pennyshore,

      not too bad. I am more aware of my ADHD at the moment and can pinpoint and relate to a lot of things.

      We (my partner and I) went to a shopping center recently and after a short time I was overwhelmed – too much noise, too many people, too much going on and I pointed that out to my partner. He responded that it is annoying him as well. Sigh. I told him that is not helping… since he is constantly saying “oh, then I might have ADHD as well”. No, don’t think so.
      He did an online test and he barely hit the 50% mark…

      I had no luck in finding a group yet. And since I am not on Facebook…
      I found a translator who would be able to translate my diagnoses into English. Just need to go ahead.
      I also might have found a psychiatrist – there is a clinic in Brendale and they have a couple of psychiatrists who specialise in ADHD.

      Funny thing – my daughter-in-law just realised she might have ADHD as well. I could have told her 8 years ago… lol.

      Oh – are your meds still working when you go to sleep?
      When I told my problems with going to sleep to my doctor in Germany he made sure my meds were still working when going to bed. That helped. My pills usually lasted for 6 hours, so I started at 6 am, then noon and then 6 pm.

  • #131672

    pennyshore
    Participant

    Macushla68 Good morning and thank you so much for stirring me to action here. I was so relieved to see your post last night because I’ve literally thought about our thread here every day…….and done.nothing.

    So yes, I remembered. Shiny objects? Maybe.
    More likely just horrible, intense procrastination!
    Just like my helpful new schedules, alarms and apps were in place two weeks ago and have now disappeared into the chasm.

    I need ADHD connections more than ever as I blunder, blindfold, through this wasteland.
    I’ve been diagnosed and medicated for 4.5 whole months 😅 and I do value these connections.

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