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    • #186983
      Asbury1415
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      Our son who just turned 12 was recently diagnosed with ADHD with areas of Executive Function Disorder and language processing.

      We are in the process of finding a counselor for him as recommended.

      We are at a crossroads with medication. His focus on homework is out the window. He has temper tantrums that are not age appropriate at home only.

      I am looking for pro’s and con’s experiences with medications. What worked and what didn’t.

      Any input is helpful. Thanks

    • #186984
      adiner
      Participant

      Hi, I have a 12-year-old son with ADHD as well. I also have ADHD and have been taking medication for over 10 years.
      The change with medication is to find the right fit. Ideally, you find a clinician with good references and work through the process with them. It is important to make sure your son does not loos confidence in his ability, and medication can help with that. If they loos confidence it is much harder to get back on track.

    • #187040
      Dr. Eric
      Participant

      My favorite quote about medication is from Ned Hallowell’s podcast.

      “Waiting to try meds for ADHD is like telling someone with bad eyesight to squint harder for a year before trying glasses.”

    • #187054
      Penny Williams
      Keymaster

      His behavior isn’t age appropriate sometimes because ADHD is a developmental disorder. He’s behind in some areas, and frustration tolerance and emotional regulation and communication are very likely. Outbursts signal that your child is HAVING a hard time, not GIVING you a hard time.

      Your Child Is Not Giving You a Hard Time. Your Child Is Having a Hard Time.

      Your Child’s ADHD Is an Iceberg

      Medication isn’t a “fix” — it’s one tool in a large toolbox. Medication may help with this and a whole like more, but remember that you have to work on your parenting approach and your child’s lagging skills as well to see real improvement.

      We had a great experience with medication for my son for about 8 years. After puberty, medication became too focusing for him and he couldn’t tolerate it well anymore. It was a complete game-changer for him when it worked though.

      Penny
      ADDitude Community Moderator, Parenting ADHD Coach, Podcaster & Author, Mom to teen w/ ADHD, LDs, and autism

    • #194825
      JULIA BECKER
      Participant

      Hello! If you have gone through a psychiatrist, they will give very specific recommendations. Combination of therapy and medication has done wonders for us. Individual therapy, social skills group therapy, and sometimes family sessions. An IEP would help with adhd related accomodations but especially executive functioning. Consider hiring an advocate to help. For medication, a stimulant and non stimulant medication combination worked best for us. It helped limit negdtiv

    • #194826
      JULIA BECKER
      Participant

      Negative side effects, and Guanfacine the non stimulant took the edge off tantrums/lashing out. Having a great teacher and administrator is SO key to treating our child appropriately. Keep the communication up. I remind myself and others that parts of the brain are delayed for now, but will catch up. There is a dysregulation if chemicals in the brain, so the things that motivate most people literally aren’t enough for those with ADHD.

    • #195472
      mariaken
      Participant

      Hang in there. My 11 year old dtr dx with adhd this year. Pediatrician recommended a psychologist who confirmed with testing. After 6 months and trial of 5 meds we finally got her on the daytrana patch which works for her. We also do adhd coaching once a week. Highly recommend coaching. My dtr refused to join in but we have learned so much on how to help our dtr. It was so eye opening. She is now talking a little bit but our approach to her has improved and behaviors improved by over 50% even without the meds.
      It’s a process but so worth it
      Best to you

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