Mom with adhd can’t function as a parent anymore

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    borriello1
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    Hi everyone I’m knew here as a member but long time reader. So I was diagnosed with adhd in 3rd grade. At that time I was given Ritalin. However my mom didn’t like the side affects so I was taken off. Basically since high school I’ve been on and off meds. I like to go off for a while so I do t get used to it. The thing is recently I’ve had no energy for anything what so ever. I can’t even get out of bed in the morning because its just so overwhelming for me to even think of trying to function and do what I have to do. Which is a lot. I have a 2 yr old and I just can’t do what I used to do with her. Like 2 months ago. So it’s definitely recent and kinda an overnight shift. I just couldn’t get out of bed one day cuz I knew I couldn’t take the tiny steps I usually do to get through the day. Now I’m thinking that this whole lock down has a lot to do with it. We’re in the house all day and it’s just not good for either of us. I started out great actually very proud of all the things I was able to entertain her with but just not anymore. I can’t read and finish a book without getting up 6 times for stupid things. I can’t play with her like I used to cuz I just can’t sit through anything. I’m going crazy. I made the first steps today to see a doctor however he isn’t an adhd specialist but he’s willing to see me. Thank God. But is this tiredness normal? It’s almost like being in a coma. My main goal is to be a better parent. Like I said 2 months ago I was a great parent. But now I just do the basics. And even ask for help with that. I get irritated pretty quick to. Something definitely took a turn recently and I know my adhd has definitely contributed to it or may even be the source of it. Has anyone else ever felt loke this? Especially the crazy druggy tiredness

  • #174519

    Sprite75
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    Is it possible you are experiencing depression? I don’t have ADHD, but I do have Major Depressive Disorder. Some of what you described sounds like depression. I know it’s not uncommon for people with ADHD to also suffer with depression and anxiety. Just my thoughts. I pray that you find relief soon.I know how hard it is to have to raise children while dealing with these kinds of issues.

  • #174550

    Penny Williams
    Keymaster

    I agree, I thought of depression as well. The current crises in the world are leading to a lot of depression and anxiety. Here’s a self-test for the possibility of depression:

    [Self-Test] Depression in Adults

    Penny
    ADDitude Community Moderator, Parenting ADHD Coach, Podcaster & Author, Mom to teen w/ ADHD, LDs, and autism

  • #174707

    AdeleS546
    Participant

    As someone who has a 30-year history of depression, it sounds like depression to me.

  • #174762

    borriello1
    Participant

    Hey guys. Thank you so much for your responses. So I thought it also might be depression but I actually pretty happy with my life. That’s y I want to get up and live it. I also thought maybe it was hormonal but no it wasn’t. And I also had to take an assessment for the doctor I’ll be seeing later this month and it didn’t fall into the depression area. It just seems like a very lazy feeling. I can’t get done what I need to do. I wanna pick up toys but then I stop to go clean the bathroom and I stop that to go back to the toys. Nothing gets done. I just can’t face the day and get up knowing I can’t complete one thing I wanna do. I get overwhelmed before I even get out of bed. I can’t figure it out

  • #176251

    Getittogethergirl
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    That feeling led me to my adhd diagnosis because it wouldn’t go away on anti-depressants. Adderall has helped me so much with that. I was completely immobilized mentally and so tired! I still get that way sometimes, especially when I feel over-stimulated or miss a dose. I am on anti-anxiety meds and adderall now and feel like a human being again.

    My doctor said that feeling of overwhelm to the point of paralysis is very common with adhd and so is tiredness.

    Also, I have always struggled with feeling tired/anxious but had been able to cope until I started having kids and new mommy responsibilities.

  • #176505

    Cmc71jip
    Participant

    Hi there, I completely understand your feelings. I experienced it just today and found it so hard to get out of bed and put one foot in front of the other. The mundanity of everyday seems to be the driver for me, and the “known” of what’s going to happen next. I have 2 boys who are 9 and 11 and we did virtual/homeschool the last half of the school year. We have no idea what is going to happen with them in the fall. If we will be forced to do it again or will they return to school as planned. This is very stressful and overwhelming at times.

    Hang in there and know you are not alone. We can and will get through this!!!

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