Is it too late for help for me?

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    I am sixty-nine years young. I have carried a depression diagnosis for over forty years, and have been on medication for thirty five years. I have had a lot of therapy with a lot of therapists over the years, sometimes it has been intensive psycho therapy three days a week for three years. I began talking to therapists about my ADD symptoms about ten years ago. They all continue to insist that it is just my depression flaring up with various life stressors. Their solution was to keep increasing my anti depression medicine. My current psychiatrist also downplays my ADD symptoms, stating that what I am describing is probably more to do with “Personality Stuff” and insisting that I get back into regular therapy.
    On the ADD test I took today on this site, I scored a 77. On every test I take anywhere, I always score high with suggestions that I need to talk to a DR. about my symptoms and take him the test results. I have done that to no avail. In reading several of the posts in this forum, some of you sound like you are describing me to a Tee. I know I have ADD, I’ve lived with it all my life. I try and try all the things self help articles and magazines tell me to do, and believe me I try very hard (just as example I have completed a Masters Degree, and still cant pull my life together – I have no savings, 401K, income, no car, I do not own a home. I’m living hand to mouth and it “aint” because I don’t have any smarts).
    Now that I have no responsibilities, or obligations (My husband died six months ago. I had been caring for him for five years) I would love to be able to focus on me and get my life in some order before it’s too late. Are the professionals feeling that it’s already too late, and don’t want to tell me that directly? Do any/all of you feel it’s too late? If not, I need help getting the professionals to listen and diagnose me. I’m not even sure if a diagnosis will help. All I know is I don’t want to live out the rest of my life like this.

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    Uncle Dharma

    I am 67 years young. Everyone assumes that I am 10 to 15 years younger than I am, and then say that I am young at heart and so on.

    My formal diagnosis was 10 year ago, and it helped me a lot.

    My solution is to have a routine that is forced upon you. By this I mean, a job or regular volunteer work. This gets you out and about and meeting people.

    Then I hope to be able to focus on the two books that I have in me.

    Sending hugs.

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    Thank you Uncle Dharma for responding to my post. It is good to hear that having the Diagnosis helps. I think I’m going to push forward in getting a diagnosis. I do have some obligations that get me out of the house, which is good. It’s when I’m home that’s the problem. I too have so many things (I also have a couple of books I’ve had in my head for almost 20 years) I’d like to accomplish, but try as I may, haven’t been able to get to them. I refuse to give up though. That’s why I’m pursuing a diagnosis at this late stage. Good luck with your books. Sending hugs back. Namaste.

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