February 13, 2018 at 7:27 pm #76407
Im hoping other parents have had this feeling atleast once in their lives..My 9yo son with ADHD with impulsivity..has grown into what I think is ODD along with it and every day Im getting talked back to with words that only adults would say..or hateful things..but 5 min later he wants to hug his mama and 10 min later he’s slamming a door because I didn’t get him chocolate milk as fast as he wanted..I feel like Im going crazy..we stopped therapy for awhile until our next appointment with a new psychiatrist because I think we need a fresh breath of air..am I wrong for feeling this way..I feel like Im trapped at home because I can’t go out because I have no idea what attitude could come up because he didn’t get his way..I read all this stuff on ODD and the theme of them having a bad or difficult childhood..but my child wasn’t adopted or in the foster system we are middle class..we have a loving family..and his father and I have never been married but we share time with him whenever his Dad wants him so no courts or fighting..Im just baffled and can’t explain how I can get ahold of these issues…Thanks for letting me vent
February 14, 2018 at 8:32 am #76416
Try diet changes. It helped us a lot
Do not take his behavior personally. These are just symptoms.
You try meditation and try to keep yourself calm. Taking good care of yourself and doing what you love, resting when needed will help you be more patient.
Try avoiding a yes/no interaction. Try ‘may be later’ or ‘sure, after studies’ as your answers.
Put ur foot down and without drama stick to ur yes or no response.
Hope something from these will help you.
February 14, 2018 at 10:26 am #76429
Remembering that it’s not a personal attack will help you to stay calm with him, which is absolutely paramount.
Explosive behavior often comes from lagging skills (like frustration tolerance, flexibility, etc…) and/or feeling like no one truly listens or understands them. Ross Greene is the explosive behavior “guru.” I highly recommend you read his books, The Explosive Child and Raising Human Beings. His approach is life-changing. Here’s an overview of it:
Kids with ADHD are also often very intense.
ADDitude Community Moderator, Author & Mentor on Parenting ADHD, Mom to teen w/ ADHD, LDs, and autism
February 17, 2018 at 2:37 pm #76684
HI ASJD,Please find out behaviour stratergies by professionals or any videos or webinars or blogs.Maybe you can corelate that information withthe problems you are facing now.I dont have link but one webinar of dr. Greens in additude is really good.Good luck.
February 20, 2018 at 9:09 am #76745
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I know that my ADHD daughter can aggevate me to thebpoint of not liking her very much 😊 Maybe bc oc of the mother daughter relationship or maybe bc I bc I am ADHA myself but she seems to try me harder than anyone else. She tries to use the ADHA on thigs like forgetting to put her plates up after breakfast. Almost so accepting of the symptons likethe using the symptoms to blame for her bad behavior. She was taking concerta but still wasnt pafocusing so starting tomorrow we will be exploring how vyvanse effects her. After researching this medicine, it seems as though this medicine can make her aggitated. I thought that the m eds were suppose to calm her ragging AD gd
February 21, 2018 at 8:07 pm #76922
I hear you and get you. I often dislike my son’s attitude and how he acts. I love him so much and I think about him a lot. I miss him when he’s at school even. But there are too many days that I can’t stand his behavior. He’s 17 and I tell you at that age it ain’t pretty lol. My advice is to set your rules clearly and firmly. If you say NO, don’t ever cave into changing your mind. If you give him a punishment, stick to it. I wish I’d done that. Because I was too soft and would sometimes change my mind I created a battleground for myself. My son has adhd, odd, and high anxiety. He’s adorable and can be so thoughtful and loving. My parenting is what made him worse though. Not his fault. And definitely don’t let the name calling get to you. It’s their impulsivity. He doesn’t really mean it.
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