Tagged: Marriage/relationship over
December 11, 2019 at 5:59 pm #136209grahamafbParticipant
Hello Fellow ADHD Crew,
Please can someone chip in with some guidance on my next steps?
I’m going through a separation right now and my wife is stepping away from supporting me in my day to day life. I’m falling down at work with all the extra stress going on. I have gone back on my meds to try and stabilise my situation, not really helping.. I just seem to be staying up all night trying to figure out a plan! Still don’t have a plan. I have been trying to start up my own Etsy shop (small business adventure idea.) for the past year and don’t seem to be making any progress. To describe me at the moment. I’m a hot mess. I’m really trying to get it right with my two sons as well. I know that’s super important with the impending separation. Thank you for checking in!
December 12, 2019 at 7:29 am #136240quietlylostParticipant
I’d suggest seeking professional support while you’re dealing with all this. A therapist can be immensely helpful.
December 13, 2019 at 10:45 am #136310Penny WilliamsKeymaster
Yes, a therapist… or an ADHD coach. Someone who takes a coach approach (some therapists do) to guide you through the process and support you with meeting your goals and in general day-to-day functioning.
ADDitude Community Moderator, Parenting ADHD Trainer & Author, Mom to teen w/ ADHD, LDs, and autism
December 15, 2019 at 9:48 am #136381Skypark962Participant
I’m sorry you’re going through this.
If the meds aren’t helping, look into brand name or adjusting the dosage. The meds should be helping if it’s helped you before.
What is your current job? Any other stressors other than separation?
- This reply was modified 1 year, 4 months ago by Skypark962.
December 16, 2019 at 6:23 pm #136635grahamafbParticipant
Thank you all for the suggestions. I have seen my doctor and started back on the medication. The dose has been adjusted, I’m starting to have more focused days and I’m achieving more in work. This is helping to lower my stress levels. I work in management. Good point about the brand name, certain ones do work better than others. I think it’s to do with the inactive ingredients.. I will look into the therapist option, I certainly could do with some talk therapy! The other stressor is really about managing my day to day. I have had my wife overseeing certain aspects like managing finances, shopping and keeping things in order at home. I guess it’s time for me to get the support I need, stick to a plan for more than 3 days and make it happen.
- This reply was modified 1 year, 4 months ago by grahamafb.
December 22, 2019 at 11:34 am #137057Ndrw82Participant
We can all agree that marriages/relationships are all very nuanced, and no two are exactly alike.. and I dont know for sure if what I have to offer is applicable to you, given the dynamics of your specific relationship… However, I am currently operating in a situation that seems to have a LOT of parallels.
I resisted podcasts for a long time, until I heard a couple that were a good fit for my situation/learning style/needs. I’m sure you could find some really good discussions on implementing the right kind of tools and communication skills to help you during this difficult time.
For starters, the ADDitude Podcast is fantastic. You can scroll through and find some titles that cover topics of interest. I’ll share some of my favorites in another post.. for now..
Apple phones and devices can use Apple Podcast app. I use a Samsung/Android and downloaded the Stitcher app. Both have some shortcomings but overall very user friendly.
Specific shows and episodes to follow.
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