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    bullitt031
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    I’m 32, I’ve had a pretty good idea I was ADHD all my life. My parent’s didn’t think so though, and my dad just kept saying that he had the same problems and I just needed to try harder.

    He was a C student. I was an A student. I was smart enough to compensate in school. 10 minutes of paying attention was all i needed to understand the material. I struggled with remembering homework assignments and projects though.

    I struggled in college as well. I started out as Pre Med, a double biology and chemistry major because that’s what the smart kids do. I loved math. Took Calculus my first semester (a junior level course) and had an A in it. But i was failing biology because i couldn’t memorize the endless lists of classifications. I couldn’t keep up.

    After a year, i switched to nursing. I felt like a dropout, and a lot of my friends who were in pre-med with me told me just that. Once in nursing school, we took a psychology class. I asked my professor about ADHD. He was nice enough to let me come to his practice and screen me. He told me I was definitely ADHD. Told my parents. They took me somewhere else for a second screening, who confirmed. Finally!!!

    The second guy couldn’t prescribe, so he sent me with a report to get meds elsewhere. Had trouble finding a doctor to give me meds. When I finally did, they put me on Strattera. No amphetamine salts. I get it. I’m in college at this time, high risk for abuse. So I started taking it. I changed my whole personality. My grades went up a letter and I was far better at school, but my fiance told me how much I had changed on the meds.

    Strattera is a blood level thing, you have to keep taking it. No med breaks there. So I toughed it out through nursing school and quit the meds. It shot my blood pressure through the roof. Ended up finally getting everything under control, but now I’m off meds.

    I worked as a nurse, and struggled to keep everything straight. Luckily I never hurt anybody, but I had one close call that I know would not have happened if I had my ADHD managed. I went back to school and got an MBA. I went into home health, became a director of a branch and now I argue appeals for Medicare payments in front of a judge. By everybody else’s standards, I’m doing well right?

    Well every day is HARD. I struggle to remember things, I forget them. I’m paranoid i’m going to get fired because no matter how hard I try I always screw something up. I’m stressed out and don’t know what to do. I decide to give meds a try again. Ask for maybe something just as needed from my family doctor. He gives me Vyvanse. That stuffs expensive. I’ll only take it when I need it. This doesn’t really work. I try taking it every day. By day 3 I’m miserable. I feel terrible and I quit the meds. Feel better the next day, but still no problems really solved.

    Months later I try again. I resolve to try it for a couple of weeks. I take the meds Monday-Friday. After the first week. Things level out. I’m going great. I’ve doubled my productivity at work. BUT, my now wife says i’m grumpy and short. At supper, the kids noise literally hurts my ears. I feel kind of hung over at the end of the day. So I go back to my family physician. I get a referral to a psychiatrist, but i can’t get in until October, 5 months away. My doctor tries swapping me to Adderall. Low dosage at first, not really effective. Trying the next level up.

    I’m so frustrated with this whole thing. I just want to be able to work and the people around me actually enjoy being around me. If I’m off the meds I’m so stressed out my wife can’t handle it. On them I’m irritable and she gets her feelings hurt. I don’t know what to think at this point. I don’t even know what to expect out of all this. I’m discouraged for sure. I feel like my brain and emotions are just broken. Ridiculous conclusion considering my job, salary, family, and all that I have going for me. People tell me to be content, to try harder. My wife is tired of dealing with me for the past 9 years. But this is all really hard.

    Thanks for reading. Just was hoping for some encouragement. At least typing this into a forum where somebody else might actually understand feels a little better. Here’s to you guys having a better time managing your ADHD better than I am currently!

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    bullitt031
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    newbie, trying to figure out this forum

  • #90803

    ADHDmomma
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    There are two types of stimulants: amphetamine (Adderall, Vyvanse, Evekeo…) and methylphenidate (Ritalin, Concerta, Quillivant…). Almost everyone does well on one type or the other, but not both. It sounds like you may need to try a methylphenidate and see if you respond better with less side effects.

    Here’s everything you need to know about ADHD medication:

    A Patient’s Primer on the Stimulant Medications Used to Treat ADHD

    Penny
    ADDitude Community Moderator, Parenting ADHD Trainer & Author, Mom to teen w/ ADHD, LDs, and autism

  • #90821

    hayes
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    Bullitt

    Thanks for sharing your story! I’m a high school teacher (24 years) diagnosed 16 yrs ago at age 35. I definitely relate to your struggles, both at work and home (2 kids, now 17 & 20). For the longest time, in thought that meds were sole remedy for this ADD ‘thing’ – until I put my marriage in jeopardy almost 15 months ago now. I share the same anxiety and shame that you do. The thing I didn’t realize was that I also needed a solid treatment plan in place, as well. For me, thatnincluded therapy as well as meds (Concerta 54mg).

    Having an objective third party to sort things out with has made all the difference for me. From your post, I didn’t get the sense that you’ve tried this route yet. Might this be something worth pursuing? We ADD’ers need additional supports – because as you say (as I experienced, too), attending to and keeping track of everything in our days is HARD. It’s still a struggle for me sometimes, but I’ve got the supports in place that I need, when I need them. I have an amazing family, as well; I sense you do, too (your wife is still with you in this – a huge difference-maker!).

    Just wanted you to know that there are lots of us out here walking the same road – when we don’t wander off, that is! 😉 Keep at it – and check back on this board if you need to. I wish you well on your journey… Chris

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