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    aamay19
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    I’ve recently been diagnosed with ADHD by my psychiatrist. I’m 21 year old female, and have been struggling for awhile with symptoms that seemed like ADHD. My brother has ADHD and was diagnosed very, very young in life so I guess I had always assumed that I would have been diagnosed earlier. I also got good grades all through elementary and high school and even got a scholarship for college which made me feel like it was impossible that I had any form of an attention deficit disorder even though I was struggling with so many symptoms. I also struggle with OCD which I am on medication for and that helped me do well in school (because I was so obsessive about organizing papers and making everything look perfect), as well as my parents are both smart so maybe things just naturally came to me. Of course, I still struggled with being forgetful, seeming careless and whatnot but my mother always just told me I lacked common sense and I didn’t care about anything. I was always unable to make the connection between her feedback and my actions and I wasn’t sure why but it made me very depressed.
    I started suspecting I had ADHD when I learned more about it throughout my college experience. I’m a psychology major in my sophomore year and my courses have shed some light on the disorder, past what I thought it was in the past. I learned that sometimes it goes unnoticed and symptoms manifest differently. I told my therapist at the time and she seemed like she didn’t believe me. She never told me I was wrong but I could tell she didn’t. I’ve gotten a new psychiatrist that specializes in ADHD and he diagnosed me and put my on Concerta recently. I haven’t felt a difference at all, and I’m wondering if there’s something wrong. I take it in the morning and sometimes take a nap a few hours later which seems abnormal. I also still feel all the same things I did before, like struggling with keeping my mind in one place and the urge to rush around. Does anyone know if Concerta takes awhile to work?
    I’m struggling in college, getting horrible grades, can’t show up on time for classes, and constantly forgetting due dates even though I write them all down and review them every single day. I just feel like something in my brain is broken and no matter how hard I try it’s not going to work. I want to be good at school and I want to become a psychologist but I can barely get through my sophomore year of undergrad because my head is such a mess and I can’t even pinpoint everything that’s going wrong because there’s just so much. I’m on antidepressants and I’m not feeling generally depressed but very disheartened and like I won’t ever be able to be or do what I want to do because I seem to be lacking what it takes.
    I also told my NEW therapist (2nd time meeting) and she asked me what did I tell my psychiatrist to make him think I had ADHD, rather than what symptoms am I struggling with or something? I Just feel so invalidated, even though I thought my diagnosis would be the end of the invalidation. She said ADHD develops in childhood and stays present, not just a recent thing. I felt the need to almost justify my doctor’s diagnosis and now I’m even second-guessing myself and I feel stuck in this cycle of invalidating myself and feeling like a failure with a brain that won’t work. I’m just wholeheartedly stuck on what to do next.

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    Penny Williams
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    There are two types of stimulants: amphetamine (Adderall, Vyvanse, Evekeo…) and methylphenidate (Ritalin, Concerta, Quillivant…). Almost everyone does well on one type or the other, but not both. It could be that you don’t respond to methylphenidate and would do better with an amphetamine.

    A Patient’s Primer on the Stimulant Medications Used to Treat ADHD

    Penny
    ADDitude Community Moderator, Parenting ADHD Trainer & Author, Mom to teen w/ ADHD, LDs, and autism

  • #131181

    Jesudota
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    Why don’t you simply use behavioral therapy instead of medication, you seem worse now than before you started taking meds. You said you got ggood grades before didn’t you?

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