It just isn’t fair.
I have no problem chatting with someone or going up to a total stranger and taking to them, when it’s for for business reasons or directions, general day to day stuff.
But if I’m attracted to someone, just the thought of asking if they’re single or asking them out on a date causes a near panic attack, when I could muster the courage to ask someone out I always got rejected, and once I was literally humiliated in front of a hundred plus people, and thanks to the emotional disregulation of ADD, I get to relive those emotions with every bit of intensity.
The feelings and the memories will not fade, and because of that I avoid most all causal situations.
I’m going to end up with a house full of cats, I just know it.
I’ve always thought, that when it’s the right person and there’s a connection, one of you will approach, even if it’s super hard for you. I know it’s hard, but be as optimistic as possible and it will truly help. 😉
ADDitude Community Moderator, Parenting ADHD Trainer & Author, Mom to teen w/ ADHD, LDs, and autism
Therapy will help 🙂 I say that from experience. Focusing on being happy with yourself and not worrying so much about what the potential other person thinks. Honestly, you’re probably pretty awesome, and if you like you other people will too. That’s probably why business relationships are so much easier. You’re confident there.
My husband and I became friends before we fell in love. You never know when you’ll naturally find someone you really click with.
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