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    • #54089
      island nellie
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      My ADHD/Autistic son constantly uses swear words. Can anyone help??

    • #54112
      anomalocaris
      Participant

      Does he get an allowance? If so, he pays a dollar every time he uses one of those words. Keep a tally and at the end of the week he gets what’s left of his allowance. Don’t act shocked by his language, or make a big deal over it. — that’s likely exactly what he’s looking for. Just record it and calmly let him know you’re recording it. Expect him to test you with tantrums the first time he sees that you’re following through on the consequences. Remind him that how he spends his allowance is entirely up to him, and he chose to spend it on swearing. If he doesn’t get a rise out of you and all it gets him is lost allowance, he’ll get tired of it pretty quickly. Rewarding him with an emotional reaction will perpetuate the problem.

    • #54274
      Penny Williams
      Keymaster

      This is often due to the impulsivity of ADHD. It can sometimes be oppositional behavior.

      Here’s how one parent deals with it:

      “My Son Can’t Help It — So I Don’t Punish Him”

      Penny
      ADDitude Community Moderator, Author & Mentor on Parenting ADHD, Mom to teen w/ ADHD, LDs, and autism

    • #54584
      sdkotyarova
      Participant

      Have you ever heard of Asperger Experts.com? They seem to have a lot of practical ideas. You can get a lot information for free and youtube videos, facebook, and purchase specific courses and books, as well as join in a online support group.
      Their general guideline is to keep asking questions; a or b; until you get to the root problem. When does he cuss? You can say “I’ve noticed you’ve been cussing when …… happens”. Do you think you’re mad or upset when that happens? What makes you upset then? is it a or b? etc
      I’m just knew to this information myself, but it seems like it will be helpful.
      stephanie

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