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August 10, 2018 at 10:33 pm #90824
Does anyone have issues with catastrophizing (bad spelling) in other words, projecting worries about things that will probably never happen in your personal life. Kind of like having to have your spouse’s maybe (dysfucntional) relatives move in with you. (This may be a kind of bad example) or like me thinking of doing a work at home job and thinking of everything that can go wrong before even starting (like computer crashing and not being able to complete work) I am 60 and was diagnosed 6 mths ago. My mother used tell me I was ‘projecting” back when I was a kid. I can never set and reach of goal because I either can’t remember I set it or can’t get past all the thoughts of what can go wrong. It’s very frustrating way to live.
August 10, 2018 at 11:36 pm #90827
Yes! I’ve been thinking this way for as long as I can remember. My Mother always told me I always ” over thought too much”. I agree, it’s extremely frustrating. It’s like my anxiety and ADD are mixed together and in my opinion I think it’s held me back from so many things in life. I often wonder where I’d be if I didn’t have these issues. I wish I had some advice or words of encouragement for you, but unfortunately I’m in the same boat. You’re not alone in thinking this way though.
August 11, 2018 at 3:11 pm #90840
Thanks, It makes me feel better to know that I am not alone. Not that I am glad that you struggle as well. Things are always a little easy to handle when you learn why you act a certain way and that you are not alone.
August 11, 2018 at 3:45 pm #90841
Yes, I’m dealing with this exact issue too. I’ve been seeing a counselor for anxiety and he recently diagnosed me as ADD. He told me the other day that he has worked for many years with many different clients with anxiety, but the very hardest to treat are those with ADD. He said it’s because our minds can move 90 miles an hour and go between many different things at once, and so your mind can be vividly imagining 100 different things going wrong, and it’s hard to bring your focus back to the reality here and now. Think about an ADD student in a classroom and the teacher is giving a lesson. he might be able to pay attention to her for a bit but soon his mind is going off into all sorts of other places. That’s sort of what it’s like trying to keep your mind in the here and now. You try to live in the present but soon your mind is off imagining a million different scenarios where things could go wrong. And you start getting anxious about all the things you’re imagining even though they aren’t real; they’re in your imagination.
I have found it very helpful to keep bringing my attention back to the here and now, to where I am and what I’m doing and what is happening in the present. When I start to get anxious I ask myself what am I thinking about… and inevitably I’m thinking about some doomsday scenario and I didn’t even realize it. Then I try to bring myself back to the present reality. My counselor has me say “I’m right here, right now.” Whatever that scary image was that I was imagining, that’s not real, this is real. I look at my surroundings and take a breath and tell myself, “I’m right here.” I dismiss whatever I was imagining by saying “that isn’t real.” This has helped me to recognize little by little that the things I’m imagining aren’t real and that I can live at peace in the present.
I think people with ADD/ADHD can struggle with anxiety because we’re incredibly good at creating an imaginary hell and then living there in our heads instead of living in the reality around us.
I’m still new at working through all of this but this has been my experience so far. I’d love other people’s thoughts or resources if anyone has some.
August 12, 2018 at 4:35 pm #90941
Thanks. I also heard it said when those thoughts come into our heads to also simply say ‘cancel’. Only problem is I forget to do that. ADD/ADHD with anxiety and depression is a triple threat. It’s like Adhd on steroids!
August 20, 2018 at 12:40 pm #91707
I also have been diagnosed with ADHD recently, at age 58, and before that was always told it was anxiety and depression issues. Like so many others diagnosed late in adult life, it’s helpful to finally know why I’ve struggled through life more than others, yet I still worry excessively and focus on those “what ifs”, usually going to worse case scenarios first. I am trying to stay focused on the present, as posted above, yet it is very hard. If I’m stuck on an issue too long, I try to think through or write down what is the worse thing that could happen, and even if that happen, talk through how I could survive even that happening, as long as I have my health, support of family and friends, etc. I am now going to try to use the advice posted here, like using the word “cancel” before I give myself time to get carried away by my thoughts.
I am also trying to practice mindfulness techniques, which basically have you focus on being in the present and clearing your mind of those worries, and just focus on your breathing and what your body is experiencing at this exact moment. They say if you practice mindfulness regularly, it is easier to keep yourself in the present when you need to stop worrying or when your emotions race out of control beyond what the situation would cause in non-ADHD people.
I will also share that after getting on ADHD medication, in my case, Vyvanse, I tried to get off Effexor, which I was using to address my depression and anxiety symptoms. My psychiatrist sent me to an endocrinologist who put me on Estrogen which has really helped clear my thinking back to my younger days, but I found I still struggle with anxiety, and having my emotions be right on the surface all the time. After struggling to try to master the anxiety without medication for a few months, I finally went back on a lower dose of Effexor, and now the combination of all these things has helped me feel better than I have in a long time. I feel like I can deal with my emotions appropriately, although I still have the ADHD hyper-emotions they talk about, but I now know what that is and why I experience it, and I can try to use the other methods in this post to work through them. I hope something I’ve shared helps you and others in this forum – I find it very reassuring to know there are others struggling with the same issues I struggle with, and I’m thankful that people are willing to share so openly here.
August 20, 2018 at 1:03 pm #91714
This describes me as well. I have been told by everyone that I overthink things and that I typically do worst case scenario which rarely helps prepare me anyway even if something negatives happens. I am not on ADHD medication, my son was diagnosed as ADHD combined type and was taking Vyvanse and recently is being switched to Adderall XR. I would love to take the time to be evaluated because I have always felt distracted and forgetful and I feel like I am likely the Inattentive type.
August 21, 2018 at 2:06 am #91798
I’m finally reading the emails that have somehow came to me. I probably signed up and I forgot I did with my numerous tasks of work, etc. Reading your posts makes me feel that I understand what’s been going on in my head for a while. My problem is that I’ve been to a number of therapists, psychologist, and social workers and I either get couch time or pills that only partially work. With time, I chose no pills due to the side effects of each. Reading your post, I wonder if I could reach out to another prescribing therapist or provider that might finally realize it could be adhd with depression and anxiety. How do you find the right provider?
August 21, 2018 at 12:18 pm #91839
Have been doing this since a child. Remember 60 YRS ago,as a 2nd grader, I had to carry Mother’s cookie contribution to school. Was sure I was going to drop them. In my mind I rehearsed all the ways I could fail from the string breaking, to tripping, to a bus accident…. The cookies got there intact but I’ve carried the worry habit most of my life.
I learned to cope by writing out my fear, including all the ways I could fail. Then I evaluate the odds and look for ways to increase my chances to negotiate them. This takes time and discipline which are both issues for me. And before long I can say ” enough already. Get back to life”.
All this was before I was diagnosed with ADHD. Now I have an explanation. Also realized that I was using my hyper-focus in an unhelpful way. I still worry about things but can stop before panic disables me.
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