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August 10, 2018 at 10:33 pm #90824
Does anyone have issues with catastrophizing (bad spelling) in other words, projecting worries about things that will probably never happen in your personal life. Kind of like having to have your spouse’s maybe (dysfucntional) relatives move in with you. (This may be a kind of bad example) or like me thinking of doing a work at home job and thinking of everything that can go wrong before even starting (like computer crashing and not being able to complete work) I am 60 and was diagnosed 6 mths ago. My mother used tell me I was ‘projecting” back when I was a kid. I can never set and reach of goal because I either can’t remember I set it or can’t get past all the thoughts of what can go wrong. It’s very frustrating way to live.
August 10, 2018 at 11:36 pm #90827
Yes! I’ve been thinking this way for as long as I can remember. My Mother always told me I always ” over thought too much”. I agree, it’s extremely frustrating. It’s like my anxiety and ADD are mixed together and in my opinion I think it’s held me back from so many things in life. I often wonder where I’d be if I didn’t have these issues. I wish I had some advice or words of encouragement for you, but unfortunately I’m in the same boat. You’re not alone in thinking this way though.
August 11, 2018 at 3:11 pm #90840
Thanks, It makes me feel better to know that I am not alone. Not that I am glad that you struggle as well. Things are always a little easy to handle when you learn why you act a certain way and that you are not alone.
August 11, 2018 at 3:45 pm #90841
Yes, I’m dealing with this exact issue too. I’ve been seeing a counselor for anxiety and he recently diagnosed me as ADD. He told me the other day that he has worked for many years with many different clients with anxiety, but the very hardest to treat are those with ADD. He said it’s because our minds can move 90 miles an hour and go between many different things at once, and so your mind can be vividly imagining 100 different things going wrong, and it’s hard to bring your focus back to the reality here and now. Think about an ADD student in a classroom and the teacher is giving a lesson. he might be able to pay attention to her for a bit but soon his mind is going off into all sorts of other places. That’s sort of what it’s like trying to keep your mind in the here and now. You try to live in the present but soon your mind is off imagining a million different scenarios where things could go wrong. And you start getting anxious about all the things you’re imagining even though they aren’t real; they’re in your imagination.
I have found it very helpful to keep bringing my attention back to the here and now, to where I am and what I’m doing and what is happening in the present. When I start to get anxious I ask myself what am I thinking about… and inevitably I’m thinking about some doomsday scenario and I didn’t even realize it. Then I try to bring myself back to the present reality. My counselor has me say “I’m right here, right now.” Whatever that scary image was that I was imagining, that’s not real, this is real. I look at my surroundings and take a breath and tell myself, “I’m right here.” I dismiss whatever I was imagining by saying “that isn’t real.” This has helped me to recognize little by little that the things I’m imagining aren’t real and that I can live at peace in the present.
I think people with ADD/ADHD can struggle with anxiety because we’re incredibly good at creating an imaginary hell and then living there in our heads instead of living in the reality around us.
I’m still new at working through all of this but this has been my experience so far. I’d love other people’s thoughts or resources if anyone has some.
August 12, 2018 at 4:35 pm #90941
Thanks. I also heard it said when those thoughts come into our heads to also simply say ‘cancel’. Only problem is I forget to do that. ADD/ADHD with anxiety and depression is a triple threat. It’s like Adhd on steroids!
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