Being Interrupted

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    • #109934
      dmvaughn00
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      I was just wondering whether anyone else here has a pet peeve with being interrupted while talking or doing an activity you’re focused on. Today, I got really pissed off at someone who kept repeatedly interrupting me in a conversation and not letting me finish my thought. I find that I get extremely frustrated when I’m interrupted constantly in a conversation because I lose my train of thought or because I didn’t get to finish what I was saying. And when I get frustrated, it very quickly escalates to anger, and I just SNAP and go off on the person. I always feel terrible after I do that, and I usually try to apologize. I just hope I am not alone in this.

    • #110014
      busyblueeyes
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      Omg yes I can completely relate to this! My biggest pet peeve in particular is when someone interrupts me when I am trying to read, listen to music or watching something on the TV. It takes SO much effort for me to focus on whatever I’m doing that this irrational anger-monster just explodes when someone breaks my concentration. It gets particularly bad when someone who is a friend or a family member interrupts me because they KNOW how hard it is for me to concentrate, and on some level it makes me feel like they don’t care about the struggle I go through just to complete a simple task.

    • #110168
      Ranma
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      I get very irritated when someone talks over me or interrupts.
      When I really blow my stack is when I’m hyper focused on something important, and people who should know better, interrupt and bring everything to a screeching halt, and I’m the one who’s screeching screaming and yelling at the one who interrupted me.
      I feel bad afterward, only when it’s someone I know, sorry but you should never bother a perfect stranger when they are obviously busy and not acknowledging your presence.

      You are nowhere near alone in this area, I’m pretty sure this goes hand in hand with A.D.H.D.

    • #112615
      MJ1981
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      You’re speaking my language. This happens to me all the time and my rage knows no bounds.

    • #114100
      MJ1981
      Participant

      This sounds exactly like me. Exactly. I have the same problem because it takes so much effort to get my thought together in the first place that being forced to start over is exhausting.

    • #182412
      emdubb2112
      Participant

      Me too. My wife has about had it. During the COVID lockdown, and work-from home, I have become too much to handle and I’m faced with a potential divorce. I’ve decided to cut alcohol completely out of my life and revisit my current medications (Adderall and Intuniv) and consider going back to Wellbutrin. I feel as though stimulant medication makes it worse. Not having a place to work combined with two daughters (each with ADHD) both in virtual learning equates to non-stop interruptions. I am so ashamed at myself and will be desperately seeking a new therapist ASAP. I feel for you all experiencing this during these challenging times. It is a nightmare and is tearing my family apart.

    • #182762
      LadyK
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      Yeah, I don’t take being interrupted very well either. Especially if I’m kind of “in the zone” with an activity or something. It’s hard for me to shift focus when I’m engaged, and I can be guilty of lashing out at my family sometimes. I always apologize and make sure I explain that breaking concentration really upsets me, and that I’m sorry for overreacting.

      Now if we’re talking about interrupting conversation, then I would be more likely to be the one interrupting or speaking more than my fair share. I’m still working on improving that lol. I’ve always got a lot of ideas and thoughts to share, so I’m working on trying to hold myself back a little. I hate being rude.

    • #196760
      iack6963
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      I literally thought that I was the only one that happens to. Even today, I had both of my earbuds in and was blasting music as white noise to that I could rewrite this essay. I’m in the deep depths of my essay and my mom keeps yelling at me to come peek out the window at the people we hired to pick up sticks. They’re doing their work fine but you see I have earbuds and continue to bother me.What is the reason!

    • #196766
      Dr. Eric
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      I just assume that I am the one doing all of the interrupting and, that if I think other people are, that I chalk it up to lack of awareness on my part or that it is the only way others can get a word in…

    • #198645
      elbee577
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      Yes, indeed–me, too! While it bothers me less if a person interrupts a verbal conversation, (and I don’t like it), what bothers me more happens fairly often at home when I’m trying to get something routine (and boring) done. It takes me a lot of time and effort to just get “going” with routines of housekeeping, for example. I might do a little work (an hour, split up into smaller segments, with a break or two in the midst), and then I notice the clock and it’s early afternoon. I probably haven’t eaten a meal yet since arising around 8 or 9 AM (because I’m a very late “night owl”), so, I pause to get something to eat.

      After eating–and sitting down, and probably also turning on the TV–to give myself something to watch or think about while I “sit and eat”, I am probably going to stretch that sit-down into 30 minutes to an hour. That’s okay; I don’t stress about that. I can get up when the program is over and start back with the (boring, routine) tasks I had before.

      HOWEVER, if my husband happens to come home from his office at any time earlier than, say, 4:30 or 5:00, it totally throws me off. I can’t get back to what I was doing before, even after he changes clothes and leaves for the gym or a long outdoor walk–his “afternoon thing” to do, every day, as soon as he can get free for it. For my husband, his routines and “schedule” make perfect sense. For me, it FEELS like being verbally interrupted in the middle of a conversation. I feel “jolted” or something. Whatever I happen to be doing, when Husband walks in the door, I stop. I STOP, because I simply cannot concentrate at ALL on “doing the work” when someone is moving into, out of, or around the space I’m working in. It doesn’t help to move to some other room–that feels like being shut up into a closet or something. I have to stop, and (sometimes), I can’t get BACK to the thing (mentally focused on it) even after he leaves.

      The same thing is true if *I* have to leave the house in the middle of the day for an appointment or meeting or any “time sensitive” activitiy. I feel I’ve switched gears and can’t get back to the “working flow” mode when I return.

      When this “switch gears” thing happens, I simply give up with the previous task and effort–until late at night. Then, my focus returns. I tend to stay up REALLY late, because that seems to be one time when I can concentrate on some of the boring “need to be done” activities I normally can’t do during the daytime. There are no interruptions, unless I get unavoidably very tired and have to go to bed.

      The next day, it starts all over again! It’s not being interrupted in conversations, but feeling interrupted while trying to stay on-task that irritates and frustrates me the most!

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