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      carolvantuinen
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      I need some clarification about this article. It seems only the author may know the answer for sure but figured I would ask here first. Who, the person with ADHD or the non-ADHD partner, is the “You” in the sentence “You can change this pattern by using ADHD support strategies,….”? Here is the sentence in context:

      “9. The Parent-Child Dynamic. The most destructive pattern in an ADHD relationship is when one partner becomes the responsible “parent” figure and the other the irresponsible “child.” This is caused by the inconsistency inherent in untreated ADHD. Since the ADHD partner can’t be relied upon, the non-ADHD partner takes over, resulting in anger and frustration in both partners. Parenting a partner is never good. You can change this pattern by using ADHD support strategies, such as reminder systems and treatment. These help the ADHD partner become more reliable and regain his or her status as “partner.””

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      Penny Williams
      Keymaster

      The “you” is the non-ADHD partner, but really, both people need to use ADHD strategies to improve the relationship.

      Penny
      ADDitude Community Moderator, Author & Mentor on Parenting ADHD, Mom to teen w/ ADHD, LDs, and autism

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