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  • #114056

    Elap17
    Participant

    Hello!

    My biggest challenge with my ADHD
    is following through on techniques
    and skills for helping me live a
    “normal” life. I download the apps
    but forget to open them or I use them
    once and it didnt help so I end up
    deleting it. I make lists then forget
    to look at them, or get overwhelmed because
    I dont know what to do first, or I make a list
    for a few days, skip a day, and then one month
    passes and I haven’t written another list
    since, or I buy a calendar and forget to write
    on it. It’s not like I dont want to help myself,
    lord knows I wouldn’t wish this on anyone.
    But, its infuriating when I cant even do the
    things that are supposed to help me to get better.

    Please, if you have the same struggle, or have any
    helpful tips (I know not everyone is the same) I would really appreciate it. I am so lost and frustrated. I honestly hate myself alot of the time because I feel helpless and incompetent. I feel so so much shame and resentment and I am running out of options. Alot of the time I feel like no one understands me and I am alone in this. I was diagnosed at 23 and built up alot of unhelpful coping mechanisms and self hate over those undiagnosed years. Habits are hard to break especially for us ADHDers. Any advice is appreciated.

    Thank you

  • #115140

    fasterthannormal
    Participant

    Hi,

    I was and still am the same but I’m ever so slightly more organised through a couple of apps which I’ve found are perfect for ADHD. I learned about these after reading the book “faster than normal” the two apps I use daily are “productive” and “wunderlist”
    I check them constantly and because of the way they are set up they are fun, easy to use and they have awesome reminders set up so you don’t miss anything. Try them out and let me know!

  • #115355

    ADHDmomma
    Keymaster

    It’s imperative that you work through the shame and get past it. That constant feeling that you’re not good enough or you can’t do things is weighing you down and holding you in this negative space of struggle and misery.

    Silence Your Harshest Critic — Yourself

    ADHD in Exile: When the Shame of Living with a Disorder Is Worse Than the Disorder Itself

    Penny
    ADDitude Community Moderator, Parenting ADHD Trainer & Author, Mom to teen w/ ADHD, LDs, and autism

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