January 6, 2019 at 6:31 pm #106246h22k22-femaleParticipant
I took my print outs, books and 8 pages of writing to my GP and presented my diagnosis.
I’ve been seeing him for a year to work out what’s going on with me. He thinks it’s too much alcohol.
He said at my age there’s little point in getting an ADHD diagnosis as there is no way to medicate it and no cure.
I asked him to make the referral as my sons school have written to me about his lateness, he agreed.
The mental health team called me into clinic 5 weeks later. The nurse was 45 mins late.
She said ADHD is a physical condition where people move too much. She tapped her hand on the table repeatedly to demonstrate.
I told her she was wrong.
She listened and took notes for 40 mins and then I left. I’ve heard nothing since.
I’m not expecting much from them. I know Im going to have to drive this. So what support or medication do I ask for? Where do I start? I’m a 42 yr old female and have a 4yr old son.
I managed until I became a Mum.
Organising life for us both exposed my condition.
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January 7, 2019 at 9:16 am #106257Spaceboy 99Participant
You need to talk to different people. Insofar as it has a physical cause (insufficient dopamine production), it is a physical condition, but anyone who tells you that there’s no point getting medicated due to your age, or that ADHD is solely defined by excess movement clearly doesn’t know the first thing about ADHD, and thus is not qualified to dispense advice on the topic.
I’d suggest maybe going through your son’s school, or using some of the UK ADHD resources to find out what specialists there are in your area, or even out of your area if you’re able to travel.
In terms of medications, realistically your specialist should be the one to drive the process, but the types of meds you should be looking at have the brand names Ritalin, Adderall, Strattera, Vyvanse, and a few others. They’re either amphetamine medications or methylphenidate medications, depending on which one you take first.
As for support, support is supposed to be tailored to the individual, and the specific symptoms you experience. As you probably know from bimbling around on here, ADHD has three presentations- Hyperactive-impulsive, Inattentive-impulsive, or combined. Your specialist should help you determine which you are (by the sounds of it, you may be the inattentive type, which appears to be the most common in women), and the specific difficulties you face inform what support you need, with medication as a part of that.
I’d suggest starting with the adult self-reporting scale, which you can find here: https://www.google.com/imgres?imgurl=https%3A%2F%2Fs3.amazonaws.com%2Fcdn.freshdesk.com%2Fdata%2Fhelpdesk%2Fattachments%2Fproduction%2F3018251382%2Foriginal%2Fasrs_symptom_checklist.jpg%3F1460753137&imgrefurl=https%3A%2F%2Fhelp.junoemr.com%2Fsupport%2Fsolutions%2Farticles%2F3000051740-appendix-1-adult-adhd-self-report-scale-asrs-v1-1-symptom-checklist&tbnid=xeXUj2OA7OOfCM&vet=1&docid=fEZphJdTwRdChM&w=1129&h=1449&client=ms-android-sonymobile-rev1&ved=2ahUKEwi49rLAxtvfAhVwxIsKHfjMAZ4QMygAegQIARAo
When I had my first appointment in Norway, I’d written out all these questions, and given examples from my daily life, and my past, on how I experience each symptom. Then I translated it to Norwegian (I’m from the UK, too). These notes actually helped save me about 7 appointments for diagnosis purposes. I definitely recommend chasing up with your GP, or even switching GPs if your current one isn’t supporting you. Do you have any friends with adhd, or ADHD kids? If you do, try seeing their doctors and see if you have any better results. Otherwise, keep on at your GP, demand to see an actual specialist, even if you have to go out of area, and correct your GP and anyone other than a specialist (or even your specialist if need be) when they start spouting nonsense. There are dozens upon dozens of resources online, even on the NHSs OWN website. If they bothered to research even a little, they’d find out.
I wish you the best of luck. Any questions, just ask 🙂
January 9, 2019 at 10:23 am #106452JenMarBurParticipant
I was just diagnosed at almost 50 and it was totally worth it. I had to pay for the full assessment, but it was worth doing because it highlighted the problem areas for me. I am starting with a very low dosage of medication and everyone says they can see the change in me. The other treatment options will follow, but it is a great start.
My Physician told me that very few adults have it and most people grow out of it (Not True, we all just learn to cope better). Just because your physician is out of touch with current research, don’t let it discourage you from getting another opinion.
January 9, 2019 at 3:37 pm #106475Bluebook777Participant
I just signed up purely to post a reply.
I’m 39 and from the uk too.
Over my life since I was a teenage I have been to my GP about the way my brain works and doesn’t work. That I struggle with things.
No doctor took me serious until about 15 months ago when I went to the doctor because I was really struggling after being given a new job managing multiple people and projects. Managing myself had always been a problem but this was something I could no longer mask or hide.
This doctor simply told me she wanted to refer me to the adult autism and ADD specialists in Sheffield.
Within 3 months of assessments and medication tests I was on a steady dose of Atomoxetine which without exaggeration has changed my life.
My relationships with people are better, I’m able to be more naturally focused, my career is going better than ever. And none of these effects are overt, they’re very subtle but impac every aspect of my life.
My advice would be if your Gp can’t help you then see another gP until somebody takes you serious.
June 11, 2020 at 10:29 am #174093Mr_TomParticipant
You don’t need to see the doctor to begin making changes, I bought a few books about ADHD organising strategies before I was diagnosed, there’s also obviously loads of stuff on this site. Even with a diagnosis and maybe medication you may still need to use coping strategies, so why not start now 🙂
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