ADD affecting job

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  • #49519

    Ingrid
    Participant

    Hi,

    I’m a proof reader with ADD! A really tricky combination πŸ™

    I’ve been lucky enough to have worked in places where I could organise my workflow and focus deeply on one project at a time but now I’m in a company where I have no control over my workflow. People just bring me small amounts of paperwork with no context and rarely any template – very often it’s the same thing again and again with minor variations. It’s very boring and there’s not enough time to get into the flow so I lose concentration a lot.

    It’s very stressful and I try and deal with it by speeding up to create a burst of energy but this backfires as I’m likely to miss something.

    The office is a huge open plan space too with meetings happening quite near me and people playing music. There are no walled-off offices…so I’m fighting distraction and constant stimulus too.

    Any tips or ideas on how to deal with this? I can’t change workplaces at the moment.

    Thank you, Ingrid

  • #49606

    Sean Patrick Smith
    Participant

    I am an auditor with ADD. Welcome to my world!

    I live in a small cubicle farm at work. And, like you, literally EVERYTHING is a distraction.

    First, talk to your boss about moving you to a corner or facing your desk to the least distracting view. I moved from a high traffic area to another cube against the back wall.

    Second, how about noise cancelling headphones? Or what I use, stereo headphone connected to a cd/radio. I like classical music so it is a really good excuse to splurge on myself. I actually tried a white noise machine but that only cancelled some of the noise. A help but. . .

    It’s been six month and it has been pretty good. Now if I could just get that smelly woman to take a shower now and then, I would be in cubicle heaven.

    I hope this helps.

  • #49609

    alexiswilliamsinc
    Participant

    I really like Sean’s suggestions. A system that could add to them:
    – Headphones + Pandora. I gave in and paid for Pandora One and my focus stations are instrumentals – Roy Hargrove, Instrumental Dance, Itzhak Perlman. They help me tune words out from others.

    – New Help-Me-Help-You editing protocol. If colleagues submit paper edits to existing docs: “Please highlight your additions or memo your newest changes/deletions.” Online: “Please enable track changes and include a brief list of changes/deletions at the top of each document.”

    – A post-it availability policy. Talk with boss/coworkers about using colors or symbols to signal when you are interruptible or not. For example: Green at your cube means you can be available to chat about an edit. Red means leave a note or send an email.

    – Stopwatch. I bought a stopwatch that I turn on when I sit down. It gives helpful “time feedback” either for a whole workday or a specific task I’m working on. My phone has too many other distractions to serve this function.

    – Notepad. Write down each “most important” task and keep it beside you. If new tasks come in, add them and finish the current one.

    – Pomodoro timer. I use an app on my computer but there are several methods you can choose from. It reminds me to stop and take quick water, bathroom, or snack breaks to keep my brain balanced.

    Hope some of these help!

  • #49703

    ADHDmomma
    Keymaster

    Maybe create a “beat the clock” sort of scenario for yourself? That might create the stimulus you need to focus better. It needs to be more about short bursts of work, so you’re still being mindful of your work and not going so fast that you make mistakes.

    I like the idea of headphones too. Large, open rooms are hard for most people to work in, not just those with ADHD. And I love Ingrid’s suggestion of asking for a cubicle in the quietest location possible.

    Here are some more tips and strategies for getting things done at work:

    How to Get Work Done (Instead of Getting Distracted Again)

    Your Turn: “My best tip for doing a great job at work is…”

    “Mozart Helped Me Focus My ADHD Brain.”

    Penny
    ADDitude Community Moderator, Author & Mentor on Parenting ADHD, Mom to teen w/ ADHD, LDs, and autism

  • #49719

    Ingrid
    Participant

    Thanks all,

    Some lovely ideas there. However, I don’t have a cubicle- no-one does – it’s just a huge space with no partitions (think aeroplane concourse) and I can’t work while listening to music at all.
    I definitely will ask people to highlight the changes they’ve made (yes, hard copy only) – good idea. Everywhere else I’ve worked has done this as a matter of course.
    Does anyone know of noise-cancelling headphone which truly block out all sound? People talk around me (have fluid at-desk meetings) all the time…

    No proof reader sensitivity at all :)))))))

    Cheers, Ingrid

    • #49988

      ADHDmomma
      Keymaster

      Probably the most effective noise-cancelling headphones when you’re not playing music will be those used by construction workers to protect their hearing (or those used at firing ranges).

      In an open room work area, can you ask to be on the perimeter and facing a wall? That could be a lot better than being somewhere in the middle, or in heavily trafficked areas.

      Penny
      ADDitude Community Moderator, Author & Mentor on Parenting ADHD, Mom to teen w/ ADHD, LDs, and autism

  • #49994

    Ingrid
    Participant

    Thanks Penny.

    No, can’t move as in departmental sections but will check out the builders’ headphones πŸ™‚

    Rather cool idea!

  • #50161

    mandy
    Participant

    Hi Ingrid,

    I could have practically copied and pasted your letter to define my problems at work, I’m in an amazingly similar situation at the moment. Sorry for talking about myself at length below, but for me,’distraction and motivation’ are only a small part of the problem. I already know the tip/ have the app/ read the book. Maybe my story will resonate with you? I don’t have much in terms of solutions, but possibly some insight into the problem. Or, not!:) Keen to hear your thoughts.

    In my office (language school) I’m temporarily assigned to the curriculum department where they need me to proof read, format documents and organising content into booklets- a huge cut and paste job. (Teacher guide, student guide, hand out book). I also work in an open office, next to the door, and my back is to the middle of the room, with three people able to see my work station including my supervisor, and I’m not able to see if they’re watching me or not. I find this so unnerving. I am a language teacher normally.

    I was anxious about it for months leading up to the secondment because I’m great at being a teacher. I get energy from things most people find draining and vice versa. With ADHD, I actually get fuel from the moment to moment pressure of performing for my class and guiding them through the challenge of language learning, I get thrills from successfully helping students, especially struggling students, overcome their difficulties. They all need different types of support and I love scanning them to hone in on what it seems they need (more complexity/ summary, visual, aural, kinesthetic etc.) and then seeing them light up with awareness when I meet their needs.

    I don’t mind the nature of this new, boring work so much when I can get into the swing of it- now, with the curriculum books, I’ve developed a system for each one. I Pomodoro, break, stretch, tune out voices with music (classical). But like you, as soon as the next type of job comes along, I’m going to fall back into anxiety. And even if I do it right, it’s all consumingly exhausting! Where I often trip myself up is that I don’t understand instructions well. At best, I understand them randomly or I misunderstand them very well. (Make sense? Like a language student who accidentally mixes up the words for ‘me’ and ‘you’ for the first few days of the course, it’s then very difficult for them to unlearn that.) This is where I start to procrastinate. I can’t just follow a tip or a formula for this- I know what the issue is, being afraid of seeming incompetent or inattentive (ineffective, disinterested, unprofessional) so I just stare at it for too long until the work starts backing up, which applies pressure and I use this to just do the best I can, a good job but always with errors, because I never got the right information.

    And with the proofreading, it’s so soooo hard to concentrate when that is all you do all day, don’t you think? It’s tiring. ‘Take a break’ my boss says. I do, but when I come back, I’m even more loathe to dive back into the document because I’ve taken myself away from the task. (Getting started is the first hurdle for me.) If I work 8 hours a day, taking breaks regularly, I still end up exhausted. Way more exhausted than if I was teaching the same amount of time, or even designing resources for 12 hours a day! (I’ve done that, I’m super productive when I’m ‘in my zone’.)

    To sum up: difficulty grasping highly specific instructions, boredom doing the same thing endlessly, unease at possibly being watched/ surveilled all day long, as well as noise, distraction, work and gossip chatter, hallway meetings outside the door. I prefer to work on my lap top with at least privacy of my screen, I need this to concentrate. But because I’m only in the department temporarily, I don’t want to make a big deal of anything and I don’t want to disclose my ADHD.

    I lose sleep over it, I’m too exhausted to chat with friends and family at lunch or after work, so they haven’t heard from me after a while. I do maintain my ballet and jazz dance classes after work because it gives me a creative, physical challenge that I’m passionate about as a hobby. I go four days a week. But I’m doing it all on 3-7 hours sleep per night and am exhausted. I’m home today because last night was sub-three hours. I have other worries keeping me awake at night as well, but damn I miss my old job- the distraction and fun of being in the classroom, experimenting, or, if in front of the computer, preparing cool resources that will tap into the wide variety of brains in my class. If I was back there, teaching and designing posters would revive me, not suck me dry.

    I just feel like there is no ‘patch’ for this- it’s deeply psychological. Even if I do a good job, I have a heavy dose of the ‘imposter syndrome’ which revs my brain night and day, all the time except in dance class. My treating psychiatrist discusses this with me but ‘best of a bad situation’ is the only realistic aim for me. Do you find the same thing at all? Do you already have good systems that treat some symptoms only? I’ve been helped a lot by all the advice, apps, and commiserations with others with ADHD, but my real issue is that I can’t do boring work without privacy and extra unhurried time to internalise instructions so I can work independently (with Mozart.)

    I’m actually thinking about telling a senior manager who loves my creativity, passion and pragmatism (and wishes people, in her team would be more like that) because I think she’ll be supportive and discreet, and she has the political and diplomatic ability that I lack, to suggest the best way, with our particular work culture, to make my job more friendly to my needs.

    So, so sorry for the length and tangent of this reply. First time poster πŸ™‚

    I hope your work situation improves, you must be so tired!

    • #64002

      Ingrid
      Participant

      Hi Mandy,

      For some reason (hey could it be the ADD???) I missed your post. Big sympathy! It sounds very tricky and I too share the discomfort of being positioned exactly where everyone else can see what I’m doing but I can’t see them. Yuk. Lack of privacy is a whole extra stressor. I also get the “too tired to do anything else” feeling and I’m impressed that you still keep up your dance classes as I’ve dropped nearly all my creative and social activities – especially weekday ones – I just want to completely blank out when I go home. So I feel I’m wasting my life completely – another stressor. And – big, big hate – when many similar things land on my desk at once! Similar but not identical. YUK. I also can’t prioritise – I have to do each one when it lands – and people keep coming round to see if I’ve finished…:(((((

      Having read all the way down the thread, nodding my head and wanting to hug everybody better, I’ve come to the conclusion that the only thing we can do is dig an escape tunnel. It’s just not going to work for us. Fighting against so much pressure and distraction simply to get our normal jobs done is all wrong. Imagine being a surgeon with a hand tremor who has to concentrate on keeping their hand still all the way through an operation! Aren’t we basically doing the same thing?

      I haven’t yet found where my tunnel should lead but I’ve dug the first few spadefuls and am mulling quietly over its direction.

      I have to find Privacy. Peace. Space. Seclusion. Control. Meaning. Those are my top six but there are probably lots of sub-needs too. I have the inattentive brand rather than the hyperactivity so being able to quietly focus is paramount.

      I don’t know if this would work for everyone but I’m going to let myself think of this job as simply an enabler to an acceptable one. However, I recognise that it’s important to take back a bit of control so I’ll give myself a time limit and save like crazy. Otherwise I’ll be stuck hopelessly on this bumpy ride forever.

      Big hugs xxx

  • #50201

    tracee1010
    Participant

    I too have a VERY tedious job that requires Laser focus All day! As you may know some days I actually have that laser focus and get a ton of work done ! Other days are not so good. I am a 43-year-old mother of three, one teenager and two toddlers, I have worked in the mental health field for 20 years and luckily every job I have ever had has been extremely accommodating to me . This is my first corporate job where they are less compassionate. I took this job because it’s double my salary from my last job and I am the primary breadwinner as my husband is a stay at home dad for our two toddlers. The job is extremely demanding and takes everything in me to learn and complete projects because this is all something I’ve never done before. I actually enjoy the challenge however the ridiculous deadline dates and workload or impossible for anyone to accomplish which leaves me stressed out every day. I am able to Home office out of my moms house which is very nice as far as work environment goes on. However my husband does not understand why I come home from work every night completely exhausted unable to care for my kids and could easily go to sleep at 6 PM. I feel like I took an SAT test every day it’s so mentally exhausting that it wears my body out. I explained to him that for basically 8 to 10 hours a day my body is completely tense with concentration and it’s not till I get home… Tension relaxes and I’m immediately exhausted and falling asleep. I do not get up and take breaks like I should because as you know when I am focused on something if I get up and take a break every hour or so it breaks up all that concentration and I lose my place of what I’m doing.

    • This reply was modified 1 year, 5 months ago by  tracee1010.
    • #51225

      JP2017
      Participant

      This is to Tracee1010:
      My heart goes out to you as the mom of a toddler myself. I work in the evenings at a mental health program. I literally created an account just to comment to you. How is your situation now? The remark that you felt like you took an SAT test every day really struck me. It is admirable to work so hard to help support your family, but your little ones and teen also need you to be present for them. I can’t imagine the pressure you’re under. I just want to encourage you to take care of yourself, whatever that times to be able to enjoy being with your kids, since kids need their mom to be there. I had a very hardworking mom too. She was single and I understand why she had to do what she had to do, but I wished she could be rested and play with/talk with me- she was exhausted. Please take care of yourself even if it means you have to take a pay cut. I really really wish you the best, you are in a tough situation, and it sounds like you may be ready to make a necessary change of some kind in order to preserve your wellbeing and be there for your family as well.

  • #50276

    bmck89
    Participant

    ADHD & Your Legal Rights in the Workplace


    If your company has 15 or more employees, you have a right to reasonable accommodations in the workplace under the American with Disabilities Act (ADA). Even if your company has less than 15 employees, some states will still have protections for people with disabilities, you’ll just have to check. The article link above goes into more detail about it. Of course, if you want to discuss an accommodation you have in mind with your boss, you would need to disclose that you do have ADD.

    I am the bookkeeper, HR manager, marketing manager, backup dispatcher, AND receptionist for an air conditioning company in Texas. I sit at the reception desk in the middle of all the hustle and bustle. I have to help customers who come into the office, I have to answer the phone, and I have to dispatch service calls when the service dispatcher is out (she gets 3 weeks of vacation every year) or when she is already helping another customer on another phone line. To top it off, the warehouse guy has an office space behind me in the file room so he can register warranties and order parts and materials and he is constantly up and down going to the warehouse and coming back in. The door to the warehouse is about 30 feet behind me and for some reason, the warehouse guy doesn’t pick up his feet when he walks. Also, the only thing that separates my work area with the only bathroom downstairs is a supply closet and when you use the bathroom, everyone who is downstairs can hear you. In other words, every time someone uses the bathroom, I can hear everything! With all those distractions I still have to do the bookkeeping, HR management, and marketing. Most days are a total nightmare.

    Thankfully my boss is my dad. I have two computer screens so it really helps me to put an earbud in one ear and have some boring doc on Netflix going in the corner of one screen while I do my work on the other screen that is directly in front of me and also still have one ear open to listen for the phones. This was an issue at first because everyone walking around in the office can see my computer and what I’m doing and I got in trouble for “watching movies” when I’m supposed to be working. I had to explain to my dad that just because you see Bob Ross painting on one of my computer screens, it doesn’t mean I’m watching or paying attention to it. It’s just there so I don’t focus on all of those other noises that I hear all day. I had to help him understand that unless I do have that movie or show going on in the background, I actually can’t do my work. After I opened up to him about how this is so difficult for me, he allowed me to continue. Now that everyone sees that I am getting my work done and I am meeting my deadlines and I continue to keep myself organized, no one has an issue with it.

    I’m not suggesting you try Netflix to stay focused, you already said that you can’t listen to music and work. All I’m saying is maybe you should open up to your boss and either ask them for an accommodation you already have in mind or come up with something together that’s not an undue hardship on the company but is reasonable enough to do. The bottom line is they can’t fire you for not getting your work done if you’ve disclosed your disability and asked for help, so if they can find a way to accommodate you, your work will improve and that only benefits the company.

  • #50281

    Ingrid
    Participant

    Oh you poor thing – that’s terrible! A nightmare! πŸ™

    I’m in the UK so we have different workplace rules. The company I work for is actually very nice and the noise/confusion doesn’t affect anyone else as their jobs involve talking/meeting/buzzing about – they just don’t understand mine…

    I would never tell them about the ADD – it’s hardly spoken about in the UK – I’m sure they wouldn’t have hired me…

    I think I’m going with the builder’s noise mufflers and hope people think they’re really cool headphones πŸ™‚

    Thanks and good luck!

    Lorna

  • #50506

    Ahuasbdv
    Participant

    Hi,

    I work in a cubeless environment myself now. It can be very distracting with people having conversations or walking by (not even to see me). I rely on headphones to drown out the noise and use Google Play music for streaming (paid subscription). Also, I sometimes use an app called Cofftivity which adds ambient noise (like library sounds, coffee house) as well. I feel like sometimes music can be a distraction, but having the music plus real life sounds playing can really help me focus. I relied on it to concentrate when I completed my Masters Degree (lots of reading and writing papers).

    Hope this helps.

  • #51587

    alexiswilliamsinc
    Participant

    Replying again: I really like the folks in this thread! I also created an account just to make my original response.

    To address the need for regular breaks to recharge: Make use of a small notebook where you write down where you left off in your work and what one or two – VERY SIMPLE – next steps you can jump into when you get back. This was taught to me in grad school as “parking downhill.” Maybe you can call a friend to check in for a few minutes, helping with reconnection to loved ones, too. Ask them to kick you off the phone to go back to work at a certain time so you don’t get behind the schedule you set for yourself. Set a timer alarm as a backup.

    If you’re overwhelmed by what you wrote down prior to your break and you’re unwilling to start, the step was too complicated. The right chunk should be such a small pill to swallow that you can’t help but get started and take the medicine. This technique also works whenever you get stuck on a complicated series of tasks for a larger project.

    Being gentle with taking pomodoro breaks and restarting has helped me tremendously. I’d like to comment more on the uncanny similarities in our jobs – totally get the teaching dynamic! – but enough already. Hugs!

  • #63082

    JKHoopes7
    Participant

    I am a first-time poster as well. Newly diagnosed and working with a psychiatrist who was treating me originally for my bi-polar disorder. I am an executive assistant to a Dean of a college. First boss left 6 months ago with no reviews, no feedback, no expectations for my work. Now I have a very organized, driven boss who is managing us thru a consolidation with a bigger university. AND in 3.5 months I will have yet another boss.
    Current boss wrote a scathing performance review of how many mistakes I have made (spelling names wrong in emails etc) which basically point to my lack of preparedness and failure to understand and carry-out verbal instructions. Current boss indicates that she thinks I am a this point not “up to the task” of working for the new Dean of this bigger university division.
    I have been let go two other times in my life for similar instances and live with alot of shame over those times. And I have also job hopped my entire 30 years of working. Luckily the psychiatrist suggested that ADD may well be the problem. I have started on Vyvanse and am learning as much as possible about techniques for listening and writing down verbal instructions. Any help in that area would be much appreciated! Planners, Better note taking, naything
    I am a creative “people person” at my best. And sometimes I wonder if this is a completely wrong job for me.
    I am supposed to complete the ADA paperwork for our HR department but have no idea what kind of accomodations to ask for. Please help me!

    • #63390

      ADHDmomma
      Keymaster

      It is often suggested by ADHD experts that adults NOT disclose their ADHD at work:

      Could Disclosing My ADHD at Work Protect Me from Getting Fired?

      You are right that this type of job may not be the right fit for you.

      Is Your Job Right for You?

      It would be a good idea to start a new thread/discussion about this so you will get more responses.

      Penny
      ADDitude Community Moderator, Author & Mentor on Parenting ADHD, Mom to teen w/ ADHD, LDs, and autism

    • #63450

      mandy
      Participant

      JKHoopes 7:
      HI! I understand what you’re going through. I posted a while ago about having been moved out of my normal job which definitely does suit me (teaching) to being an admin fill-in for another department while I had no course to teach. It was only three months but it was difficult. I got through it but never felt comfortable, I can say that that type of job would not be right for me in the long term.

      Back in my normal job, I have not disclosed my ADHD to my boss, although I have disclosed clinical depression recently. She is a nice lady, caring, however not very well versed in mental health complexity. I blame the manager training program. It basically just allows HR to ‘tick a box’ and say that they’re keeping up with mental health policy guidelines or whatever. It’s just not as simple as ‘if you’re having a hard time, you have access to complimentary counselling sessions with the contracted company’. I feel like saying ‘Thanks- but that doesn’t really solve any of my problems, I’m still your worker to manage!’

      A few things that have made her more accomodating of my ‘uniqueness’ without stigmatising me are: taking the advice of my psychiatrist if I am not feeling well and always getting a medical certificate. Informing my supervisor that I am taking new medications that are causing some side effects, and disclosing a few of my more problem issues, such as forgetfulness/ foggy brain, without actually mentioning a ‘disorder’ (apart from depression.) These symptoms can be tied to a wide range of health conditions.

      For my experience at least, this has helped her to know how to deal with me, way better than any company cookie-cutter mental health policy training program for managers can. It also allows me to maintain a high level of privacy. When I’m well, I work hard, I work well. Medication has been especially helpful in boosting my energy and motivation and focus, so my results have improved as a result, even if there are still patches of difficulty, such as admin tasks. I point to my achievements, especially reminding myself, whenever I feel guilty about taking time off or not being able to do ‘simple’ things.

      As far as performance management goes, I’m covered because Ive disclosed non-specific health problems, produced medical certificates proving a) the existence of a health condition and b) that I’m taking steps to address it. Ticking all the HR boxes at least for here in Australia!

      I recently had a huge win in my performance appraisal where I fought to be graded higher than normal on account of the extra and higher level work I’ve been doing relative to my position. I thanked myself for keeping notes all year of my achievements, which I could rattle off. When we got into a disagreement, I just pointed to all the rating guidelines from the company’s intranet, highlighted the justifications, produced quantified examples of where I was achieving the stated ‘superior’ standard, and patiently waited for her to wade through all the print outs. She gave me the higher rating, no hard feelings, no ‘allowances’ for my mental health condition needed. I was so proud of myself. I was more than happy to knowledge that over the coming year I would work to get my personal admin up to the same standard as well. But this weakness of mine did not define my performance review, which was what I really needed.

      Keeping year-round note of my achievements and taking time to read company policy in relation to performance helped me escape a debilitating and subjective unfair assessment of my supervisor because ‘i don’t get my paperwork in on time’. There are real benefits to putting policy into practice and calmly asking your higher-ups to do the same. And patience. It took two weeks to win, but I just let the evidence speak for itself and put the onus on someone else to disprove what I was saying.

      I think the point I’m trying to make to you is that many supervisors either don’t understand or don’t believe mental health conditions are justification for negative performance reviews, but these days most companies have pretty good policy that you can use in your defence. In my case it was totally new to my supervisor, but that;s her job to be across that stuff. If guidelines exist to back you up, even if nobody has ever attempted to cite them before in a performance review, that’s what they’re there for.

      You obviously are a caring ‘people person’ and my heart goes out to you! I bet you care a lot about your work even if it’s not really the right job for you, you just want to have a few wins and be acknowledged for it. That’s not asking for much! I hope it goes well for you.

  • #64000

    zane
    Participant

    so I work in a factory
    im adhd and was diagnosed in my 30’s

    I find I forget stuff all the time. even the simple stuff.
    I also find I cant unlock the trigger to hyper focus(would be so handy in my line of work)
    my managers no im adhd yet don’t fully understand it, more like don’t understand it at all.
    I come to work every day worried if I still have a job cause of something iv forgotten.

    • #64003

      Ingrid
      Participant

      Hi Zane,

      It sounds really tough. Can you get out of that workplace and do something like security reception at night for a big company? So you have a peaceful night and just a few distractions – like deliveries – but you know when they’re coming so can get up the energy for them? Also, you’re behind the desk so you’re the one in control? Just saying it might be nicer.

      Best wishes, Ingrid.

  • #64072

    MYFIGHT
    Participant

    I took a new position to get out of a bad boss/work situation where my disability was ignored. I loved the work I did, and miss it terribly now, just not the work environment.

    My new job, had never been ‘officially’ filled, and had no guidelines or standards to follow or go off of. I’m stuck trying to ‘interpret’ the guidelines and am frustrated because no one understands why I can’t just ‘create the program and make it my own’. I don’t learn from reading from presentations or online. I need to see it in action and have something to go off. Once I understand it, I can recreate it, but otherwise, I’m lost.

    I have expressed my disability to my supervisor, to request reasonable accommodations (RA), only to be chastised for requesting too much and being compared to someone else that ‘just followed the guidelines and made it happen’. I struggle everyday with my disability and just wish I could crawl under my desk. I am searching for a doctor to finish my RA to my employer, but so far have been unsuccessful. I feel like a failure at work now, because I can’t ‘follow simple guidelines’ and stay focused on what tasks need to be completed until right before a deadline.

    I can’t wait to go home at night because there, I’m not ‘disabled’ and I can just be the kooky wife and mom without any judgement.

  • #73787

    shouks29
    Participant

    MYFIGHT: I feel your pain in so many ways. I have never disclosed my ADHD to an employer… I’ve never had to.. I’ve always been kind of given space in previous places because I always performed highly and got it done…Now I transferred within my company to a new location and they are way different. They monitor everything and watch my every move. For the first time in my professional life I was written up and told I was the weakest performer and but on probation… This has been such a blow to me I can’t even explain. It led me down the spiral of depression for months and I’m still struggling. The funniest thing is that the position is exactly the same as I have been doing for years just a different location. My manager is new and has never managed people before. They have no clue what the HR policy is and no desire to find out. I hate going to work everyday and can’t wait to leave. I requested my desk to be moved to a quieter area ( we have 6 open desks) and was told she would think about it. All I can say it to hand in there and remember that not everyone can understand or sympathize with what we have going on with ourselves and even more some management teams can’t handle someone that is not a cookie cutter of everyone else. For myself I have made the choice to find alternate employment – with the write up in my personal file any chances or relocation and promotion are done for me so it’s time to find a fit for me..Only you can decide the best course for yourself. Just know you are not alone and it’s hard being a female in the work place let alone one with a disability people don’t understand.

  • #73798

    jelly16
    Participant

    Hi Ingrid,

    I am an editor and proofreader too! πŸ™‚ But I work from home, which in some ways is easier. I like to edit in cafes, but I need silence for proofreading. Look into the headphones that others have recommended above? I also like to set timers when I work, as it helps kick me into action. I do ten-minute blocks, sometimes twenty. I find it helps with a) avoiding procrastination and b) maintaining concentration. I know I only have to do a short burst, and I keep a log of how many pages I get through in each block so that I can track my momentum.

    Hope you figure something out!

    J x

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    MYFIGHT
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    shouks29: Since I wrote my post, I did find a provider to request my RA. It took me until last month to get it submitted. I’m still waiting on the outcome of what they will be willing to provide.

    Regarding your work situation, it sounds horrifyingly similar to the job I left (that I still love). The supervisor I referred to in my post wrote me up (also my first time being written up EVER…) and in that write up…counseled me on my ADD disability! I ended up filing an EEO complaint against her (which is a whole ‘nother post…) for harassment because she knew about my disability and did nothing to assist me. I would suggest you find out who your EEO counselor is for your company and make an appointment to discuss not only your write up (to try to get it expunged) and to try to get the accommodations you sound like you need. You have rights too, and being a naΓ―ve supervisor doesn’t give her the right to walk all over you and your disability. The way I understand the law, you don’t have to disclose your disability to be discriminated against.

    I’m looking for work elsewhere too, but mostly because I miss my old work…

    I hope you can talk to your EEO counselor…I think you might be surprised at what you hear about discrimination against our disability.

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