Yes. I also feel very hurt and ruminate if something like this happens between me and people I care about.
Ever since discovering my ADHD, I’ve seen patterns where I can seem hyper-focused so much that I steam roll over people (without knowing it). I have also gotten into A LOT of trouble when I send emails. Usually, I say more than I need to say. I offend. Others take my tone in a way that wasn’t intended.
I am learning to do more conversations face-to-face. Especially if a lot of explaining seems necessary or if it is a touchy subject. Thankfully, those close to me now gently tell me if something sounded too harsh or they ask if I wanted to say x, y, or z. I am getting a little coaching from them as they see my true intentions when face-to-face.
Yes, I get angry at times. Yes, I say more than I need to, at times.
However, I am learning to be more mindful and much less wordy in emails.
Good luck on your journey!
We’re all on it.