We as a parent loves our kids, Just remember that we are not alone despite of what happening in our son. Give your best, support and love and understand his situation. Meds, sometimes not perfect, but for me , it will be a great help for them considering the side effects. if there is no choice, go with meds, but make sure it is a safe drug. Same with my son, he has a conduct disorder, he is disrespectful, he says he, wants me to die, saying some bullshit words, kicking me, punching me, shouting me at all. but despite of that, Ive understand his situation. he don’t want to be him like that. he is suffering, and he needs help. pray us to God. hope they will be ok……………