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Hello Menelaus,

Thanks for your long reply, I really appreciate it that you took the time to write to me.

My lady says she doesn’t want a relationship with anyone and just wants to be alone. Although that’s not what she said a couple of weeks ago when we were making all sorts of plans but I understand that right now that is her answer. It makes me ferl terrible as I’m still not sure what’s caused this sudden change. She also says she does want me in her and her son’s life but right now it just doesn’t feel like it. She is ignoring me and it really hurts tobe on the receiving end of it.

Is that possible that the past over two months was a lie and she would have said the exact same loving words to just anyone and would have been just as focused on anyone or not? I’ve never come across anyone with ADHD hence I am not sure whether this is quite normal behaviour in the begining of any relationship or it was a one off.

I love this lady and I wish things were different.