You have just described my son! I saw an article on a condition I had never heard of but immediately knew knew that was the correct diagnosis. He has itADHD, but also has Oppositional Defiance dis- Disororder. When you look that up, you will
Immediately breathe a sigh of relief, knowing that you are not imagining these symptoms. It is treatable. My son turns 18 on Saturday and will earn his eagle scout rank. He is quite a remarkable young man. There is hope, ask his doctor for help.