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anngower54
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As someone with ADHD, college is pure torture. You need to find his passion. I highly reccomend 1/2 to 3/4 load of classes so he has enough time to recoup between and get stuff done. I’d reccomend setting him up with a counselor who specializes in adhd generally they can point you to someone who can help him with his classes. The only way you’re going to get him to graduate is to make sure to appeal to his adhd. You need to remember we dont get motivated by the same things you do. Personally, competition and somehow making it interesting always drove me the most but it’s different for everyone. You sent him away and while 30 min isnt that far hes essentially on his own. He probably needs help, someone to make sure to set and keep a schedule, help him make sure he can set up his work/studying to get it done in a way that appeals to him. Hes never been on his own before and I feel like that’s a huge setup for failure.

For everyone else who’s kid doesn’t wanna go to classes, etc. Make them! Dont throw them into a full load to begin with but have them take general courses and either do a lot of research andhelp them or find specialists who can. We need a good kick in the ass sometimes to get stuff done. Just make sure they know you love them and want what’s best for them.