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I’m in the same boat as well. Me, my husband, and one of our 2 kids has ADHD. My choices are the same as yours when stuff needs to be done around the house: 1) live with it, 2) nag everyone else to do it (and then supervise to make sure it gets done), or 3) just give up and do it myself (which makes me resentful). The fact that the husband and kid with ADHD suffer from anxiety, too complicates matters — if I nag too much or the wrong way, I create more anxiety and that makes everything worse. My husband gets really excited when he finds a new strategy to help get things done (a new list app, a new timer system, etc.) but, in keeping with ADHD, he uses it faithfully for a week and then loses interest and we’re back where we started. My current strategy is to wait it out and trust that he’ll find some organizational strategy that works, and in the meantime just be happy that he’s trying instead of stewing about how I’m always nagging him…

For what it’s worth, you’re not alone. 🙂