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BelovedLeah
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This sounds like a situation where you both have some hard decisions to make.

She’s gonna have to decide how much compromising of her health she can tolerate in order to live with you. Sometimes asthma gets worse and worse, with more exposure to the allergen. Worsening can land people in the hospital. It could weaken her lungs to be with you and pets.

You will have to decide which you are most comfortable with: just her and possibly resenting that you couldn’t keep your pets, just your pets and always wondering if she was the one for you who got away, or knowing you’re asking her to sacrifice her health to live with you and pets.

Basically, it doesn’t sound to me like the two of you have lifestyles that are compatible. And she really should not compromise her health. Breathing is too important.