I feel your pain and frustration. I have an adult son who is just giving up/not doing much with his life at all. He does work, but he is in debt, started drinking and smoking, has little to do with his family, but still lives at home as he has no money to rent another place – and we fear what he would end up doing if he was out on his own.
I recently found this site and am thankful to hear of others who are in the same situation as my wife and I are in.
The change in our son from when he finished middle school (was on meds) until now (20 years old and refusing to take meds) is quite unbelievable, so thank you to other parents who share their frustrations and suggestions. It helps to know we are not alone in this struggle.