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Penny Williams

If you husband was raised with a super-authoritarian father, that could explain at least some of it. I’ve heard, “well, s/he can’t act like that” before as well. Parents who were raised themselves in a do-it-or-else environment are kind of programmed that way, and it takes a lot to undo it.

I would suggest books, or sitting down and drawing up a parenting plan together, but if he sees no need to change, he won’t be willing to work at it. If you could get him to family counseling or a parent training (like the Triple P program) that could be really helpful.

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