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Men in Western culture, especially in the US, tend to be fairly emotionally constipated. They will express any emotions in hidden ways and ensure they feel tough and in control in doing so (e.g., shows concern and love by judging you and trying to “toughen” you up as he toughed himself up). If I were to peal away the layers, I’d say your Dad is feeling insecure, like somehow any condition you have like ADHD is a failure on his part. Your brother is probably just feeding off his energy, because that’s what most guys do, follow the lead of the Alpha male.