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samsonrmw
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You’re obviously not a nasty person at all or you would not be worried about this. A really nasty person would have moved on to more nasty-ness. You are probably a very nice person and if you are a normal ADHD’r, you may care about others (feelings, goals, etc) more than your own, and you worry about what others think of you, your reputation, etc.

You have taken responsibility for what you did ( at least here) and you have acknowledged what caused the problem. (you are under stress already because of your family issues, and too many cocktails led to oversharing with your co-workers) You are probably overly sensitive to other peoples reactions to you so you may be imagining some of the strong reaction you feel you are receiving.

You have 2 options: 1.) don’t do anything at all and let it blow over or 2.) speak to the 2 people involved (the co-worker you chatted with and the guy you chatted about). Apologizing will help you forgive yourself and release you from beating yourself up more.

Here are 2 good articles on apologizing that may help
https://www.forbes.com/sites/amymorin/2016/04/14/study-reveals-the-6-key-components-of-an-effective-apology/#2ea53ad95be4
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-squeaky-wheel/201311/the-five-ingredients-effective-apology?eml