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Penny Williams
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ADHD is part of you, part of who you are, but it’s not the only part of you. There’s so much more that makes you who you are than just your ADHD.

I would challenge you to sit down and write a list of all the aspects of you. Your strengths, interests, talents, passions, endearing qualities, etc. Even the positives that come with ADHD (creativity? determination? persistence? energy? Etc…) Ask friends and family what they see as your strengths and positive qualities, too. It’s easier to “see” those things when they’re on paper right in front of you. Post it somewhere that you’ll see every day.

Every individual has strengths and weaknesses — neurotypical or not. We all have struggles. We all have to work to not see those negatives as defining who we are.

Check out these articles for further insights:

Life Is Too Short for Shame

Silence Your Harshest Critic — Yourself

Penny
ADDitude Community Moderator, Parenting ADHD Trainer & Author, Mom to teen w/ ADHD, LDs, and autism