Reply To: Bad behavior in school

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Penny Williams
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First, work on changing your mindset. You cannot change the symptoms of ADHD because that is the way the ADHD brain works. Medication can help a lot, but it’s not going to fully change symptoms.

Implement as much structure as you can. Post a family calendar. Have a 2-minute “meeting” with your kids each morning to let them know the day’s schedule and what to expect.

10 Ways to Build a Healthy Routine

Traditional parenting doesn’t work for kids with ADHD. All the punishment and taking things away in the world can’t change their brains. Instead, see the behavior as a symptom and figure out what’s causing the behavior. Only when you address the cause can you affect improvement. Ross Greene’s book, “Raising Human Beings” outlines this and a parenting approach that works really well for kids with ADHD.

When my son was that age, I made a game card of sorts for mornings and it made a HUGE improvement. Here’s exactly how we did it:

Wake Up and Smell the Calmness

Penny
ADDitude Community Moderator, Parenting ADHD Trainer & Author, Mom to teen w/ ADHD, LDs, and autism