First, work on changing your mindset. You cannot change the symptoms of ADHD because that is the way the ADHD brain works. Medication can help a lot, but it’s not going to fully change symptoms.
Implement as much structure as you can. Post a family calendar. Have a 2-minute “meeting” with your kids each morning to let them know the day’s schedule and what to expect.
Traditional parenting doesn’t work for kids with ADHD. All the punishment and taking things away in the world can’t change their brains. Instead, see the behavior as a symptom and figure out what’s causing the behavior. Only when you address the cause can you affect improvement. Ross Greene’s book, “Raising Human Beings” outlines this and a parenting approach that works really well for kids with ADHD.
When my son was that age, I made a game card of sorts for mornings and it made a HUGE improvement. Here’s exactly how we did it:
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