Former Vice President Joe Biden used to repeat his late father’s challenge to people he felt could be more generous in spirit by saying “Show me your budget and I’ll show you what your priorities are.” I don’t believe the senior Biden meant to say that not wanting to stretch your budget too far if you had pressing needs at home which didn’t allow for extra expenditures. But at the same time, he never would’ve allowed a growing tendency in this country which you described as not giving to extended family members, esp. if they lived in far off impoverished countries like the Phillippines. I remember my parents always getting publications from the Maryknollers and I know of local Protestant missionaries who still do what they can for their relatives living in Germany, esp. before the Wall came down. Believe me, the few dollars you can manage to send will mean so much to your wife and your marriage. Your wife’s joy when she finds out you’re willing to send the extra money will show her where she stands in your line of priorities and you won’t be sorry. As both Bidens would put it, I guarantee it.