Yes 100%, absolutely. I can not agree more. Lulu is correct.
Save yourself and your kids. They are what matter most. Its tough to hear but what is it inside of you that is staying with this man? The evidence is clear that he is not right and he is not going to change.
Take responsibility, take action, grow, and survive. Or doing nothing, deny the truth, and die. Those are choices.
(I should also say that I am the one in my relationship that has ADHD)